My ex is an unmedicated bipolar with anger issues. He was admittedly violent with his ex-wife (untl she finally divorced him) and was emotionally abusive with me. We had a strong physical attraction that kept me coming back to him. I thought I was almost over him when he started pursuing me again last winter. We ended up spending a passionate night together, at which point he told me he was seeing someone else but would "always love me." After thinking it over that week afterward, I told him it would prob be best if we don't talk other than over work issues. He got mad, hung up the phone on me and blocked me. Mind you, I did everything for this guy, even lent him money that he never paid back (and when I finally asked him about it, he was very mean).
Since then he keeps having his GF (the one he cheated on) drive to our office and meet him there, and hang out in front of me (walking by my office a million times, etc.). There is no reason for her to be there, as she doesn't work there and does not need to come and sit in his office while he is working. He will give me dirty looks and refuse to even say hello. He also must have said something to the GF, because she seems hostile towards me too. I finally saw him alone and told him I wished him the best and I hoped we could at least act cordial at work, and I was sorry if I hurt him by ending things, and he was very angry and said I had hurt him and stormed off. (Mind you, this guy is in his 40s wth grown kids.) If we have to work on the same project, he refuses to help me, etc.
I'll be honest and say I still have feelings for him, for whatever reason (maybe just the passionate physical thing?) but I could not continue with someone who treated me so badly. It was just awful, and scary at times to see his anger. I am not sure how this new GF is dealing with it, but she looks like a very "tough girl" so maybe it doesn;t bother her (although neither she nor he seem happy, and seem almost just like "buddies" rather than BF/GF - with me he was always very passionate, lovey-dovey when not mean)...anyway, I feel like every time I see him walk by with the new GF, and he looks to make sure I see them,it just opens up the scab for me. It is actually making me depressed. The other day I shut the door to my office and cried. I am a sensitive person and of course he knows that.
I do not understand why he can't just act cordial at work, for the sake of both of our jobs. And why, if he is with someone else, does he still need to upset me? He even heard me talking about my cat being lost and told one of my co-workers that he saw the cat get hit by a car, which I know is not true.