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  • Partner has a low libido? Start here!

    Thanks Deidre for compiling this list.

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    Am I the only woman who finds erotica useful for low libido?

    I'm interested to know if any of the guys who feel they are not getting enough sex have tried introducing erotica into the relationship.

    I am a female with less need for sex than my partner - fairly sure that is the norm but still not great for the male.

    Over the 20 plus years we have been together my partner and i have settled in a system that seems to keep everyone happy. He uses self service whenever he wants - youporn.com on an iPad is fab!

    For the times we want to have sex together, or when i am going for self service we have found a vibrator and erotica works great. The erotica gets my brain aroused and the vibrator ensures the body follows suit.

    I've found hearing about someone else having sex gets me excited and wants me to want to do it to. The key is to have a bit of a warm up phase, the story shouldn't get straight into the hard out sex - us women need to know if these people (who normally didn't previously didn't know each other) ended up getting it on!

    Literotica.com has a good range of stories including long form ones suitable for women. I am still looking for a place to download good quality erotica audio - can anyone recommend one?

    So maybe you guys with partners with low interest in sex could try introducing erotica and see if it helps, I know it might not go down well with the women if you suggest she tries it but if she really does want to help the situation she could well give it a go.

    I find if I read a story I'm must keener on engaging with my partner if he suggests it once my mind is aroused.

    Will be good to know if anyone has found erotica useful for them.

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      Most guy would tell you after marriage sex is 1 or 2 a months if we are lucky.
      Women don't understand or don't see that man need sex in a relation not just for the sex itself but to feel needed wanted, give you guy sex every time make him feel like a king and he would worship the ground you walk on. Dr Laura the radio was right on, I wish women can see it, instead of thinking they think we are all perv

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        Re: Partner has a low libido? Start here!

        I love literotica. I usually read it when sex is not happening with my man.

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          Partner has a low libido Start here

          This is a recognition you deserve when you are a charming person like me.
          I did not even look for other girls after this one, she was mine that night and hopefully even now.


          It is not easy for Asian guys in Sweden but some do have more luck than other

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          • #6
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            I think fantasy talk can help, I'd look at more organic and natural ways before ever turning to drugs to pep me up.
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              Ugh....low libido...talk about the story of my ex wife...we never had sex and she rejected me ALL the time. She just isnt a sex person, its how she has always been. I dont mean to sound selfish but being with a woman who has no libido or interest in sex is just going to cause issues and I for one wont be with another woman like that. I like to feel desired, wanted...to feel like my partner is attracted to me and desires me. Not like its some chore because they are never in the mood and wouldnt get excited if brad pitt was standing naked in front of them.....Its awful for how you feel as a person and it can really hurt. Thats what alot of women refusers dont understand. Its not about "getting some" or "getting off" its about feeling that connection and feeling like your partner loves you and wants you...when you only have sex with your spouse once a month like I did it absolutely tears that aspect of your relationship apart.

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                I totally hear Paramedic - for guys more so, it is a way to feel connected but women usually need an emotional connection too. Both sexual attraction and emotional connectedness are nice but if not both, one or the other. I have low libido with my husband because doesn't provide either. Now if he looked like Brad Pitt OR was there for me and I felt it, the physical stuff wouldn't matter. One or the other, that's what I think anyway.

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                • #9
                  Re: Partner has a low libido? Start here!

                  Read "The Sexless Marriage Cure" by Michael Andrews, available on Amazon Kindle - great book!

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                  • #10
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                    Diet is very important. Your penis is what you eat. Just like the rest of your body. Tongkat Ali, maca, walnuts, chinese dodder, stinging nettle, saw palmetto are are great things to add to your diet. Also vitamin b6 and some amino acids.

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                      I'd much rather my penis be what she eat
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                      • #12
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                        I know a lot of times various medications you might take can contribute to a low libido. I was once taking a prescription medicine for several months, and my sex drive dipped quite a lot. Doctors don't always seem to tell you if this is a side effect or not, though.

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                        • #13
                          Re: Partner has a low libido? Start here!

                          Low libido means, less production of sex hormones in the body i.e Testosterone. there are various factors which affect the male low libido, it may be physical or psychological.

                          Best way to deal with low libido always eat healthy diet, "for this you can use Google" there are varieties of foods which can naturally raise your libido. 2nd one is exercises "physical workout is more effective way to raise the production of sex hormones.
                          sleep well:- most of the peoples don't know that our body released the more sex hormones during the night time as compare to day, so always take healthy sleep.
                          there are different types of natural remedies which enhance the sexual desire as well as libido, you can also try those but before taking any decision always consult with the physician.

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                          • #14
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                            Lack of sexual desire is annoying, because it can interfere with relationships and your sex life in general. Well, especially more in the relationships that includes regular sex.

                            Can being underweight have an effect on your libido? I am very thin and while I do have occasional sexual desire, for the most part, I find I can never get an erection. Sometimes I've had one, but then it's been lost too quickly and made the sex not that interesting. I tried to have sex with a previous girlfriend, but all the stress with her was off putting. I've had sex with escorts who helped me get erect, but there was only once for twice I really enjoyed myself and that was when I did longer bookings. The other times, they were kind of rushing me and I was already quite anxious as it was, so then I couldn't get erect properly and they moan that I'm not fucking them properly. I mean, we're not all built like Ron Jeremy. But I guess they just want your money and won't care either way.

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                              Re: Partner has a low libido? Start here!

                              If you'd like advice about it CC I suggest starting your own thread for help.
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