The first I love you

[waiting_on_an_angel]

Describe the first time you heard or said I love you. Did you plan it or did it just happen?

[chiukit]

<span style='color:darkblue'>I still don't see the use of "planning" to say those three words. What's the point? If it feels right, I Love You should come out by itself. The first time I said it or had it said to me... well, it's a personal story that I don't want to dive into right now...


...I'm falling asleep. Hah! But yeah, to plan to say it... I just don't see it... don't see why... </span>

[Bravehearter]

ChiuKit is 100% right.

I dont think planning to say it is right. Just say it when your heart feels right. That is when you know it is love.

[Mooch]

It's been 10 months and I haven't said it yet...I'm kind of scared...I want to know I mean it when I do...

[stace]

i don't remember the first time i said I love you to my guy it's been awhile though, but i said it when i felt it and he's the only guy i've said it too and he knows it, i think it was even within a few months but i can't remember exacly, wait i just checked some old notes it was withina few weeks but hey if you feel it say it, and i ment it and do mean it so what's wrong with saying it, don't be worried about it some people feel they want the other person to say it 1st and some people say it the second they feel it just don't say it to say it those peeps are just plain stupid.

[Mooch]

wow Stace, you keep notes?

I'd be worried if my gf kept notes... :lol:

[stace]

wow Stace, you keep notes?

I'd be worried if my gf kept notes... :lol:

just those notes that he'd write me in studyhall that's all he has *cough* most of the ones i wrote him, i udes to keep the movie tickets stubs too but then i kept forgetting to put them in the notebook with all ths stuff i had from him.

[zoe]

It definately wasn't planned..

My boyfriend just wrote me the sweetest letter that included his account of the first time we said I love you in it :).

I was actually crying when we said it.. haha. Not out of joy though. It was during the summer, on the night I was leaving to fly halfway across the U.S. for a week to see family. My dad caught us kissing in my room, got all mad, and told my boyfriend to leave. That didn't go over too well.. seeing that I was leaving for a week, for the first time we had been seperated since we started dating, and it was pretty far away. Anyway, I was crying, and.. yeah.. it happened. It was during a very upsettling time, but it turned out to be all I needed to get me through that week I was away. It was pretty early into our relationship, actually, but we both meant it and it was very special. :mrgreen:

[Delita]

wow Stace, you keep notes?

I'd be worried if my gf kept notes... :lol:

just those notes that he'd write me in studyhall that's all he has *cough* most of the ones i wrote him, i udes to keep the movie tickets stubs too but then i kept forgetting to put them in the notebook with all ths stuff i had from him.

Don't take anything out of the notebook! You'll lose it and be sad for days and days and never forgive yourself :cry:

[Deidre]

The first time ever? Umm... my ex. I just blurted it out, after having had to surpress the need to say it for some time. He didn't say a thing. Not even an avoiding "thanks"... he just stared off, for an hour... hands hardly touching me. I felt really bad. I told him he didn't have to return it, and I meant that, but he just couldn't look at me... or say anything. I cried a little and he absently rubbed my arm.
Our conversation consisted of: "you don't have to stay?", "do you want me to leave?" and the answer, "no". The day after that we had the closest thing to an argument we ever got... hrm... something like, "I'm sorry for making you so uncomfortable yesterday." "Damnit, Emma, don't apologise for something like that!"
Umm.. yeah... it's not a nice memory.

[hunny]

I have a really nice "I love you" story.
I"ve posted it before though, but since you asked...
My bf and I had been dating for nearly 5 months, and I'd been sort of trying to keep things from getting really serious, because we both knew he was going away to college in Jan of last year. But after he left, I missed him so much and realized that I loved him but hadn't told him yet.
He'd only been at school maybe 3 weeks before I took a train 7 hours to go visit him. He had to borrow a car to come pick me up at the train station. When he got there, I told him I had to come all the way out there to see him because I had to say "I love you."
His answer was "I love you too."
Then we kissed, and it was in the train station, it was the best feeling I'd ever had, really.
Then we went back to his dorm room and made love for the first time.
So yeah, my first "I love you" was totally planned, and a long time in coming, but really worth it.
Even though we're broken up now...

[Truth]

with my most recent ex....ummm....she was the one to take the initiative to tell me that she loved me. She said it within the first week of our relationship... I guess I felt that it was to soon but at the same time it was such a great feeling to hear her say it to me... Kind of made me feel special when she told it to me so soon.

I look back now and realize that was just probably the infacuation talking.

You should only say "I Love You" only when you really feel it is right to say it....

[Tootsie Pop]

Him and I spent the whole summer together. The last night we were together before he had to go away to college (end of August) we were in his car,.. in my driveway. It was the last possible moment before I wouldnt see him again for a few weeks. Tears were pouring down my face, and I just said it... because I know that if I didnt say it right then and there.... I would regret it forever. I didnt plan it... I kinda just blurted it out because it was 100% true.

[super_chevy2000]

I have only told one guy that I loved him and we were together for 2 years. The first time he told me he loved me was one and a half months after we started dating.We had been to a movie and I had driven because his truck was broke down. When I dropped him back off at his house, we sat in the car for a while in deep conversation about the things that scared us. He kissed me goodnight then got out of the car. He was nervous so he said "I love You" really quick then shut the car door before I had time to respond. I came home and called his house immediately. As soon as he answered the phone I said "I love you too." He was quiet for a moment and then he said that he was afraid of what my response would be. That was why he said it so quickly then shut the door. I remember it like it was yesterday and it was such a special night for me.

[indigold]

It was a little past our 4 month anniversary and I was taking him out for his birthday. we went to medieval times (that knight show, it's so cool & I definitely reccommend it!) and had such a blast. We were at home kissing on my bed, and then he gave me a huge hug (lying down) and whispered it in my ear.

I was thinking, "wow. Love is a really serious word. He loves me..." and then I started crying (I'm such a sap). Then I said it back, and that was that :)

[AbnormalBob]

i have never been so lucky to hear those words from a girl, nor have i said it. im deprived...o well

[lana]

[quote]<span style='color:darkblue'>I still don't see the use of "planning" to say those three words. What's the point? If it feels right, I Love You should come out by itself. The first time I said it or had it said to me... well, it's a personal story that I don't want to dive into right now...


...I'm falling asleep. Hah! But yeah, to plan to say it... I just don't see it... don't see why... </span>

Hell with the planning! Chiu is right. Whatever I do or say... most of it is based on my emotions and how I feel towards something or someone. You say "I love you" because it feels like the right thing to say. Well planning it out could mean... you've been feeling this way and wanted a special way of saying it at a certain event... hmmm...

I don't think I did anything special... but I believed I said it in person. I don't remember how I felt...

[super_chevy2000]

Me and my bf didn't plan to say "I love you", we just done it which is what made it so special.

[cutie-pie]

I didn't plan it at all and the moment was perfect!
We were sitting on the grass, under a tree, near the lake on a summer afternoon just talking and flirting and kidding when it got serious for a moment and I just stared at him, then I suddenly kissed him, looked at him, said "I love you" by which a VERY sudden "I love you too" followed and we kissed again! I guess he responded so fast because it was just such a moment we were both thinking the same thing! :)

[KnappyOne]

Okay, the first time I ever actually told a girl, was back in my day of being an un-loyal, player, who said it just to get me some, never meant it, and hardly ever spoke to the girl again, just random passing hi's and bye's and all that shit.

The first time that I ever said it, and truly meant it, kinda shocked the shit out of me. That happened with my ex-fiance Jenny. We were at her best friends house, playing truth or dare. Well, comes to me, and they I said truth.... I was fearing the worst when Michelle looks at me, and says in a really angered voice, like she was gonna do something to get me and Jenny to break up.... well she says "Telllllllllllll ME!!!!!!!!!.....(and then smiles and calms down) What exactly are your feelings for Jenny, never seen you stick arround a girl as much as you have with her, and never have seen you call someone, and be with someone this much..... So tell me, what are your feelings for her????"

I just looked at her, and said..... " Well, I..... I um, well, I Love her, yeah Jenny, I love you, and I want you to be mine...." Jenny looked at me with this puzzled look, started crying, and just grabbed me and gave me a big hug, and whispered in my ear, "I love you too, and I have for a while, been wanting to say it, but wasn't sure how you would respond to it..... " And then she stood up, and basically like screamed, "yes, everyone, I love this guy, and if you have a problem with it, he'll kick your ass!!!!!!!"

That was a moment, and night I'll never forget, I'll carry that memory, as I do with every memory of Jenny, with me forever. That girl made me who I am, and I'll never stop thanking her for it, and I'll never stop thanking her for guiding me to Jackie.

First time I told Jackie, we wer just laying in my room talking, and some how we got on the topic of love, and I just asked her, "what would you say if I told you I loved you, because I do?" She just kinda looked at me, and like stumblled out the words, " I.... Looooove you tooo" and then said, "I love you too."

And that is that..........

[ShRt SwEEt*n*SexY]

it was about 7 months into our relationship. his aunt who he was really close with died. we stayed up till 10:15 (i go to bed at 9:45 no matter what other wise i'm a cranky bitch) both of us crying, i think i realized that if this would have been anyone else i wouldn't have cried for them because i don't cry very often. and i think we realized that no one has ever cared that much for him. and then it just came out, and it still means the same thing now as it did then.

[Asphodelle13]

Well my first time that I said it(and I meant it too) was in the summer of '97 with my first b/f, I think we had been going out for only a few weeks at the time..I went with him and his family to a drive-in movie, it was a double feature so we were there for a while...him and I decided to go on a walk to get away from his parents...we held hands(that was a big thing at the time cause it all was so innocent), and he said it to me, and I told him that I loved him...

And with Gary all those feelings came to me so quick, and I wanted to say it but was waiting for the perfect moment(plus I was scared :P )... he definetely gave me a shock when he said it to me...damn I wish I could remember the exact day(I can't)..but I do know that he made me very very happy. :mrgreen:

[Adonis]

*reads all the posts*

damn..i've lead a sheltered life... =Pp

[KnappyOne]

And with Gary all those feelings came to me so quick, and I wanted to say it but was waiting for the perfect moment(plus I was scared :P )... he definetely gave me a shock when he said it to me...damn I wish I could remember the exact day(I can't)..but I do know that he made me very very happy. :mrgreen:

hahaha Jackie, you are the girl, you're supposed to remember the dates and stuff.... LOL ya know, that's how its supposed to work, or something like that, but haha, I can't remember the exact date. It was the Friday night before your graduation, but I can't remember the day your graduated........grrrrrrrrr...... shoot me now please.......LOL

[Asphodelle13]

hahaha Jackie, you are the girl, you're supposed to remember the dates and stuff.... LOL ya know, that's how its supposed to work, or something like that, but haha, I can't remember the exact date. It was the Friday night before your graduation, but I can't remember the day your graduated........grrrrrrrrr...... shoot me now please.......LOL

Yeah I remember now, for some reason I was braindead last night... :roll: :mrgreen: June 2nd I graduated(hell I know that), and that was on a Saturday..... :lol: ::mwaaaah:: sorries babe, you can shoot me now. :lol: (I got to start writing this stuff down). :P

[ArRoWLeGeNd]

i said it, and sorta expected for her to freak out. i was so happy when she said it back! :D

~ArRoWLeGeNd~

[SoSweetAngel]

It wasn't a big deal. We'd sign stuff "love" and say "love you" casually when we parted. So we'd say it before we even knew each other very well! Which is a good thing in a way, because there was none of the pressure. We both knew that we weren't in love, twas far too soon.

It took the meaning out of it a little, but there is a difference between just saying "I love you", and staring into someone eyes, knowing that you love them and telling them so.

[JessiMari]

Well it happened like around September. He told me he loved me, but I thought it was too soon to be saying that. Altho, now, we do mean it....well at least I do.