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    Terr3

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    Joined: 03/08/2018 15:21
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    Several years ago I discovered from internet history that my wife of 20 years had searched for educational type porn while I was away on business. This happened several times over a couple years. Also I found out she watched a mainstream R rated movie with fairly explicit sexual content. Secretly knowing this I suggested we watch a sexy R rated movie together. I noticed that she became very aroused watching this and sex afterwards was best ever. After several months I became brave enough to suggest we watch some instructional porn both online and from the Sinclair Better Sex company. She didn’t object. Certain things we watched together got her very aroused. We did this maybe 6 or 8 times over a few months. We enjoyed being naughty together. Both of us were virgins when we married and had not previously been into explicit type porn. So, this was very taboo. I honestly believe we didn’t lust after anyone in the videos. I know I certainly didn’t and we saw plenty of naked women (and men). It was just something we enjoyed together maybe once a week or so for fun and during foreplay. I think she began to feel guilty though. She is very conservative outside the bedroom and not really one to initiate anything kinky. She said she felt a little weird seeing other penises because mine was the only one she had seen prior to this. (Now something special we had together was tainted I guess.) Even though some of the men were quite endowed, It didn’t bother me as I’m self confident and I know and trust my wife 100%. It was just erotic and interesting to watch things together, especially the videos with real couples and normal people. Anyhow, we stopped and that has been a couple years ago. I wanted to prove to her that porn wasn’t necessary. We still have a very active and fulfilling sex life. However, I occasionally would like us to spice it up again and watch some “educational” or female friendly porn and videos we saw before. I think she might also, but I’m just unsure. As aroused as she got in the past I know for a fact she enjoyed it, at least at first. Sometimes when I talk about it (usually when we are hanging out drinking) she seems open to the idea. However, when I come right out and suggest we do it again soon she says “maybe” or “we’ll see”. Can some of the ladies here maybe help me interpret what is going on or give me advice? I know from years of sex with my wife that she is open to kinky things but never suggests it. I’m a little shy to do it, but I don’t want want us to miss out on any sexy fun together. And...I don’t want to offend my wife. I love her very much.

  • #2
    Just get it out and do her. She likely doesn't want to be asked. If you just bring it out, if she really doesn't want to watch she'll tell you. If you offend her then apologize and tell her to please be clear and not say "maybe" if she is really against something so that you don't make the same mistake again.

    "First off, welcome to the Relationship Forums, You'll come to understand that I don't pull any punches when giving my opinion/advice and I hope you're not so sensitive to what I see as the truth of the matter." Me!

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    • #3
      Ok thanks. Sounds like common sense good advice.

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      • #4
        Good luck... Let us know how it goes.
        "First off, welcome to the Relationship Forums, You'll come to understand that I don't pull any punches when giving my opinion/advice and I hope you're not so sensitive to what I see as the truth of the matter." Me!

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        • #5
          So far, so good. She’s definitely open to the idea as long as it doesn’t get too weird. She said she doesn’t like the vulgar porn (where people are just going at it like dogs). I also know she wants only heterosexual activity and prefers to avoid the masturbation scenes when we are together. Sounds like she might prefer something with real life couples and something romantic with plot or maybe something instructional. Maybe something with softer lighting too. Anybody have any viewing suggestions?

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          • #6
            Well, I ordered a few videos from the Sinclair Institute (Better Sex Guide) and we watched together. Oh shit! She absolutely loved them. After sitting and having a few drinks together, cuddling and watching videos she was soaking wet. Home run for me!

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            • #7
              ... ...
              "First off, welcome to the Relationship Forums, You'll come to understand that I don't pull any punches when giving my opinion/advice and I hope you're not so sensitive to what I see as the truth of the matter." Me!

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              • #8
                Both come up with a list of sex toys and agree they are all acceptable. Then on certain "fun" nights pull a name out of a hat that that will be your "fun thing" of the night. I've never done that but if things get boring that's on my list of things to try.

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