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    Heya,

    So I'll just jump right into it, couldn't find any help in old threads or w/e..

    Been with this girl for 6 months now, and not once received oral. We have talked about it a few times and she has never given it to her ex's, just some mental block she has or whatever.
    "I don't know how to do it" is something I hear a lot, which I understand, but once in a while I just hint or playfully put it in front of her face etc, as a joke. Other times I just ask it, but it's always the same answer. However, I am very sure she wants to, but it's just some kind of thing in her head that blocks it. She just can't do it.

    One time I tried a different approach and we did some 69, still no mouth. Some other time during sex I asked her again, she agreed and when we tried it, she just cried, she couldn't do it. Made me feel like an asshole. We stopped and talked about it, she feels she's not giving me enough sexual pleasure, what caused her to cry.

    Anyways, some days I'm fine with it, other days I just need it. Like today. For some it's not that important, but for me it really is.

    The reason I know that's she really has trouble with it, is because she has no trouble swallowing or w/e.

    I'm perfectly clean down there, I give her oral almost every time we have sex.

    I don't know how to approach it anymore. Anyone here has experience (hopefully not, lol) with this? Don't give me crap like dump her etc, because I know she wants to do it, it's something else. It's all new to her and just a too big of a wall to break at the moment for her.

    Any tips?

    (I'm 29, she's 25)

  • #2
    Well, if I can't tell you to dump her and find a girl that like to give head then I'll tell you this: Maybe have some guy in and you suck his cock and show her how to do it?

    "First off, welcome to the Relationship Forums, You'll come to understand that I don't pull any punches when giving my opinion/advice and I hope you're not so sensitive to what I see as the truth of the matter." Me!

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    • #3
      I'm sure theres some porn you could find easily enough to give her a tutorial. I wouldnt suggest any brutal throat fucking gagging kind though that may scare her
      There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem, the more likely one will treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity. People who do not experience self-love have little or no capacity to love others.

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      • #4
        If your screenname is any indication, perhaps you're just not the right fit.

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        • #5
          Originally posted by phasesofthemoon View Post
          Well, if I can't tell you to dump her and find a girl that like to give head then I'll tell you this: Maybe have some guy in and you suck his cock and show her how to do it?
          Lol, I'll take your advice into deep consideration.

          Originally posted by foh4k View Post
          I'm sure theres some porn you could find easily enough to give her a tutorial. I wouldnt suggest any brutal throat fucking gagging kind though that may scare her
          Good advice! But unfortunately already tried that. I'll give it another go, didn't try with a tutorial yet.

          Originally posted by Rose Mosse View Post
          If your screenname is any indication, perhaps you're just not the right fit.
          Well, that is something she does say sometimes. I'm not small downstairs, and she isn't that big. Nevertheless, by my calculation it shouldn't be any problem.

          Thanks anyways for the advices!

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          • #6
            Originally posted by HughMungus View Post

            Lol, I'll take your advice into deep consideration.
            Deep is good, Hugh!



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