Hello Everyone, I'm new here and this is bothering the hell out of me and a couple of my friends. My bf is 60ish and is well-loved in the community. He is generous and active in youth activities in the community. People want him to run for local office; he's that well-loved. We met 6 years ago and are renovating our large home. We are known for our social gatherings by the pool and wonderful dinner parties. I try to accommodate everyone graciously.
Now here's the rub. He has female friends whis is fine, but this one woman seems out of control to me. She was at one of our pool parties and her daughter was suddenly bored outside and wanted to watch tv in our bedroom. We have a tv in the kitchen, livingroom, his son's room, and our bedroom. I told my bf that I was studying and my books were on laid out, so I preferred that she did not go in our bedroom. Well, that went ignored. He stacked my books and the mother, daughter, and my bf went upstairs to the bedroom.
I found out because she complimented me on my sketches. WT--- was she looking through my things for? I waited until everyone left and I was able to control most of my anger for his disrespect, but let him know that was on the verge of a deal breaker. If I tell you I am uncomfortable with a suspicious female in our bedroom, then no means no! I wouldn't mind if another of his female friends went in our bedroom with him. I trust him. There is something about her that irks the hell out of me. There is no way this woman or her daughter should have been in our sanctuary. GO HOME if you want to watch tv, this is a pool party.
Well, this woman was calling him every 1/2 hour to tell him what her ex-husband did to her, how her best friend stole her husband and is a tramp. She then told me at a party that my bf was commenting on another woman's body. I'm working out 6 days a week to keep in shape (I'm 55ish) and don't look my age (not bragging) and I need to hear this?
She then makes a speech at a closing awards barbeque in our yard and says "I'm a vegetarian, but Blaze has me so influenced (or something to that context), that I've even had a bite of his sausage." There were about 40 people and kids out there. I quickly said out loud during her speech "That's reserved for me, Grace."
She told my bf that she was going to a rodeo and would send him pictures of her and the kids. Well, my bf and my computers are side by side and while I worked on mine he received the pictures. What rodeo? She sent about 50 pics of her and the children in various poses AT the rodeo, but no pics of the actual rodeo.
She even called him at 10p.m. when we're in bed watching tv to talk about her ex. She even called him one night so she and her kids to use the pool. It was our date night and he told her. When I saw her at another gathering, she told me sarcastically, "oh, date night, huh? I said directly, Yes. What nerve!
One of his committees had a board meeting in our house the other night and when I came downstairs to get some dinner, I spoke to everyone, but this bee890870?! put her head down and did not say a word to me in my own home!
Today, I told him I want to meet with her to straighten things out about boundaries. Wasn't she hurt enough with her best friend ending up with her husband? Why does she want to inflict that same hurt on me?
It is sooo not my imagination. A mutual friend of ours told me she said "I feel at-home with Blaze". Okay, someone has lost their natural mind and I will snatch a B_____ in a minute! HE'S TAKEN!:eusa_hand