My "down in the dumps story" is like everyone else's. I'm not even going to try to add the little details that makes mine "different". I dated a girl for four months and out of no where she got distant and two weeks later we were having the talk. What's different for me is that I've never had a huge problem getting over a breakup.
Being the mature person I try to be I didn't yell, didn't demean, and didn't do all insanely emotional actions that follow a break up and now... I'm almost regretting it. It feels like I never got the opportunity to find out what was lacking or get mad enough to be pissed and want out. She gave me the standard "I was scared because we were getting serious" and "We both equally contributed to going too fast". While fair it SUCKS. To comment on how serious we were, we had a lot of plans for the future (we both had weddings we needed +1's for, trips, etc.), we spent quite a bit of time together and with each others families, but neither of us had dropped the "L" word. Anyway...
I went with 95% no contact like I have in the past and even though its been over a month I still find it hard to stop thinking about her. We have short text conversations about once a week that don't bother me, but she always abruptly leaves the convo. Aside from that, it's not that I haven't given myself opportunity for moving on. I went on a date this weekend and any spark that was there was covered up by the giant wet blanket that is my past relationship. I'm actually quite happy with my life and I get myself out there on the weekends.
To avoid writing much more of a novel I was hoping to get any advice on the following: How has anyone worked past the giant question mark about what went wrong? How do you get closure without having a single argument about why it couldn't work?