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Unread August 16th, 2012, 01:13 AM   #1
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Ok so heres the deal. I've been with my current girlfriend for about 3 years now. Shes amazing and I care about her a lot. I also had strong feelings for the girl I was with before the current one. I dont want to put labels on either but for the reason of being easier to describe to you, I see my girlfriend as a 7 and my ex as a 10 (strictly in a physical attraction way). My ex just had the ideal body I look for in a girl and was very sexually comfortable and outgoing, just like me, while my current gf is very reserved and shy which doesn't help the situation at all. I havent even said one word to my ex since our break up 3 years ago but I heard (and still hear) through the grape vine that she has never fully gotten over me. (i initiated the break up) Its only in a sexual way as circumstances would have to extreme that I ever get back with my ex if my current relationship were to ever end for one reason or another. I'm constantly having sexual thoughts, dreams, etc about my ex and I dont know what to do. Just looking for anyones 2 cents. I strictly just made an account on this site just to ask this question so you can understand how much its bothering me.
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Unread August 16th, 2012, 01:46 AM   #2
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Ok so heres the deal. I've been with my current girlfriend for about 3 years now. Shes amazing and I care about her a lot. I also had strong feelings for the girl I was with before the current one. I dont want to put labels on either but for the reason of being easier to describe to you, I see my girlfriend as a 7 and my ex as a 10 (strictly in a physical attraction way). My ex just had the ideal body I look for in a girl and was very sexually comfortable and outgoing, just like me, while my current gf is very reserved and shy which doesn't help the situation at all. I havent even said one word to my ex since our break up 3 years ago but I heard (and still hear) through the grape vine that she has never fully gotten over me. (i initiated the break up) Its only in a sexual way as circumstances would have to extreme that I ever get back with my ex if my current relationship were to ever end for one reason or another. I'm constantly having sexual thoughts, dreams, etc about my ex and I dont know what to do. Just looking for anyones 2 cents. I strictly just made an account on this site just to ask this question so you can understand how much its bothering me.
Are you suggesting being a member of our community is a bad thing?

Do you have any form of contact with your ex? If so... cut it.
Do you see yourself being with this girl even if she isn't your perfect body and you wanna end it because you're shallow... end it.

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Unread August 16th, 2012, 08:58 AM   #3
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Default Re: Still sexually attracted to my ex!

No I didn't mean that at all. I was just showing the significance of what this meant to me. I definitely plan to use this forum more!
And no I dont have any ties at all with my ex. I mean I know her phone number but I would never text her.
And in my own defense I dont believe this has anything to do with being shallow. I'm very content with my girlfriend now. Its just that I can't help sexually thinking about my ex all the time.
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Unread August 16th, 2012, 11:01 AM   #4
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Bullsh*t.

All you have to do is turn the channel on the movie (of your ex) you have spinning around in your mind. It's that simple. You keep playing the loop over and over and over and now it's become a habit to you. STOP THE MOVIE.

Engage in more outgoing sexual playtime with your current. Prime her to be a good lover by showing her what you want and how you want it with actions and little wording, get some couples porn and watch with her and get rid of the movie going on in your head about a girl that you broke off with. Obviously if you broke up with her then she wasn't your ideal mate in overall compatibility. Think about that instead of her tits and ass and poonanni and you'll be just fine.
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Unread August 16th, 2012, 05:02 PM   #5
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This happens man. Ive had dreams or sexual thoughts of ex's when with my last girlfriend. Even now from time to time i visualize girls ive been with and how hot thier bodies were. Its just called backtracking memories. Really its in your control. Try to focus and show more interest in your current girlfriend and the thoughts will go away. Only you can control it... if you want to. I even out of the blue texted an ex soley just to have sex and after i did a few times again i felt nothing. Its really not worth it.
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