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    Yesterday I was using my boyfriend's phone to Google something, I put it the word pink and a link to transsexual (chicks with penises) came up in his history. I asked him about it and he denied it and said he doesn't know how it got there. We have been together for almost three years, we have sex maybe twice a week usually at my urging. We have got into heated discussions about the lack of sex. I found a sock last month that he was clearly jacking off with, I assumed it was girl/guy porn. Up until now I thought he was the love of my life, he's sweet, caring, will do anything for me and the sex is phenomenal. Well, now I don't know if he's gay or just likes that type of porn. It's bothering me and I'm so confused....please help!

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    What ended up being the reason for the lack of sex? It seems like he is not getting something in the relationship that he gets with his porn. He is also probably addicted to porn. That is something he will have to overcome. Keep communicating in a positive way and see where that leads you.

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    • #3
      Originally posted by Blaze View Post
      It seems like he is not getting something in the relationship that he gets with his porn. He is also probably addicted to porn.
      Hmm. I'm not sure I can jump to this conclusion just yet.

      If this guy is choosing to watch porn/masturbate in stead of having sex with his partner, then you could argue that he has a porn addiction/problem, but we're not sure of that yet. OP, do you know if your BF would rather jerk off than have sex with you? Or how often he masturbates? Finding one wank sock doesn't really prove much.

      Masturbation and a healthy sex life can co-exist. Masturbation/porn can sometimes be a way for people to explore fantasies that they know they will never act on in real life (transsexuals for example). Provided that the porn and masturbation aren't having a negative effect on the relationship then I don't see why it is an issue.

      We're not sure how much of an impact it is having yet. All we know is that the OP is upset about having found one incidence of transsexual porn on her partner's phone.

      It may well be completely innocent, and something that he just looked at out of non-sexual curiosity. I feel like he could have just said that if that was the case. Who knows, hard to determine anything from the short response that the BF gave to the OP. Perhaps more insight would help.


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      • #4
        Originally posted by Blaze View Post
        What ended up being the reason for the lack of sex? It seems like he is not getting something in the relationship that he gets with his porn. He is also probably addicted to porn. That is something he will have to overcome. Keep communicating in a positive way and see where that leads you.
        There is absolutely NOTHING in the opening post to make you assume that he's addicted to porn. Nothing!

        Op: What exactly is your issue? Unless you can give us a reason why you are now at a point where you need to leave him then you are assuming (just like Blaze is) and you're getting on a run-away-train in your own head as to being somehow wronged by him.

        What was your relationship like in general and before a possible google anticipation link came up in your "pink' search?

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        • #5
          Originally posted by BButler View Post
          Yesterday I was using my boyfriend's phone to Google something, I put it the word pink and a link to transsexual (chicks with penises) came up in his history. I asked him about it and he denied it and said he doesn't know how it got there. We have been together for almost three years, we have sex maybe twice a week usually at my urging. We have got into heated discussions about the lack of sex. I found a sock last month that he was clearly jacking off with, I assumed it was girl/guy porn. Up until now I thought he was the love of my life, he's sweet, caring, will do anything for me and the sex is phenomenal. Well, now I don't know if he's gay or just likes that type of porn. It's bothering me and I'm so confused....please help!
          I can feel that he's hiding something from you. Find that out and discuss this with him. Postive or negative you should know it.

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          • #6
            The sock is a dead give away!

            The lack of sex seems to be the only issue. I guess he's getting satisfied spanking it to chicks with penises. Regardless of what he's getting his jollies to, the fact that that isn't you is the problem.

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            • #7
              Can anything be done to stop these people from posting surveys?
              "What lips my lips have kissed and where and why I have forgotten." ~Edna St. Vincent Millay

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