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View Poll Results: Do you Enjoy watching your husband/Boyfriend Masturbate?
Yes - Really enjoy it 3 42.86%
Yes - but not very often 2 28.57%
Neutral - don't really enjoy it but will for his sake 1 14.29%
No - Does nothing for me, would rather not 1 14.29%
No - it disgusts me. 0 0%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 7. You may not vote on this poll

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Unread February 4th, 2011, 07:24 PM   #1
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Default Ask my Wife to watch/join me masterbate

Never posted before so apologize for any errors.

My Wife does not have the sex drive or interest that I do. I have always had a high sex drive and usually masturbate at least once per day.

She has a slight back problem so that impedes on our sex life. She is unwilling to have sex any time but night or on the weekends. Far too often she is too tired or her back hurts after a long day to have sex.

I understand her reasons and don't want her to have sex just to make me happy. I masturbate more lately to not put any pressure on her.

The problem is that I feel secretive when I'm doing it and don't really have a good place to do it but in the shower or at work. Our bathroom in our bedroom does not have a door on it. I would really like to have her watch me while I masturbate and maybe participate if she wanted every once in a while.

How do I ask my Wife to watch me masturbate?

Do many Women like to watch their spouse masturbate?

Can you Women take the poll please?

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Unread February 5th, 2011, 04:43 AM   #2
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Default Re: Ask my Wife to watch/join me masterbate

How do you talk with her about other things, in particular sexual? Ask her the same way you do that.

Personally, I'm not a big fan of watching. It's not that it's a turn off or anything, it just does not turn me on. I am not a visual creature like that. Pornography does little for me and magazines with naked men (the type made by women for women, rather than just republishing nude pictures intended for gay men) just leaves me feeling rather... "meh". I love to watch my husband undress, but really that's because it means I have a chance to touch.
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Unread February 5th, 2011, 09:53 AM   #3
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Why don't you send her to physical therapy for her "slight back problem" and get that fixed up first so that your sometimes once a week doesn't turn into sometimes once a month and then eventually twice a year.

Failing that, then slip a porn tape in the ole VCR and say "honey, I'm gonna rub one out to this movie wanna watch?

Her: what? You pig.
You: Well it's either that or bend over and take the position

* OP: IMHO, masturbation shouldn't be used as a substitute but rather for a supplement to an already healthy sex life in which you wouldn't be at a loss as to how to ask her to watch you but rather it would just take place and she would willingly join in or, take over and finish you off orally or with her own hand.

Ideally, You should be comfortable enough with her for it to happen naturally and with ease.

(I'm awfully confused with people that are melding bodies and sharing a life together and they're too timid to discuss issues with the one they're melding with.
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Unread February 5th, 2011, 10:33 AM   #4
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Default Re: Ask my Wife to watch/join me masterbate

Oh yes Phases, I agree---it is perplexing to me when a couple who have a healthy sex life together are too timid to discuss what could even enhance their sex lives as a couple..

It is perfectly healthy to communicate about sexual needs--to the OP, why don't you talk to your wife about masturbating in front of her and even discuss with her about each other's sexual needs and why she does not seem as sexual as you are. Discuss...discuss, but in a very relaxing and intimate setting.
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