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  • Spanking is hitting so why do I like it?

    Spanking is hitting and can be abusive or not abusive, depending on the context. I'll provide examples of when it's abusive vs when it's not.

    Abusive:
    - Getting spanked (hit) with a belt by my father during my very early childhood years. Most of the time it was done out of frustration, anger and it would be done and over with. No child ever deserves getting hit with belts nor other household objects. I vowed to never spank my future child.

    - My father smacking my mother's bottom multiple times with his heavy sandals during an argument, while yelling ''shut up, shut up''. It was done in anger and there was no agreement whatsoever at all. She was crying and telling him to stop. One part of her bottom had purple bruises the next day. That was assault. You don't get to decide to hit your wife whenever you feel like just because she is saying wrong choice of words.

    Not abusive:
    Ironically, I get turned on by having the same scenerio of getting my bottom (the only difference is this would be consensual and not ever done in anger obviously) hit hard with the sandals or anything that will leave it with bruises for several days. My long-distance be knows about this fantasy of mine. Then in my imagination, do the cowgirl position (slow, passionate sex until it heals) with my sore, swollen bottom and be like ''You marked it good''. Then stare at the bruises in the mirror, rub them and be amazed. Strangely the bruises are my favorite part of this bottom spanking fantasy.
    Last edited by Dragonfly87; December 3rd, 2018, 03:27 PM.

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    Did you have a question that's not already answered by you? Why you like it is explained within your own post.
    "First off, welcome to the Relationship Forums, You'll come to understand that I don't pull any punches when giving my opinion/advice and I hope you're not so sensitive to what I see as the truth of the matter." Me!

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    • #3
      Originally posted by Dragonfly87 View Post
      Spanking is hitting and can be abusive or not abusive, depending on the context. I'll provide examples of when it's abusive vs when it's not.

      Abusive:
      - Getting spanked (hit) with a belt by my father during my very early childhood years. Most of the time it was done out of frustration, anger and it would be done and over with. No child ever deserves getting hit with belts nor other household objects. I vowed to never spank my future child.

      - My father smacking my mother's bottom multiple times with his heavy sandals during an argument, while yelling ''shut up, shut up''. It was done in anger and there was no agreement whatsoever at all. She was crying and telling him to stop. One part of her bottom had purple bruises the next day. That was assault. You don't get to decide to hit your wife whenever you feel like just because she is saying wrong choice of words.

      Not abusive:
      Ironically, I get turned on by having the same scenerio of getting my bottom (the only difference is this would be consensual and not ever done in anger obviously) hit hard with the sandals or anything that will leave it with bruises for several days. My long-distance be knows about this fantasy of mine. Then in my imagination, do the cowgirl position (slow, passionate sex until it heals) with my sore, swollen bottom and be like ''You marked it good''. Then stare at the bruises in the mirror, rub them and be amazed. Strangely the bruises are my favorite part of this bottom spanking fantasy.
      Love does no harm. Seek love. I pray you find this. Love.

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      • #4
        Originally posted by Breakfast and Coffee View Post

        Love does no harm. Seek love. I pray you find this. Love.
        I already have my bf that will play me my fantasy when we get married. Since I would be new to hardcore bottom spankings, he's going to start soft and slowly proceed to harder. I would like to carry this fantasy soon. It's for sexual release to be honest. While it hurts, at the same time it's a pleasure. It's not harmful in my fantasy. It's suppose to hurt but not create harm.

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        • #5
          Originally posted by Dragonfly87 View Post
          I already have my bf that will play me my fantasy when we get married. Since I would be new to hardcore bottom spankings, he's going to start soft and slowly proceed to harder. I would like to carry this fantasy soon. It's for sexual release to be honest. While it hurts, at the same time it's a pleasure. It's not harmful in my fantasy. It's suppose to hurt but not create harm.
          Don't listen to breakfast and coffee. He/she does not agree with pre-marital sex and thinks all things porn or sexual like fetishes and fantasies like your healthy ones are evil. I'm surprised he/she hasn't told you leave you boyfriend and have a child lol

          In my opinion, i think you have a healthy sexual appetite and there is nothing wrong in exploring that
          Last edited by Dazed & Confused; December 4th, 2018, 08:11 AM.

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          • #6
            Just your bottom? That's it? It sounds very mild.
            Why are you waiting for marriage for spankings?

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Rose Mosse View Post
              Just your bottom? That's it? It sounds very mild.
              Why are you waiting for marriage for spankings?
              It can also include the sitting spots and the very upper part of the thighs, which is up to 4-5 fingers below the butt cheeks.

              It's not that I'm waiting for marriage. I'm still in a long-distance relationship and he's going to marry me once he comes to my country.
              Last edited by Dragonfly87; December 4th, 2018, 01:50 PM.

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              • #8
                Oh okay. Have you both met each other in person before?

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Rose Mosse View Post
                  Oh okay. Have you both met each other in person before?
                  Yes, we met long ago and were dating in FL. I had to return to my country and we're trying to get back together.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Dragonfly87 View Post

                      Yes, we met long ago and were dating in FL. I had to return to my country and we're trying to get back together.
                      Maybe figure out your relationship first before worrying about being spanked. Unless you want to be spanked anyway regardless of your bf or where you end up. This shouldn't be an issue. There are plenty of people who engage in this (you're not unique and your fantasies are actually ...very, very low key). Actually I know for a fact there are big conventions in N America for spanking exclusively as I'm sure there are also in Europe. Don't ask me how I know about it. It came up in a conversation. I do not go to these conventions. Enjoy yourself and have fun exploring.

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by vinandjan View Post
                        people like different things. maybe you like BDSM . plenty of people buy bondage toys at http://vinandjan.com just saying
                        .... and there it is... I figured this was going to end up being a troll or an opportunity to advertise some kind of shit.
                        "First off, welcome to the Relationship Forums, You'll come to understand that I don't pull any punches when giving my opinion/advice and I hope you're not so sensitive to what I see as the truth of the matter." Me!

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by phasesofthemoon View Post

                          .... and there it is... I figured this was going to end up being a troll or an opportunity to advertise some kind of shit.
                          Nope, no troll. For the longest I used to think this was a weird fantasy and would never talk about it. I look forward into turning this fantasy into reality soon.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by vinandjan View Post
                            people like different things. maybe you like BDSM . plenty of people buy bondage toys at http://vinandjan.com just saying
                            I only like the spanking part of the BDSM. Not into the other things though.

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Dragonfly87 View Post
                              Nope, no troll. For the longest I used to think this was a weird fantasy and would never talk about it. I look forward into turning this fantasy into reality soon.
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