I am struggling to understand this phenomenon, and I really wish there was a solution to it. Perhaps - and I grant you that this is a possibility - that I am surrounded by bitchy women, or perhaps the inherent bitchiness I talk of is a dominant characteristic of women in general. Regardless, I am exhausted by the bitchiness of women to other women: it is deeply unattractive and very unsettling. I just wish there was a way of restoring calm and order: a way to disincline the women I know from being so bitchy. Much of this bitchiness is not voiced in the open - it is behind closed doors and whispered ever so quietly. Some of it is conducted in a somewhat more vigorous and obnoxious manner. Instead of coming together and forming lasting friendships, most of the women I know are two-faced to one another; inevitably this creates vast differences in the future. Perhaps this is why men tend to form and to maintain more enduring friendships over time? Is this condition one reason as to why feminism has now been divided along class-lines - because class is an issue that separates women from each other, thus giving another reason to bitch? More scientifically, what evolutionary function does bitchiness provide? Surely it merely increases tensions between people? Many of the male friends I have have experienced the same feelings - a feeling of helplessness at the sometimes unrestrained cruelty that the bitchiness of women implicitly demands. Men are by no means virtuous by comparison - certainly not - but, from my knowledge, they tend to discuss their differences out loud or to solve them in a rather more physical manner. In essence: there is very little facade in the steps taken by men to resolve their differences. Interestingly, the bitchiness of which I speak seems to recede as women age - presumably as they are no longer in competition with one another (it is, moreover, my contention that they are infinitely more competitive than men in this postmodern age). Finally, I care for women very much. I live in a family surrounded by women who have cared for me a great deal. But within this environment and outside of it, I notice a strong (almost genetical) predisposition to bitchiness. This, as many men will attest, is a disposition that reaches beyond the confines of the home. I'd love to hear what people have to say on this topic. Hopefully we will be able to cultivate some sort of mature debate on the issue.