my ex boyfriend and I were together for a year. Our relationship definitely had its ups and downs with him cheating on me, and we broke up once for a couple weeks 7 months ago but then he came back because he said he missed me and thought about me all the time. (we stayed in complete contact during that time. i called him every day.) but most of our relationship was absolutely amazing and we were both very happy and loved each other and loved spending all our time together. well he broke up with me again over 2 months ago because we were fighting alot, he was getting kind of sick of me, and said he just wanted to be single for awhile and go out with his friends. i am devastated. i really thought this was the man i was going to marry someday, even though we are only 20 and 22 years old. at first i cried, begged, and did everything i could to get him back. we were still talking everyday and hanging out sometimes and things were going good again for about a week, then he started changing his mind about what he wanted every other day. one day he said he wanted to keep trying to get back together, the next day he didnt. he was also very very jealous whenever i went out with my friends and would pick a fight with me and say that i just wanted to meet other guys.
one night i got really sick of it and got pretty mad and we had a fight and i left his house without saying anything to him. he called me 10 mins later but i didnt answer. i waited till the next day to call him back and he said that he wanted us to take a break and stop seeing each other and hanging out because obviously things werent working. he said maybe it would make him realize that he misses me and wants to be with me. the next night he called me and i was out with my friends so i didnt answer. he left me a voicemail and was kind of sarcastic and mean saying he knew i was just probly out partying and to call him back. i didnt call him back so 15 mins later i recieve a text message that says "what are you up to?" i waited about 20 mins and text him back saying only "in akron." he text me back right away saying "call me if you're not too busy." well i didnt call him back so 15 mins later he text me again saying "i take it you're not gonna call me." well i waited about another 15 mins and i called him back. i was at a party and it was loud so i didnt talk to him very long and when i did i was kind of short and cold with him because i wanted to give him the idea i was having a good time without him. well he got mad and ended up hanging up on me because i didnt want to talk to him. 2 mins later i receive a text from him that says "yea you really care about us, i see what you really care about." (meaning other guys and partying.) well i just ignored until the next day when i text him back saying "you see what i really care about?? we're on a break remember? im just having a good time." he called me right away and asked me a million questions about what i did last night and if i met any guys. well i was cold with him again and was getting kind of mad because he was asking me all these questions so he said he had to go and hung up on me. right then and there i decided to go NC. i figured from the way he was acting he would definitely call me in a day or two. well its been exactly a week and i havent heard from him at all. did i ruin our chances of getting back together by doing NC? i guess what my real question is: does no contact with a dumper make them miss you and make them realize all the good things about you and sort out their feelings or does it just push them away and help them to get over you and forget about you?? im thinking about calling him in a couple days and having a friendly conversation with him and i was wondering what i should expect from him.