I've been going out with this girl for about 4 months. We started off extremely great and both felt as if we were the exact same person. The chemistry was insane. We hit a rough patch in our relationship about a month in that lasted for about a month where we weren't getting along too well.
Fast forward to 2 months in, we've pulled through the rough patch and everything went back to being normal. Recently however, she's been really busy with school, family, clubs and her friends and is trying her best to see me but something keeps coming up. I don't think she's doing this on purpose as she always makes time to still communicate on the phone or text for hours during the week. Her parents won't let her out during the week so our only time to see each other would be on weekends where something such as having to study for a test or her parents wanting to do something with her would come up.
We haven't seen each other in a month as she was sick for 2 weeks and then the other 2 weekends her family wanted her to do something with them and the other she had to study for multiple tests that she was behind on. I ended up telling her how I felt about the whole situation and that it feels like I am just convenient for her. This ended up with her almost crying and telling me how much she cares and is trying but is so overwhelmed with life and stressed out and all I'm doing is stressing her out more as she feels guilty that she is never able to do anything with me. (In my mind I thought she was just leading me on and keeping me as convenience but I truly believe that she is actually trying.)
I told her that she shouldn't stress and if something comes up then it's alright we could always try again the next weekend as I understand her schedule is a bit random. She hasn't chosen her friends over me either as she hasn't been out with them. I called her the next day to tell her a better idea would be for her to just make plans and tell me when she's free that way I wouldn't have to keep asking her about our plans, stressing her out. Instead of agreeing she instead said that she needed a break and that it would be best for both of us and then apologized.
I'm giving her space but am unsure on how to convince her to let it all work out or what I should do next? Most people would say break up but I really like her and I believe she feels the same way but is under constant stress due to her busy life. I'm ok with just calling and texting and I know she is too, I'm hoping that we could just see each other at least once a month and then get back to seeing each other a lot during our school breaks. I think that she feels constantly pressured by me asking her to go out as I didn't realize how stressed it made her.
Fast forward to 2 months in, we've pulled through the rough patch and everything went back to being normal. Recently however, she's been really busy with school, family, clubs and her friends and is trying her best to see me but something keeps coming up. I don't think she's doing this on purpose as she always makes time to still communicate on the phone or text for hours during the week. Her parents won't let her out during the week so our only time to see each other would be on weekends where something such as having to study for a test or her parents wanting to do something with her would come up.
We haven't seen each other in a month as she was sick for 2 weeks and then the other 2 weekends her family wanted her to do something with them and the other she had to study for multiple tests that she was behind on. I ended up telling her how I felt about the whole situation and that it feels like I am just convenient for her. This ended up with her almost crying and telling me how much she cares and is trying but is so overwhelmed with life and stressed out and all I'm doing is stressing her out more as she feels guilty that she is never able to do anything with me. (In my mind I thought she was just leading me on and keeping me as convenience but I truly believe that she is actually trying.)
I told her that she shouldn't stress and if something comes up then it's alright we could always try again the next weekend as I understand her schedule is a bit random. She hasn't chosen her friends over me either as she hasn't been out with them. I called her the next day to tell her a better idea would be for her to just make plans and tell me when she's free that way I wouldn't have to keep asking her about our plans, stressing her out. Instead of agreeing she instead said that she needed a break and that it would be best for both of us and then apologized.
I'm giving her space but am unsure on how to convince her to let it all work out or what I should do next? Most people would say break up but I really like her and I believe she feels the same way but is under constant stress due to her busy life. I'm ok with just calling and texting and I know she is too, I'm hoping that we could just see each other at least once a month and then get back to seeing each other a lot during our school breaks. I think that she feels constantly pressured by me asking her to go out as I didn't realize how stressed it made her.
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