I am currently engaged to the only guy who's ever managed to keep my attention for more than a month or so. We've been going out for 3.5years, been living together for about a year, and been engaged for about 6 months. Before we lived together there was a time we also broke up for about 6 weeks, during which I was involved with someone else that I also grew bored with quickly, and we both missed each other too much to stay broken up.
we have the same sense of humor, follow each others train of thoughts very easily, are completely relaxed and at ease together as with nobody else, we have small fights sometimes but they are usually brought on by stress from financial issues as we have been studying on and off etc, any serious problems that we have we've always been able to discuss openly and work through it together, and we both dream about both being in secure jobs, buying a house, having a family etc. cheesy as it is, nothing feels better than just hugging each other.
i'm not interested in having sex with him, at all. i think he's the best looking guy i've ever met, and im not attracted to other people in his place. i'm just not interested in having sex. i expected that our relationship would mellow and change over time, certainly i dont expect the same fire as when it was new and exciting (and from my brief affair during our broken up period, i found that a firey sexual relationship bored me as quickly as any other) but since then i wonder if my complete lack of interest should be taken as a bad sign. i have no desire to go find other men to turn me on, the idea repulses me in fact. but i honestly dont know if i would ever have an interest in having sex except for the conscious purpose of getting pregnant. i've never liked any of the foreplay/alternatives either i find them quite disgusting, and messy, and generally unpleasant. so when i was interested in sex, i was only interested in sex, and now that im not, im interested in nothing. he's been very good about it, and i had surgery for endometriosis earlier in the year which has been a convenient excuse. but i
1) constantly worry that its a bad sign, even though i love him ridiculously much and
2) worry that being male, eventually he will overlook every other good aspect in our relationship and goes to find someone who will satisfy him sexually
im not sure, as im quite tired if i've clarified every point that i wanted to... i guess if people respond and make me realise i've missed something i will add it in reply to that...