Hi all.
I've been with my girlfried for a few years now. There a few things that I dont like about our relationship, mostly relating to the fact that i find her quite controlling. Its got to the point where i think we should break up. We don't really argue and i think she will be a bit devestated. The trouble i am having his that i feel very unsure about everything. Usually what happens is i make the decision to break up and i say to myself i will do it this weekend and then i suddenly feel like a weight is off my shoulders. But when i get to the weekend, the idea of breaking up just seems too sad as i do care about her a lot. To cause so much heartbreak (our lives are very intertwined) when my life is really not that bad just seems too much.
Then i feel depressed about staying in the relationship and then the cycle repeats. I have been in this cycle for a long time now. I think part of the problem is my indecision. I know no one can help me with this and i have to either decide to leave or decide to stay, but i just can't seem to make the decision to stay or really want to. I have phases of being so sure i want to leave but i also have times where i am not sure. What makes me want to leave overall is that even when i feel good about the relationship i don't think i want to be with her forever. I feel like there are other things i want to do and i can't see myself doing them with her. I think i have felt like that for a long time.
I guess i just wonder if anyone else has been in this sort of situation.
I've been with my girlfried for a few years now. There a few things that I dont like about our relationship, mostly relating to the fact that i find her quite controlling. Its got to the point where i think we should break up. We don't really argue and i think she will be a bit devestated. The trouble i am having his that i feel very unsure about everything. Usually what happens is i make the decision to break up and i say to myself i will do it this weekend and then i suddenly feel like a weight is off my shoulders. But when i get to the weekend, the idea of breaking up just seems too sad as i do care about her a lot. To cause so much heartbreak (our lives are very intertwined) when my life is really not that bad just seems too much.
Then i feel depressed about staying in the relationship and then the cycle repeats. I have been in this cycle for a long time now. I think part of the problem is my indecision. I know no one can help me with this and i have to either decide to leave or decide to stay, but i just can't seem to make the decision to stay or really want to. I have phases of being so sure i want to leave but i also have times where i am not sure. What makes me want to leave overall is that even when i feel good about the relationship i don't think i want to be with her forever. I feel like there are other things i want to do and i can't see myself doing them with her. I think i have felt like that for a long time.
I guess i just wonder if anyone else has been in this sort of situation.
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