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Unread July 16th, 2003, 01:29 AM   #1
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My girl friends and I have always been really touchy feely. All through high school, we were super close that way. I tend to be the same way with the guys I'm close friends with. Some people think it looks weird (and that it was especially odd when I was still with my ex), and I was just wondering if anyone else is cuddly with their friends of the opposite sex. How far do you go?
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Unread July 16th, 2003, 01:36 AM   #2
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now? not far, not far at all.
before? it depended on who, when, and who else is around. and how far i go depends on those things as well. i dunno, sometimes i just find myself affectionate towards a certain person and i dont really hide it and i just get closer to them and they dont seem to mind it, or that they like it and so i dont really hold myself back much. you know?
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Unread July 16th, 2003, 02:43 AM   #3
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I'm not a touchy feely type of person...
 
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I used to be bubble girl. You know..."there is a box around me, 3 feet on all side, do not cross".

But then I got over it at the start of high school and I was like, whatever. I realized standing closer to people, patting them on the back, giving them a hug- if it is neccessary or there was some sort of an emotional reason to want to, that it's fine. (yeah, I still don't like physical contact for physical contact's sake.) However, I am a "butt munchkin" and go after my good friend Ketan's rump at any given opportunity.
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Unread July 16th, 2003, 09:12 PM   #5
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Not really. I hug all my friends every now and then, but the only person I'm cuddly with is my boyfriend.
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i'm very touchy feely with my friends as well.
both guys and girls, and i treat them both the same.. hugs and i touch peoples arm/back/hand/etc when we're talking, *shrugs*

i'm a different kind of touchy feely around bfs tho (hehe), that, and i don't *cuddle with my friends. thats bf stuff only.
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Unread July 16th, 2003, 10:28 PM   #7
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I do the occasional hug, but not with all of my friends, only a few. I don't really like being touched like that all the time.
 
Unread July 17th, 2003, 12:57 AM   #8
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Oh god...I'm a HANDS ON person!!

I'm constantly hugging, grabbing (nonsexually, and usually, if not always, above waist), touching, shoving stroking (again, above waist), etc, my friends.

With the guys, my thing to do is grab their manboob (their pec). My boyfriend knows...and he doesn't really care, because it's ALWAYS platonic, and for some friends...painful :bad:

If you're not a touchy feely person, you probably would feel out of place because I'm NOT touching you.

The only person I cuddle with is my boyfriend. But, that's one of the only way I differentiate from friend to boyfriend. Of course, everyway I touch my friend is completely platonic...but, I'm ALWAYS touching someone. I touch people even when we're talking.
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i'm a pretty touchy feely guy. I don't usually touch my guy friends the same way i do my girl friends though. I don't touch the girls hardly at all when im in a relationship.
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Unread July 17th, 2003, 05:19 AM   #10
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Well, I've had manual sex with one of my best male friends...



...oh, right, that's when we were dating. :P

I'm not a touchy feely person with my friends. I gave my friend Dennis a hug once, when he was having a really bad day hosting a party (things breaking and such, people who shouldn't be there coming around).

Generally, I shake hands with my male friends. I'll give them a pat on the back or the shoulder. Maybe if I'm feeling very girlish and silly I'll pat them on the top of their head, ruffle their hair and say something like "poor baby".

I could possibly give them a fake punch in the shoulder or the stomach too.

I'm no more touchy-feely with them than I am with my female friends, but I'm slightly different with them (most of my female friends don't shake hands with people, for example, and in some cases they'd prefer spoken comfort over a pat on the shoulder and silent understanding, which some -albeit not all- of my guy friends prefer)
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Originally posted by *after8*@Jul 16 2003, 09:53 PM
i'm very touchy feely with my friends as well.
both guys and girls, and i treat them both the same.. hugs and i touch peoples arm/back/hand/etc when we're talking, *shrugs*

i'm a different kind of touchy feely around bfs tho (hehe), that, and i don't *cuddle with my friends. thats bf stuff only.
I'm like that...and I'm a guy... :|
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Unread July 17th, 2003, 06:28 PM   #12
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I WISH I was more touchy-feely with my friends. Especially my new friend kris. I'd like to touchy-feely him all OVER. Rowr, baby, rowr.

But seriously, it makes me feel cared for when my friends touch me. It's a very comforting feeling. Unless it's my friend lisa picking me up in a fireman's carry. that's not that comfortable.

Mmmmmm, Kris.

I think I am not very toughy feely because I am afraid other people will be creeped out by it. Because they have personal space bubbles.
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I am quite touchy feely, but most people I'm friends with aren't, so I'd creep them out.

I tend to keep my distance because other people aren't comfy with it, but I love it when someone lets you hug them or touch their hand or something. Its even better if they come to you. There's nothing better than getting an unexpected hug off a friend.
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When I was younger I was very into the 'no touchie' thing, but I've gotten way different. I'm not necessarily a 'huggy' person, but I am a 'grab your ass" kind of person..
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Unread July 19th, 2003, 08:49 PM   #15
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With me... anything goes. I love hugs and contact
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Unread July 19th, 2003, 09:15 PM   #16
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With me... anything goes. I love hugs and contact
*casually struts over to palmer* *cups hand over his ass* it's okay....we're friends
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Unread July 20th, 2003, 02:33 AM   #17
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Unread July 20th, 2003, 11:40 AM   #18
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I hate contact with most people, I don't even like shaking hands. I have a sort of one foot bubble which I like around me. I'm always holding hands with my SO but apart from that the only time I'd have physical contact with someone is family, sports or at a formal occasion.
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Unread July 20th, 2003, 12:08 PM   #19
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im a hug person... i hug everybody
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I too am a hug machine. I hug people upon meeting them, just to see if it weirds them out lol. I hump people's legs, I kiss people on the cheek all the time. I'm always a touchy feely sort of guy. But in a fun way. 8)
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