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  • When did you realize you were in love?

    There is a forum asking how long you have been with your other, but about how long into the relationship were you when you realized you were falling/in love with them?

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    Re: When did you realize you were in love?

    Two months. In a completely different relationship, though with the same man/boy, 9 years ago.

    I didn't believe it myself, so I didn't say anything until after four months.

    He broke up with me shortly thereafter and we were the most platonic friends you've ever seen. I still loved him, but I also wanted him to be happy so I wasn't sitting around moping wishing he'd love me back or anything and I was genuinely very happy for him when he started dating someone else. About three years later he'd come around to my way of thinking and told me he loved me. We started dating soon after and have been married for three years now.

    So, for me, T-3 years. For him T-2 months. T being the time we actually became involved as the couple we now are.

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    • #3
      Re: When did you realize you were in love?

      With my longest relationship, I knew the person for almost a year before getting together with them and I had already fallen in love by the time we got into a relationship. I suppose it took about four months after I started to spend significant amounts of time with her.
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      • #4
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        Weird as it is, almost instantly I knew she was special, a week or so later I was madly in love (keep in mind we spent almost the entire week together talking, and I really mean all week, conversations of 8 hours on end and longer..) I know this is short and alot of people are probably going to think that can't be after a week, but that's how it is (and yes I have been in enough relationships before, but never fell in love this fast, it surprised me too...)

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        • #5
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          In the last 2 relationships, it has always been a mutual period of time. Which was 3 months. Strangely enough, when I wanted to confess my feelings in both instances, the girl felt the same back at that same time

          Im not sure if there's a transition which happens between falling for someone then being in love. Its always been quite hazy for me.

          I was seeing this girl a couple of months ago and we spent so much time talking on the phone, msn, exchanging emails and staying up most nights to talk to each other. It didnt work out, but looking back I see that I was falling for her, and if it had carried on, I would have probably have fallen in love with her. So, I think its quite natural to feel in love after a few weeks if its been intense contact. Love has a different meaning for most people.

          Also Deidre: Thats one of the sweetest love stories Ive heard. Glad that it worked out that way
          I wont ever be distracted by the ones who want me to fail

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          • #6
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            He had been my best friend for about a year before we started dating. We both transfered to the same university mid-year and created a bond based on neither of us having any friends for miles and miles and miles..... It was a mutual camaraderie.

            At the time, I was dating this other boy and was starting to realize that the "love" that I had for him was not of the unconditional kind. I was becoming bored and confused and frequently fantasized about starting a new life someplace else with someone new.

            So, about a year after meeting this new man, I let my guard down and let things happen. I had a deep love for him as a friend for about a year. But after our relationship changed into the romantic kind, it took somewhere between 2 and 4 months to understand that this love was different. He told me that he loved me in a matter of weeks after I concluded that I did in fact love him. We have since been together for 5 years.

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            • #7
              Re: When did you realize you were in love?

              It took four months of flirting, talking, and feeling the need to always stay in contact that did it for us. I knew within the first month that he was important to me... and excited me in ways that no one else ever had. I didn't think we could ever be together because he was really into drugs, and we did live so far apart. (Me, US, Him, NZ) It took a further two months for him to admit that he liked me. It took us about two months after that to admit that we had fallen for each other. When we met each other for the first time in real life, it was love at first sight for the both of us. We've been together three years and nine months. Longest relationship for both of us.
              "Every action of our lives touches on some chord that will vibrate in eternity" ~ Edwin Hubbel Chapin

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              • #8
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                Panda and I seem to share certain similarities in our relationships. For me, I knew he was important within a couple weeks and even though we voiced love fairly early on, I don't think I understood just how much he meant to me until roughly a year and a half later, when we started to go through the shit show that defined the second half of my senior year. Even though we tumbled through a whole mess of emotions and fights and troubles, I found that under it all, there was an enduring, slow burning love for him that I can't really explain or put to words.

                I don't really know where we stand right now because a lot of things have been in flux so I've just let that emotion stay there, quietly simmering, until we are back in the same country, this time permanently.

                Does this even make sense? I never really know how to put this to words.
                "All this has happened before. All this will happen again."

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                • #9
                  Re: When did you realize you were in love?

                  Well, I had just got out of a very dysfunctional relationship of five yrs, and was moving in w/ my roommate. My husband happened to be my next door neighbor. We had a loud siren inside of our townhome, and couldnt figure where the noise was coming from. I am pretty shy. But, I actually went next door and asked the hottie to come over and look at it. He ended up fixing the chain on our toilet. lol. I made him brownies the following week, and the rest is history. He is the best thing that ever happened to me. He is awesome, and the best man ever. I knew i was in love probably within that week. But, we both felt something instantly.

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                  • #10
                    Re: When did you realize you were in love?

                    I usually have the whole "love-at-first-sight". That's what happened with my current gf. I saw her and thought "man, that person could totally break my heart". We started dating a week later, and a week after that said "i love you". We move kinda fast, but we've been living together for a couple weeks now and its still going great. I love her more and more every day.

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                    • #11
                      Re: When did you realize you were in love?

                      I worked with my BF for a year before we started dating. During that time, I was in a relationship that lasted over 9 years. I thought I knew what love was.

                      When me and the ex broke up, BF asked me out. At that point, we had known each other at work, and as friends at a few gatherings at my house. And as flirtatious people on AIM. We went on a couple dates. Had a couple sleepovers.

                      Three months later, he calls me while I am out with another guy. I let it go to voicemail. I call him back the next day to ask what he wanted. Said he just wanted to tell me that he was *sure*, *positive*, that he loved me.

                      Three months. Three months of me telling myself "don't say it, don't say it, you don't mean it, don't say it'" but I knew it almost immediately.

                      We will be together for a year next week. He bought me New Years flowers and tells me I'm beautiful every day. I knew there was something there the instant that I met him <3
                      I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.
                      Anais Nin

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                      • #12
                        Re: When did you realize you were in love?

                        Originally posted by Hollowman View Post
                        Weird as it is, almost instantly I knew she was special, a week or so later I was madly in love (keep in mind we spent almost the entire week together talking, and I really mean all week, conversations of 8 hours on end and longer..) I know this is short and alot of people are probably going to think that can't be after a week, but that's how it is (and yes I have been in enough relationships before, but never fell in love this fast, it surprised me too...)
                        Haha, I'm the exact same. I knew within the first week (of spending lots of time together and on the phone) I was falling for my boyfriend hard, and then within the next few weeks I knew I was in love. Didn't say anything for several months though...
                        And it's super hard for me to get so attached to people, so I knew he had to be special.

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                        • #13
                          Re: When did you realize you were in love?

                          I realised I loved him when, after 3 years of him chasing me, he caught me by surprise as the fireworks went off on New Years Eve and asked me out... and I just said yes without even thinking about it. It was so naturally the right answer that I didn't even have to think. According to him, he knew ages before... he kept chasing me because he knew we would be special together :P he was right, I was just stubborn.

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                          • #14
                            Re: When did you realize you were in love?

                            I had an epiphany. I was at a party having a great time, and I thought to myself "I wish Greg were here." The thought was like a punch in the stomach, a "duh" moment. Greg and I were not dating at the time, we were just friends. I knew Greg was intersted in me, but I had no idea that I loved him back. I did. I do. I dumped my date, called Greg, and never looked back. We've been together for the past 6 years.
                            Last edited by mctlong; January 10th, 2010, 01:21 PM.

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                            • #15
                              Re: When did you realize you were in love?

                              About 2 months into our relationship, I knew - but didn't say it for a LONG time. We had been seeing each other for about a month and a half, we were together daily and he stayed over all the time, but we hadn't yet made our relationship official/exclusive (even though neither of us were seeing or interested in anyone else). I finally brought up that I wanted to be in a relationship, and shortly after we became exclusive I realized I loved him.

                              It took almost another 10 months before either of us said it, though - I was way too scared to say it first, because I was terrified he didn't feel the same way. We were nearing a year of being together (literally, days away haha), when I was getting increasingly down/upset that we hadn't said it yet, as I was SURE it meant he didn't feel that way when, one night after we got back from a trip to New York with friends, he said it... "I've loved you for the last 10 months"! Sooo all my worrying was for nothing - he was just as nervous, if not more than me, to say it (he's never been in love before)... We've been together for almost 2 years now (it will be 2 near the end of March).
                              "It's really not so good to have time. Rush, scramble, desperation, this missed, that left behind, those others too big to fit into such a small space-- that's the way life was meant to be. You're supposed to be too late for some things. Don't worry about it."
                              -The Skull, The Last Unicorn

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