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    So, a few times within the last month my girlfriend and I have planned to see each other, but she then realizes that she promised something else beforehand. EX: Last week when we were on a date I asked her if she was free for another date in a week, and she said yes. Now it is the following week, on Thursday night, and she tells me that she just remembered about a chaperoning/volunteer wworkevent at the school. She has poor planning skills, and I told her that I was a little bit upset, because she told me last week that she was free this week. Basically, I was planning on seeing her tomorrow night, but she tells me last-mjnute that she can't. Am I not right to be slightly annoyed by this?

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    Re: My girlfriend keeps forgetting...

    If it was a recurrent circumstance yes. If it's the first give her a pass.

    Be cognizant, but don't let it eat you all up and spoil the mood for the next rendezvous
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      Re: My girlfriend keeps forgetting...

      Agree with foh4k. If it keeps happening, look for other signs too. Maybe it was an honest mistake, but if she keeps ignoring you, better ask her if everything is OK.

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        Re: My girlfriend keeps forgetting...

        This is what calendar apps are for. I'm notorious for forgetting I've made plans... which is why I put my social commitments into my calendar. I don't share it, but this way, I get reminders, and I can use it to plan ahead. If this is a frequent occurrence in her life, recommend it - regardless of the fact it works to your advantage too.

        But I agree with foh and LadyBug. There's a general sense of disregard from that act. Once or twice, it could be an honest mistake. If it becomes (or has become) frequent, it's time to check in on your relationship - people tend to forget the things that matter less to them.
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          Re: My girlfriend keeps forgetting...

          Originally posted by 17amanna View Post
          So, a few times within the last month my girlfriend and I have planned to see each other, but she then realizes that she promised something else beforehand. EX: Last week when we were on a date I asked her if she was free for another date in a week, and she said yes. Now it is the following week, on Thursday night, and she tells me that she just remembered about a chaperoning/volunteer wworkevent at the school. She has poor planning skills, and I told her that I was a little bit upset, because she told me last week that she was free this week. Basically, I was planning on seeing her tomorrow night, but she tells me last-mjnute that she can't. Am I not right to be slightly annoyed by this?
          Well she's rude and uninterested by all accounts. *shrugs* Not much to go on though, really.

          How long have the two of you been bf/gf? Do you talk to her before the date to make sure she's not double booked herself? She sounds indifferent.
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