http://www.relationship-forums.com/ The Relationship Forums provide a venue for people to ask questions about all facets of relationships, both romantic and non-romantic. en Thu, 17 May 2012 14:49:20 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.relationship-forums.com/delisiosso/misc/rss.jpg http://www.relationship-forums.com/ http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35242&goto=newpost Thu, 17 May 2012 13:07:53 GMT I was with a girl for 3/4 years and at the time I think its fair to say we both took advantage of what we had. We enjoyed what we had and we were strong, we split up like once every year, but that's because we never argued, but when we did we split up.
Anyway, Around christmas time my ex stopped texting me and meeting me, then she'd have a reason for it, then it'd happen again, then again and there'd always be an excuse. In my head I knew where we were going but didn't want to admit it. She claimed she still loved me and felt the same pain as me, yet the one time I saw her out on a night out, she was smiling, holding hands with another guy and he was taking her around the club, I'm not one to ruin what she has, if shes moved on great, she gave me her number and claimed he was just a friend, declared her love to me again, my pain had been for a reason, we were looking to get back together! Then we met a few times over that next week, it wasn't the same, but I was happy, we couldn't make conversation like we used to. Maybe it was my guilt, I had slept with someone else to try get rid of my pain but it didn't work and I told her I hadn't seen anyone since we split. Maybe we just don't go together. She's ignored me since around February with no reason as to why so I've accepted it as over.

The things I need help with is that I have been left with a low self esteem, I don't feel pain when i think about her it's just like a numbing feeling? I don't feel any pain anymore but on some days she just pops into my head. I was just wondering if this is normal? And what to expect in the future months? My main worry is that I won't find anyone else, the girls I meet now I'm just not attracted to and it becomes unfair on them as they develop feelings but I can't help it. ]]> Down in the Dumps Ryan13 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35242 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35241&goto=newpost Thu, 17 May 2012 11:47:27 GMT I finished a relationship at the start of May, my ex was just a head case and was generally a negative person. This started to make me negative rather then the positive person i really am. Good things would always be shot down by her saying such things as "what if" and "but"

After awhile of being single this really put me off relationships for awhile and i didn't reopen my pof account.

A was going to close my tagged account the other day and something was stopping me... I usually just troll and post jokes. The day after this fine heavenly blessed beauty messages me.... i was like whey i'm gonna reply and she's never going to speak to me again :p. so we start chatting, add each other on facebook, we arrange to meet on Friday.... after spending like 4 hours on the phone on Sunday... i thought what the hell and met her Monday after, we went for a walk, went back to my place, she was beautiful and amazing.

Next day..... We watch movies at mine and have even more fun, I'm normally quiet and don't talk much... But she just brightens my day up everything seems to to just work. Every time i'm with her it's like i've just won millions on the lottery.

we shall see :p

Wedding is tomorrow mmkay ]]> The Game - Dating and Kissing Ben91 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35241 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35240&goto=newpost Thu, 17 May 2012 09:07:50 GMT Should that be taken as a compliment? Or insult? Or just an observation? We were both in a jokey mood though, and she was smiling and laughing, so it was probably a compliment... Should that be taken as a compliment? Or insult? Or just an observation?

We were both in a jokey mood though, and she was smiling and laughing, so it was probably a compliment... ]]> Flirtation Location Teag http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35240 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35239&goto=newpost Thu, 17 May 2012 08:27:27 GMT I wont bore you all with the details but I am 28 and only started living three years ago due to social anxiety. I left school at 16 and worked in an office job which I hated and left two years later. When I was 18 I joined my current company. I work all over the country, never in a place for... I wont bore you all with the details but I am 28 and only started living three years ago due to social anxiety.

I left school at 16 and worked in an office job which I hated and left two years later.
When I was 18 I joined my current company.
I work all over the country, never in a place for more than a month in an enviroment that is 99% male.
I also work long hours and often nights.

Due to this and my social anxiety I pretty much had no life experiences at all except work and sleep.

A few years ago, I had gained enough confidence to start doing things. Nothing major at first, just simple stuff (like sitting in a pub at lunch time on my day off) which has slowly progressed to slightly more interesting things recently (indoor rock climbing).

Hpwever, because of this I find it hard on a date to really tell a girl about myself. Whilst they regale me with stories of their growing up, crazy college parties, swimming in the great barrier reef etc, I have very little ammo to respond except my work.

This might make me seem mysterious and sexy to a few individuals but the majority just see me as someone who is, well, boring.
Since it isn't good practice to discuss a long term mental issue on a first few dates I am left with little to say.

I do have opinions and am happy to voice them on any subject, but on the subject of me, I struggle.

Does anyone have any suggestions how to combat this in a date situation?
I don't really fancy doing stuff for the next ten years JUST to build up something to say. If I do things, I want to do them for fun. ]]> The Game - Dating and Kissing MrPrinny http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35239 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35238&goto=newpost Thu, 17 May 2012 08:16:11 GMT When you create a new topic you are also, simultaneously, creating the first post in the topic. To create a new topic in a group:
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Click the Post button to post the topic. The topic appears in the list of topics for the group. ]]> General Discussion erafiq014 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35238 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35235&goto=newpost Wed, 16 May 2012 23:49:41 GMT This is one of the cases where i feel like the typical person will tell me that oh i seem smart enough to understand my own problems and that the real problem is my insecurity which is why i even ask this to others eve though i know the answer but oh well here's my complex problem, i want opinions, and i hope i get them.

So last thursday i asked this one girl out in a peculiar way where i asked her if she would be interested on going out to dates to get to know each other more, and she said yes.

Ok since then i have had the ability to talk with her and one of her friends, in school specially since monday, since monday we seniors have had to sit in the gym for 3 hours for reasons i wont go over, so ive had the ability and time to go talk to them...in that time i have gotten insecure feelings about whether to approach them or whether they are going to find that weird, and so far this is what has happened.

The key points here are that even though i almost always am the one who says hi to them, talks to them, and does everything pleasing with them, its like between me and them every morning when we see each other there is tension about how to say hi, when we say hi both them and i say hi in a strange way, insecure, as if we are strangers and we havent moved anywhere near the friend line at the very least..

I know this girl for two days, the main one for a week, weve talked and had nice conversations, but its always weird..and they both have specifically asked me why i appear to be so SHY, AND HERE IS WHERE THE OBVIOUS FAULT COMES.

I mean we talk cordially about anything, i'm always nice, but they told me things from which i can get one message..

you seem like a nice guy, but youre a bit dead, your body language makes you seem awkward a bit and you come off as shy and non social, not a freak or unplesant but a bit odd...

And its not like i have bad ideas about them, i just try to creat conversation but its something about the way i do things that apparently make them think that maybe i want something more, because theyve both made notices stating how they barely know me...

I have no intention of doing anything that might offend them, just imagine your self a guy who is nice and pleasing but comes out awkward in a way, and the thing is that im going to prom with one of them because she asked me to go with her even though we barely know each other for 1 week, that is why when i asked her if shed be interested in dating she said yes immediatley once i explained, but shes dead all around me Literally dead, i start the formal conversations yet i come off as shy? Its my god damn insecurity..

then the other one is nice and pretty, and as i try to make a bond where we can be friends she get a stop sign and says too fast...

So here i am wondering what your opinions are...

what to do here...do i stop approaching them, if i do approach them how do i do so...i feel like if i say hi they say hey awkwardly, and when i talk i break apart, its all about the insecutirty, i should be all about doing something and not being afraid...

advice? ]]> The Game - Dating and Kissing TheCondex http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35235 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35234&goto=newpost Wed, 16 May 2012 21:02:17 GMT this is going to be long, i dont think i can shorten it.

he said if he isnt good enough for his grandson, he isnt good enough for his son.

so it all started when my fiance's maternity leave was up. we needed a baby sitter. we chose my little sister(she lived/lives with my dad) for several reasons.

she is family, she is close to our house, she is on our way to and from both our works, and also to help her out. she is 17, wanted money but is too shy and doesnt want to leave the house for a real job. so she was to watch our kid at her house(my dads house).

we were to pay her $40 a day, $400 a month. now i dont know how much you guys make, but thats one whole check of my or my fiance's.

the first problem all started when my dad and step mom felt like she wasnt making enough. said things like she isnt even making $5 an hour, etc. the problem here is, they werent saying anything to me, their son. they were telling my fiance every time she would drop my son off.

i was not there, she said she felt as if they were attacking her, ganging up on her, etc. every single time she would drop him off. as if to make her feel bad or something. she got really frustrated and started paying my sister more. they wanted her to get $50 a day, which is $500 a month. at $500 a month that left us with $100-200 left over after all our bills were paid and $200 for groceries and baby stuff. if something happened, broke, used extra that month, we were really going to struggle, not to mention have no money for anything.

i quickly put a stop to it. i said she(my sister) can take $400 a month or we will find someone else. she is FAMILY. without this baby sitting job she would have no job, no income, or would be forced to get off her butt and get out the house and get a real job.

like i said i wasnt there when they said things, or "attacked" her but apparently they really pushed my fiance.

we had a 2nd problem a little bit later on. our kid got sick, we took him to the doctor and he had whatever i forget what it was called. nothing serious, over half babies get it, however my fiance asked how he likely got it and the doctor asked if he had been around smokers. she replied yes, all his grandmothers smoke. doctor said thats pretty much guaranteed where he got it from.

so my fiance came home and posted on facebook what our kid had, that he would be fine, but the doctor said it was highly likely he got it from being around smokers. she asked that everyone that comes and sees him and holds him to please remember to germ x their hands. he hasnt had his shots yet and is still vulnerable to germs.

of course she was being a little worried, and over prospective but i agreed with her. germ x is a couple of seconds and does not hurt. anyone who loves the kid should want them to be healthy and should want to take those couple of seconds to at least attempt to help him not get sick again.

my step mother and dad had came over a couple days before she posted this and my step mom came in and i handed him to her, she goes oh i didnt germ x after she just smoked. she had taken him and didnt say anything till afterwards. i had no idea she had just smoked i was inside and heard them ring the door bell. i told my fiance of this but mind u, she did not post this on my step mothers wall, did not include her name, or tag her in it. it was a general statement to all of her family and friends and mine as well.

first of all because the doctor could not prove our kid got sick because of smoke. he said it was likely but he did not prove it, so we did not know and we did not accuse. secondly if he did get it from smoke, like i said before all his grand others smoke. no way could we or the doctor know which one it was, or if it was a combination of them all.

shortly after my fiance posted that on facebook, my dad text me saying something along the lines of he knew the post was directed at his wife and he had never been so pissed off before.

so i preceded to tell him, her name was not used, it was not on her wall, she was not tagged in it, it was not directed at her. it was for everyone, smokers and non smokers. just because u dont smoke doesnt mean u shouldnt germ x either!

he wasnt having it, he was pissed. my stem mom came up to me at work and asked if it was about her, i told her of course not. it was for everyone that comes to see our kid, smoker or not. she was like oh ok i was going to say thats not fair. i said exactly, and explained even if he got sick by smoke, we couldnt point fingers at any single person, we have no proof!

so the last part is sometime after this they tried to come over and see our kid at our house. they didnt call or text asking if it was a good time, they just showed up. we had plans both days they had came over. they would spend like 30 mins with our kid and we would have to start getting ready. my fiance would grab our kid and give him a bath or dress him and we would be like well we gotta go meet so and so.

they were again pissed saying we were not letting them spend time with him. we were making up stuff and running them off. im like you guys didnt ask if it was a good time to come visit, we have had these plans, we cannot and will not cancel them or be late because you didnt want to make sure it was a good time to visit.

then a couple times afterwards i would ask my dad and step mom to come visit him, stating we had no plans. they declined and have yet to be back over.

they really pushed my fiance, through all of this. she really doesnt want them seeing our kid acting like that and being disrespectful.

so my dad has basically abandoned me. he wont respond to my texts and we used to go bowling every sunday morning. i would ask he would either not respond or decline, then i would see on facebook he posts scores or something from the bowling center.


so the reason im here, i got an email last night saying:

"First your my son, I love you and will be there if you need. I know life can be unfair, rough, and challenging. But in the end it's your life, as is mine or any other person. With that being said, I'm not looking to point fingers, or start a back and forth well what about conversation. I'm just letting you know how I feel. What you think of it and what you do is your choice. I tried to see my grandson and got ran off. If you want me in your life, then pack your son up and bring him to visit. No reason why you can't come over 4, 5, 6, o'clock, not 9:30 when we are going to bed or work. If there is an effort from you, then I will come over again. If not then I guess her finale words of "Our son won't be back over here" are true. But as it stands now if I'm not good enough for my grandson, then I'm not good enough for my son. That's why I've stopped having anything to do with you."

So like i said my fiance does not want our kid over there until they can apologize for how they have treated her, me and denied invites to come visit their grandson. i think they were wrong in every case. they know how much money we make, the money should been left between me and my fiance and my little sister(granted she is 17 and they claim their just looking out for her). they ASSUMED the facebook post was about my step mom(probably because she openly admitted she didnt germ x after smoking!)

so my dad is basically asking me to choose between my fiance/son and him. i say this because if i bring my son over and let him visit them, my fiance will probably take him and run to live with her family. of which i will not get to see him, ill probably have to go to court for visitation rights, which will be what every other weekend? not to mention i love my fiance, i dont want to leave her, or end our relationship.

i talked to my fiance about this, and she said she isnt going to give in and go against what she feels is right. she was looking out for our sons health until he got his shots and they got mad? anyone that cares about him should be looking out for his health as well. she has dont nothing but take up for our kid. done only what she felt was right and felt they were in the wrong. they should apologize and then she would be up for them seeing our kid.

i cant say i disagree with her. but at the same time, i dont want to lose my dad. i also want him to see his grandson, and my son to see his grandpa.

but i feel like this isnt my fight. this is between my dad/step mom and my fiance to work out. if they all loved me they would want to work this out for me, for them, for our kid.

but as it stands, i feel hopeless.

so i ask you, is my dad wrong in putting me in this position?

is my fiance wrong in what i think she would do(she pretty much said she would do it)?

and lastly, what do i do? what do i say?

while i cant promise my relationship with my fiance will work for life, or even for many years, but at this point i feel like she is not wrong. she just tried to protect our son. she didnt do anything wrong in doing so. she has given them many chances but look at what all they have done to her, me, and our kid. but i still dont want to lose my dad... ]]> denied http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35234 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35233&goto=newpost Wed, 16 May 2012 18:46:48 GMT I have a really wonderful girlfriend but over the past month the sex has just been horrible. She has confidence issues and is very self conscious and if I do or say one thing wrong she says it ruins her mood. Foreplay isn't really a problem but once we get started there is just like no spark like there used to be.

We have talked this over but neither of us know what is wrong. Work has been stressful on my end as of late and girlfriend just took a 10% pay cut so there is stress on her end as well. She thinks it's due to being on the BC and it affecting her labido because she only seems horny when she is on her period.

I am just exhausted after work when I see her and don't feel like having sex and then she has the mindset that "whenever we have sex I am not going to get off." She flat out said that this is a horrible mindset to have and it seems as if we are just going through the motions when we have sex. It's just horrible but everything else is fine except our sex which is a very important part of any relationship.

I have decided that I am going to start working out more in order to feel better due to exercise every day but I am wondering if anyone else has been down this rut before. We both want to improve and work on this as our relationship develops but we are unsure of exactly how to. Could this be all from stress due to real life factors? Any advice? ]]> The Sex Shop cswcu48 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35233 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35232&goto=newpost Wed, 16 May 2012 16:12:12 GMT After some advice please - I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years we have lived together for 7 months, we are happy and I thought we were totally in love with one another - our sex life is still great. However, I just found out that he is on a swingers website, I got his password and read loads... After some advice please - I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years we have lived together for 7 months, we are happy and I thought we were totally in love with one another - our sex life is still great. However, I just found out that he is on a swingers website, I got his password and read loads of emails to different couples telling them his is straight and wanted some nsa fun. He had posted pictures of himself (explicit ones) the emails are all dirty telling girls exactly what he would like to do to them, telling them what great bodies they have etc.... He was also asking if they would like to meet up for some dogging fun or anything else they might like. I also checked his email and it turns out that he has been emailing another woman telling her how much she turns him on and can she send him some photos of her and where she would like some action. Think you get the idea

I have confronted him about all this and he tells me he is sorry, embarrassed and he doesn't know why he did it and has promised not to do it again. He tells me he loves me and wants to put this behind us and move on.

I'm really struggling with all this and I just do not know what to do - how am I supposed to trust him after this - he tells me that he has never actually met anyone from the website, however, from what I read its not through want of trying - also not sure I believe him.

Any advice gratefully received ]]> The Sex Shop janexxx http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35232 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35231&goto=newpost Wed, 16 May 2012 14:14:46 GMT I am 26 and engaged, I haven been dating my fiance for 4 years, engaged for 1, Wedding is set for July. We have known each other since we were teenagers, he told me he always knew he loved me but i never gave him a chance that i kept him in the friend zone & he wanted me so bad. My fiance is from a wealthy family, he buys me everything i say i like, even if its just in passing but i feel like he thinks he has to buy my love. He tells me all the time that he loves me and could never think about living without me but lately he has been out all the time working, doing things for his business or traveling. Its like i never see him although he always asks me to travel with him but i cant as i have a job of my own. I love him so much but lately little thing he does is driving me crazy. I've become distant from my fiance and I feel like i don't fit in with his friends or his lifestyle. When at parties i get nervous and feel uncomfortable with those type of people which results in me becoming very talkative, & without really realizing, getting slightly drunk to which my fiance usually tells me to be more quiet or to stop drawing attention to myself. My friends say that because he wanted me for so long, now that he has me he feels he has nothing to worry about or work for. Now when we go to the parties i don't talk unless im talked to or just force a smile and he keeps asking what is wrong with me, tells me he loves me for who i am, the thing that bugs me is that he doesn't show that with his friends/associates. The other day he confronted me about acting different and told me that he doesn't give a sh*t about what people think because he loves me for me, Sometimes i look at him - smile and get excited to see him. I love him but im terrified there is no future for us. I've talked to my mom but she told me to give it a chance but she's only worried about me having security and i don't care about that, i wanna be happy. How can i change things, Any Advice?? ]]> The Long Haul Hollie http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35231 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35230&goto=newpost Wed, 16 May 2012 13:57:57 GMT I have been dating a guy for the past two months and things have been going along really well. I met him on a dating site and connected really quickly as we have many similar interests. He has 2 sons and has just recently spilt up from his wife and moved out of the family home about 4 months... I have been dating a guy for the past two months and things have been going along really well.

I met him on a dating site and connected really quickly as we have many similar interests. He has 2 sons and has just recently spilt up from his wife and moved out of the family home about 4 months ago. He has told me it is over between him and her which I believe.

The problem is we don't get to see each other much. I work 9 - 5 but he starts work at 2pm and finishes 1am so makes it hard to see each other during the week and Saturdays. Then every second weekend he has his kids (I haven't met them yet as we feel it is too soon for that and he doesn't want his ex-wife knowing that just yet) and the weekends he doesnt have his kids, he has football early Sunday mornings with his oldest son so I get to see him once every 10 - 14 days on a Saturday night or if he finishes work early which is about 10.30pm. We speak on the phone every day so at least we still get to talk to each other but the conversations are getting less.

We caught up with each other Saturday night and things were really good. I knew he was free on Sunday so I asked if he wanted to catch up again on Sunday as I didn't know when we would be able to catch up again but he told me he didn't know what he was up to so I left the ball in his court. I got a message Sunday night saying he has his boys that night so can't catch up. I didn't have a problem with that as I know he has to put his kids first.

I have found the last few days he has been pulling away. He doesn't call, he doesn't message. I asked him a quick question Monday morning about a job he wants with my brother and got a one answer response which never happens then tells me that he is really busy which I know he isn't. He rang me last night for about 2 mins whilst he was work to remind me that he won't be free this weekend to catch up or next weekend which I thought was really weird, why would he ring to remind me of that. He has told me twice already. I haven't heard from him at all today.

I don't know what to do. I haven't been chasing him or sending him any messages, I have just left it up to him to contact me but as he has no time, I feel like it will get better once I get to meet his kids which he said will happen soon, I just have to ride this out for now.

How do you ask a guy if he is still interested though. My gut feeling is telling me that he is no longer interested, probably because he has no time but don't know what to do. Do I caontact him to ask if he is ok or do I just let him contact me first. It's killing me! When I think about it, it really isn't fair on me either as I am seeing someone but I can never see them and he only lives 20 mins down the road. I feel like that when he is free, I need to be too otherwise I will never see him. I feel that it is best to end it but am I just thinking that so I beat him to it. I am so confused, I don't know what to think. I really like this guy, I enjoy his company.

Please help anybody. ]]> The Game - Dating and Kissing yelwed http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35230 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35229&goto=newpost Wed, 16 May 2012 12:02:58 GMT I am 26 and have been dating my partner for a little over a year, He is 35 and he is in a heavy metal band. I'll be honest and say that he is definitely not the typical guy that i have dated in the past. I am a touring dancer & have worked on many world tours, Im very girlie and love all things feminine, the same with all my friends. His friends are very edgy, opinionated and when i first met them i knew they were not going to accept me, They always call me Barbie. My friends love him but when the first met him he was intimating and made them nervous as we have never socialized with people like them before. I first met him at one of his bands shows, My bff & her boyfriend begged me to go as they wanted to set me up with their friend who i had no interest in, After the show when i was alone at the bar my partner came up to me and said he noticed me in the crowd as they were performing & that he couldn't take his eyes off me, Long story short we are now a year together. I have recently moved into his place and we seem to always be together, usually have a lot of sex, Honestly i have never had so much in my life, it can be so intense at one point i even blacked out. Last week when his friends were over i went to the bathroom and i overheard them telling him that they never see him anymore & that its like im taking him away from them, That im just trouble and possible using him etc. I was so angry and hurt but never told him that i had heard them saying it. I very rarely go with him on tour as i don't want to put myself in the position of having to deal with them. My friend told me the other day that we have too different of lifestyles to make this last & that its just a fase im going through, We have been talking about getting married and he keeps asking me to think about eloping. I understand that we don't always see eye to eye on things and that we don't always have the same interests but i love him so so much, He is the type of guy i never knew i could be so in love with and now im terrified everything people are saying will be true? Is it possible for complete opposites to be happily married? ]]> The Long Haul Haylie http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35229 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35228&goto=newpost Wed, 16 May 2012 09:32:37 GMT Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip... Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark! Bark yip yip bark!



That is all.... Hours and hours of the neighbours dogs barking.,.. If it's not next door, it's two doors down... or its the other side...

I may not be fond of my dog yet (getting there!) but at least she doesn't bark non-stop for HOURS on end... so far... it's been 4 hours since I've been home...

I just can't tune that shit out ]]> OvershareDude http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35228 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35227&goto=newpost Wed, 16 May 2012 08:43:32 GMT I went on a couple of dates with a girl with lots in common with me and who said she wanted to be in a relationship even before we met. At the end of the first date, she French-kissed me, which was more than the usual response (either no kiss, or a quick kiss). I WAS going to take it slow, as she... I went on a couple of dates with a girl with lots in common with me and who said she wanted to be in a relationship even before we met. At the end of the first date, she French-kissed me, which was more than the usual response (either no kiss, or a quick kiss). I WAS going to take it slow, as she had not been in a relationship in a long time. Because of her enthusiasm, I reciprocated, or so I thought. I thought all was going well, but then I quickly was dumped. This was nearly a month ago, and it has been eating me up inside. So, I e-mailed her as to what went wrong, and here is the response:

So, just the facts. Please keep in mind that most of these things are fine by themselves, but when they added up it became overwhelming.

First, though I enjoyed talking to you, you didn't always pick up on when I was tired and didn't want to talk as much (like when I was driving back from my lesson one Monday.) You would sometimes ask me questions but only get the surface answer before talking over me and jumping to another topic (enthusiasm is great, but I was sometimes feeling mentally bombarded. Again, fine in and of itself sometimes).

You were projecting a lot of your desperation. You had all your hopes set on this working out, and didn't let anything progress slowly. Again I was bombarded, and when you offered to help me mow my lawn it did not make me feel like a good person for even entertaining the idea. Offering to help here and there as things develop is natural but wanting to please me so early on is not so great.

You once interupted me midsentence just to kiss me again. See above about not paying attention to what I was saying aside from surface info.

That mostly covers it. Too much too soon too strong.

I want to be with her worse than ever now. There is no one she is currently seeing. I don't know why she wouldn't just communicate her concerns rather than quickly dumping me.

What do I do? Wait a month and then call her? I thought that two people with similar interests and goals with few options otherwise who both wanted to be in a relationship--and I was encouraged by our match-maker--well, I thought that it would work out unless something absolutely terrible happened, which this didn't seem to be!

All I really can do is apologise, in a month (?) and hope that I can make things work again. Advice? ]]> The Game - Dating and Kissing mrcvs http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35227 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35225&goto=newpost Wed, 16 May 2012 03:33:53 GMT Alright, so unfortunately, due to having roughly the same circle of friends, I've had to hang out with her a couple of times. Ever since I agreed with her about a week and a half ago that it was completely over, whenever she is around me, she is constantly, and I mean constantly, talking about other guys and pointing out guys she thinks are cute, and she only acts this way when I'm around, and is even more aggressive with this attitude when her and I are alone. At this point, I'm just getting pissed off. A group of us actually went to my best friends soccer game the other day and it actually got to the point where I got up quietly and walked away because I just didn't want to deal with it, she ruined the whole night. I just don't get why she is intentionally going out of her way to do this after being the one who broke up with me. I would think she had hurt me enough at this point.

I just don't know what her deal is and this is just a game I won't play, but it still hurts regardless, there is no way it wouldn't, partly because of the relationship we had, and majorly because of the fact that this girl I still love and will always love no matter what, is going out of her way to try and hurt me. I just don't really know how to proceed at this point. I personally am not ready to date again and wouldn't want to try, I'm happy being single right now, and besides that, dating just to try and combat what she is trying to do to me is basically dating for the wrong reason. At the same time, I don't want to hurt my ex either, even after having been hurt multiple times by her. I've moved on from that, and I've moved on from her, but she is just really getting annoying, and whatever she's trying to do, I don't think she's getting the results she wants and it's making things worse. Sadly, the desire to salvage the friendship is still there and I'm doing my best to do that. But with her acting like this, it's just really not working. ]]> Down in the Dumps rjm124 http://www.relationship-forums.com//showthread.php?t=35225