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    what do you all think about the idea? my husband asked me if i wanted to, i said not really, cause i don't see the appeal, so he said he didn't either. i assumed he did, otherwise why would he bring it up. so i guess im wondering, how many people actually do it? and what effect does it have on sexual life? i'm kinda afraid that the further you go with the kinky stuff, the more you will need eventually to get off, and i don't want to take that route, especially when i'm still satisfied with the way it is now. beyond that, i guess it made me worry that he is bored with our sex life or with me if he wants to do it. is that unreasonable? also, even though im not unattractive i would probably feel insecure if he kept looking at other women while having sex with me. i'm a really jealous person and it's probably not something i would be comfortable with at all. do my concerns ring true or am i being paranoid? should i give it a try anyway and see if i change my mind? all kinds of opinions welcome

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    Re: watching porn together

    Your being paranoid. I use it all the time when in relationships. Not that i cant get off any other way but because it just adds to the atmosphere. SOmetimes it even gets one or both more turned on. Its really not that big a deal. Experiancing and trying new things should not be a fear. It does not affect the ability to get off by trying new things. Trying new things can make the experiance even better and even the connection. Porn is the most basic of basics when it comes to trying something new. It is more common than you think. If your comfortable with it, try it. If not, dont. SImple.
    “If you keep doing what you’ve always done, youll keep on being what you’ve always been. Nothing changes unless you make it change”

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    • #3
      Re: watching porn together

      I'd say don't knock it until you've tried it. You never know, you may end up liking it as much as he does. I understand what you mean by not wanting to start down a path that eventually leads to more and more kink but I don't think it always has to work that way. I think if you're open to experimenting with him, he'll become even closer to you for it.

      Also, I know it's probably not really my business to say so but I'd say to try not to feel so insecure or jealous in general. There's tons of attractive men and women all over the world and if he chose to marry you in particular, then he must have done so for at least a handful of good reasons. I doubt that after seeing a porno with you he'd go and run off with a pornstar or something. But it's your call. If you're not comfortable with it, you certainly don't have to do it.

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      • #4
        Re: watching porn together

        thanks for the replies. i do know i have to work on me being more uninhibited and secure. i don't want to shut down things he suggests cause i want to be on board with his interests. so maybe i'll give it a try at some point

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        • #5
          Re: watching porn together

          Beautiful women, and porn, are like butterflies to men. They catch our attention for a short period of time then we forget about them. I couldn't tell you what color hair the last hot chick I saw had, and it was probably sometime today. Ive watched porn recently, but I couldnt describe any feature of the girl in it, or what positions they were doing because I have already completly forgot. Porn gets us horny, but not for the people in the video, they get us horny for you.

          Something to keep in mind....
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          • #6
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            thanks Dagwood, that insight actually helps a lot

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            • #7
              Re: watching porn together

              I've done it before. It's hard to concentrate on porn while you're trying to focus on gettin' it on with your sweetie. Both of us end up not watching it when we get down to business. Background noise usually makes us giggle. Sometimes it gives us some ideas for techniques to try. My man and I haven't found a way to seriously integrate the porn into our sex life... which I think is a good thing. We sometimes just put it on and watch it together. It's kind of fun/funny. Maybe we're just weird, but that's how we've done it, and I've never felt that he doesn't find me attractive or that he'd prefer those women over me.

              I suppose that it does help that I'm the one that suggested the idea in my relationship.
              "Every action of our lives touches on some chord that will vibrate in eternity" ~ Edwin Hubbel Chapin

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              • #8
                Re: watching porn together

                I actually have never watched porn with a girlfriend, though I would have liked to. I probably would have used it as foreplay though, not to watch during actual sex. I would never focus my eyes on porn during sex, I personally find that weird.
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                • #9
                  Re: watching porn together

                  Basically you watch it to get horny. start playing with each other than once your about to have sex or foreplay you dont even watch it anymore. Its just there for starters and then forgotten.
                  “If you keep doing what you’ve always done, youll keep on being what you’ve always been. Nothing changes unless you make it change”

                  "My name isn't Willy Wonka , I don't sugar coat shit."

                  "Handle every situation like a dog. If you cant eat it or chew it. Pee on it and walk away"

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                  • #10
                    Re: watching porn together

                    When I first found out my husband was watching porn, I felt super threatend but then I decided to see what it was all about. So on my own I watched some stuff and it's not what you'd think. It's not all super models doing things you can't. It's just exciting and can get you going real quick. So if you are worried just watch some sometime by yourself and make up your mind about how you feel about it before you try and work out the whole situation with him too.

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