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Unread November 16th, 2013, 02:26 AM   #1
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I am wondering what is the longest you went without contact from your bf/gf? My bf is going to the Philippines to help with disaster relief with is amazing and I am so proud of him. I am just worried about him and we don't have any way of contacting each other since there is no service where he will be.

I don't want to seem overly needy but I already miss him and he just left today, I think it's more the fact he will be in a bit of a dangerous situation and I can't know if he is okay or not. From emotional trauma to physical, I trust he can handle it but I know he can get some ptsd, he got some when he was working in pediatric care. I was able to talk to him on the phone since we were long distance at the time to help him feel better.

I will be going 10 days without anything and it sucks but I can handle it. I was wondering what was the longest you all went without contact..not a fight or anything just where they need to be somewhere and you can't call them?
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Unread November 16th, 2013, 02:42 AM   #2
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I'd have to say I've never actually been in this situation, in the 8.5 years we've been together. I've been able to talk to her (even if it's something as small as a good night text) every day since we got together.
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Three weeks without any contact when i was married.

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Unread November 16th, 2013, 04:02 AM   #4
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I'd have to say I've never actually been in this situation, in the 8.5 years we've been together. I've been able to talk to her (even if it's something as small as a good night text) every day since we got together.
I would say lucky but I know some people like time away from there spouse..seriously though I can't sleep. I have never had to go more then a day without hearing from him. I hate this xD It doesn't help I am kind of scared of the dark so I'm cuddling my stuffed animals haha I feel like a little kid.
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Unread November 16th, 2013, 04:08 AM   #5
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Occasionally we spend the night apart (like tonight, she's gone out to dinner then she'll stay at her parents). I hug the pillow to go to sleep and I'm 30, so don't feel bad
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Unread November 16th, 2013, 11:42 AM   #6
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Default Re: Longest time with no contact?

I once had no contact with an ex-girlfriend (my girlfriend at the time) for two weeks. This was different from your situation though, because we lived 25 minutes apart, and I stopped contacting her to see if she cared to contact me. Needless to say, we were no longer together after that time.

Not being able to contact a loved one is indeed very difficult, but it can also show you how much you mean to each other. Being apart can actually strengthen a relationship. If you keep that in mind, that should help you cope with this time apart. He'll be contacting you soon and you'll be back together quicker than you think.

It sounds like this guy is a winner too! Congratulations
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Unread November 16th, 2013, 03:14 PM   #7
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Thanks, he is surely a winner.
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The longest was 3 days. But that's because my boyfriend (at that time) was busy boinking a fry cook.

So yeah, your guy is way better.
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Mine has been 3 glorious years.

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The longest was 3 days. But that's because my boyfriend (at that time) was busy boinking a fry cook.

So yeah, your guy is way better.
lmao noo, I am sure your guy is good at cooking...nevermind mine is better jk! x)
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Hah, that was my ex! Current boyfriend is much better than my ex but we've never been out of touch for even a day so the only thing I could think of was the chubby chaser. =/
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oh okay, you guys are lucky...this honestly sucks. I got a call from him today though, he is at a hotel and then tomorrow leaving for the Philippines. Probably the last time I will talk to him though, it was a surprise though.
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Nice! Now I guess it's time to watch everything there is on Netflix for this week or two
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I am wondering what is the longest you went without contact from your bf/gf? My bf is going to the Philippines to help with disaster relief with is amazing and I am so proud of him. I am just worried about him and we don't have any way of contacting each other since there is no service where he will be.

I don't want to seem overly needy but I already miss him and he just left today, I think it's more the fact he will be in a bit of a dangerous situation and I can't know if he is okay or not. From emotional trauma to physical, I trust he can handle it but I know he can get some ptsd, he got some when he was working in pediatric care. I was able to talk to him on the phone since we were long distance at the time to help him feel better.

I will be going 10 days without anything and it sucks but I can handle it. I was wondering what was the longest you all went without contact..not a fight or anything just where they need to be somewhere and you can't call them?
I went for three and a half years with only about two hours of contact with my husband, It was due to the needs of the Navy, He was on Submarines, Really hard way to endure relationship.
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I am wondering what is the longest you went without contact from your bf/gf? My bf is going to the Philippines to help with disaster relief with is amazing and I am so proud of him. I am just worried about him and we don't have any way of contacting each other since there is no service where he will be.

I don't want to seem overly needy but I already miss him and he just left today, I think it's more the fact he will be in a bit of a dangerous situation and I can't know if he is okay or not. From emotional trauma to physical, I trust he can handle it but I know he can get some ptsd, he got some when he was working in pediatric care. I was able to talk to him on the phone since we were long distance at the time to help him feel better.

I will be going 10 days without anything and it sucks but I can handle it. I was wondering what was the longest you all went without contact..not a fight or anything just where they need to be somewhere and you can't call them?
Traumatized from taking care of kids????????
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nonsense, taking care of kids can be extremely traumatic. they're feisty little buggers! :P

as for lack of contact, i think the longest i went without Mr. Nuts was probably a week, while he was a broke-ass college student in Italy and i was at home with my parents and our son. he would call his mom collect at work (she worked for TWA), she would call me and connect me, and then she'd hang up. i still think she loves me more than him sometimes!

overall, longest was the 6 weeks it took my ex-boyfriend Matt to gain the courage to call me and actually break up with me. i'd already figured it out, but still. when you're 15, and your actual relationship is 8 weeks old when the silence starts, you might figure it out in 6 weeks, too.
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Traumatized from taking care of kids????????
She said he's going to help with disaster relief so I wouldn't be surprised if he ends up seeing some rather terrible things. I imagine seeing these terrible things happening to children could be really painful.
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He's going to Philippines now. He was in pediatric care before. I have a few friends in there right now too
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I went for three and a half years with only about two hours of contact with my husband, It was due to the needs of the Navy, He was on Submarines, Really hard way to endure relationship.
Wow that must of been very hard, are you two still together? You guys are really strong!
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He's going to Philippines now. He was in pediatric care before. I have a few friends in there right now too
Awesome and he will be back in a few days. I guess he also went down to Illinois to help with the tornado disaster as well. ^-^
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