Your Longest Relationship

[KnappyOne]

Just a simple question, what has been your longest relationship, and why did it come to an end..

For me, my longest was 3 years, 11 monthes and 8 days. We met a week before my 18th birthday, she was my dude Johns girlfriends friend. Jenny tagged along with Michelle and John, cuz well, Michelle wanted me and Jenny to meet, she thought we would be great for each other. We started hanging out and stuff, and that week leading up to my b-day, I felt myself falling for her. Well she asked me what I wanted for my b-day one day, and I looked at her smiled, and said, "For you to be mine." She smiled, and kinda blushed, and said, "Well, I'll have to see what I can arrange." Well on my b-day, she gave me a card, and in it she wrote, "your wish is my desire, if what you asked for before still stands, then just consider me yours." And well, from that day on, we were an official item.

I loved that girl with all my heart and then some, and I planned on marrying her. We were engaged for the last almost 2 years. Then in one fateful twist, it all came to an end. 3 years ago March 20th, 1999, I was at work, and was supposed to meet up with Jenny at a party when I got off work. Friday night, party time and all that. Well I got stuck at work, and ended up working 4 hours overtime. So instead of getting off at 7pm like I was supposed to, I ended up getting home at like 11:30 pm. Well what happened next will forever be etched in my head.

I called Jenny's house, and asked for the number at Carlita's house, and her mom gave it to me. Well I called Jenny to let her know I was gonna get a shower and all, and then I'd come out there, and we could be together. Well she told me that the party was pretty much a flop, and that everyone had left. She said she was gonna go home, and I could just come out there. Well, I told her I was pretty much beat, and was just gonna take my shower, and go to bed, and we'd be able to spend all day Saturday night after work, and then we could spend all day together Sunday and Monday, considering them were my off days at the time. She said okay, and told me she loved me. I told her I loved her, and hung up the phone. I went and got my shower, and hopped in bed. All of a sudden I just got this weird feeling that something wasn't right, and about 2 hours later, or 2:30 am, the phone rings, and its Jenny's mom, crying and saying something that I couldn't understand. Her dad grabs the phone, and says "Gary, Jenny is gone...." and then he started crying as well. I'm like in shock now, and just start screaming into the phone...."Gone, what the hell are you talking about, Gone? Gone? What the hell?...." the next words out of her dads mouth killed me inside, I just wanted to die on the spot. He says "She was in an accident, and died. She is gone......." I just slammed the phone down, and ran out to my car, wearing only a pair of sweat pants, no shoes no socks, and drove out to her house. When I got there, I saw 3 cop cars sitting there, lights flashing. I get out of my car and run up to her house, and a cop stops me, and asks who I was. I told him, and he led me into the house to Jenny's parents. They were both in complete and utter shock, and neither could really say much. I went up to another one of the cops and asked what happened, and where. He tells me that Jenny had been traveling towards her home in a 50 mph zone, when a deer ran out in front of her car, well she swerved to avoid it, and had a blow out when she swerved. She lost control of her car, went into a ditch, flipped over and went airborne, and while airborne crashed into a telephone pole. Jenny's neck was snapped on impact, and she died pretty much instantly. I asked if I could go to the scene, and the officer offered to take me there. I accepted, and we went. OMG, her car was virtually non-existent, and you could see skid marks from all four tires extending for about 50 feet, and then all of a sudden one disappears, and the skids veer off towards the ditch. Just looking at the scene makes me wonder what kind of terror that girl had felt in her last few seconds of life. her car went through a fire hydrant, took out 3 mailboxes, and then came to its fateful rest against the telephone pole. The engine was literally gone from what once was an 86 Camaro. A headlight was found freaking 50 feet from the remains of the car. We all wonder how fast she was going, and the police say judging from the skid marks and all she was going somewhere between 50 and 55 mph.

We laid her to rest 4 days later, on March the 24th 1999, and I still say to this day, that person in that coffin was not my Jenny. Her head was huge, and her neck was the same. They said that all was caused from her neck being snapped and her skull being fractured in several places.

To this day, I still think of her always, and I'm glad she was such a big part of my life, that girl changed me a lot, and it was all for the better. I was always a playa who showed no loyalty to anyone, and fully pledged allegiance to myself, and no one else. She changed all that, showed me what it was to love, and to treasure a person to the fullest extent.

I sometimes sit and think, what might of been had she not left me to be in Heaven. Then sometimes I sit, and know she is watching over me, and has helped guide me to where I am now, and to the person I love more then life itself. I wonder Jenny, did you send me to Jackie, did you guide my path? If so, I thank you, and will continue to love you always....

Rest in Peace Genevieve Lynn Nagy, I'll love you always, keep watching over me girl, I know you'll never steer me wrong........

[*after8*]

..........
woah.
that totally sucks *hug*
ouch... =( i dont even know what to say...

..but to answer your question.. my longest relationship (is the one im in now) and we've been goin out for like 13 months...

[Klounn]

4 years... it wasn't really GOING OUT... but it was... confusing...

[piglet]

5 and a half months....till I found out that the whole time he was dating me he was cheating on his other girlfriend (they were together 2 years.....we both dumped him when we found out about eachother)

[Pudding]

omg



*hugs gary*

thats so sad. its like a dream. its something ud read in a book. im so sorry it happend, and i too believe shes with you always. *sad smile*

my longest relationship is 1 year, 5 months, 6 days and still counting. weve broken up 4 times, but they never lasted more than 3 days. so we didnt count them. its scary cuz hes my first everything too. first boyfriend, first kiss, first sexual partner... etc.
we were just talking about it coupla days ago... ive just turned 17, he's turnin 18 in coupla months.. and its so scary cuz its 18 months soon.. then 2 years.. and i wont even be 18. i regret getting into this relationship this early, because its sort of too serious for me to handle. he's played around lots before me, had one nightstands and shit like that, while ive never had a chance. and that bugs me sometimes. and its like.. theres a certain age u can sleep around and not care and not get a bad rep yknow? the immature, stupid 14-16. but now its too late for me to do that, and plus i wouldnt want to lose this guy over some 20 random fucks or whatever,, but it still gets to me.

anyway now im just rambling.
moving on....

[mollyelaine]

a year 7 months and 5 days :cry: bleh, if you really wanna know why we broke up search my other recents post, I'm sick of talking about it.

[Brass Monkey]

I've been in 2 serious relationships that lasted over a year.

The first one was about 16 months. We just grew apart and both needed to move on. Nothing big, nothing bad...we're still friends too.

The second...oh god. Together for 9 months, broke up for 2, got back together for 4 more months. That was also the relationship where she got pregnant after the first 4 months of us being together. I was her first and we went through so much together. The reason we broke up the first time was becuase I left town for almost a month and she suspected me of cheating on her while I was away...she wanted time off from the relationship...a week later she was dating someone else. :roll:
We later got back together (I don't know why, I'm still kicking myself in the ass for that) and for that last month or so we were together she was really emotionally distant and our sex life was non-existant. Turns out she was cheating on me during that last month...figures.

[-Tokyo-]

It'll be two years in two weeks....

:o


Can't believe it's been that long.

[zoe]

I feel.. so pathetic lol. My longest (my current one) will be 10 months on April 30th. I'll catch up to all of you, you just see! :o

[Deidre]

That is so... sad. :(

Umm, my longest relationship is my current one (the last one was 5 months)... in a few days it'll be 9 months.

[stace]

the longest one is my current on and that is 2 years 4 months, we'll hit the 2 years 5 month mark on the 24th of April. and the wierd thing it doesn't seem that long to use but everyone else is like om my gosh (where's the mouth dropping smily face when u need them!!)

[~Fanta~]

Oh, that is so sad, i'm really sorry :cry:

My longest relationship is my current one, and it'll be a year and 3 months on may 5th.

[Intrigue1201]

1 and a half months....it ended cuz he wanted it to

[goofball]

4 1/2 months

[rcwant2be]

Gary, your post was so moving. **Hugs** You are obviously a very strong person being able to move on after that. I probably woulda have lost it. "Love can touch us one time and last for a lifetime."

Longest relationship, sounds kinda like Klounns, it's not *really* going out but it's been an amazing ride. 5 years ago wednesday i met the friend of a friend, Brian. i wasn't interested at the time, but little did i know that this guy would quickly become the center of my world. we were sophomores in high school. he had just gotten his driver's license & his dad is a car dealer, so he was always driving something nice. he was the first boy ever ot show interest in me & the first boy to call me pretty. that summer we hung out alot, talked on the phone, & went for drives. his mom didn't like me much & started nixing our plans last minute. it upset me & eventually i couldn't control it. we had a fight & that was the end of it. we stopped talking, he started dating other girls. we'd see each other from time to time, but never talked. then when we started college he got ahold of my im name & started chatting. we made ammends for our high school blunders. that summer we went to a concert together & had a great time. as we left the concert he mentioned it again, how pretty i was. it was pin drop quiet in the car for the 2 hour ride home. in january i was sitting in the bar after just breaking up with my b/f of 5 months a week b4, feeling down on myself when i started thinking of brian, cuz he used to talk about that particular bar a lot, when who do i see sititng at a corner table but him. i went over said hi & he invited me to sit down. i hadn't seen him in 9 months. we spent a long time reminiscing. i thought i was over him, that was, until he lead me outon the dance floor & pulled me close & then leaned back to look me in the eye with his tonya-melting glare. i was quickly transported back to high school & all those feelings. this was my first love & good friend. we've been much more chatty latley, & seeking each other out to spend time together. we're both going home for the summer & i'm hoping to maket he most of it. perhaps our time is now since we've done a lot of growing up since sophomore year. who knows, but i'm always glad to have brian around, no matter what capactity it may be.

If you love something, set it free...????

[JaMiTHy]

2 years, 9 months and 3 weeks

were still realllyyyy good friends too :D

[miz erotika]

1 yr 7 mo and some odd no of days....

being in a ltr is such a nice feeling sometimes

[Wolf]

8 months

[beatrice]

It's my current one and it'll be 9 months in a few days. My previous (and first one) lasted 6months out f which we were seeing each other for 3,5 then he went for vacation for the rest, and we fell apart (or maybe he did, and found a new girlfirend) But now I'm perfectly happy, and hope I could beat you :wink:

[indigold]

my longest, my only, my current relationship is for almost 10 months and counting. We talk about the future a lot though so hopefully there's still tons in store :)

[SoSweetAngel]

Gary............
What can someone who's never met you on some random forum say? Not a lot...
Like pudding said - it's like something you'd read in a book or something. It's just too horrible that something like that could actually happen.
I hope nothing like that ever happens to...anyone in the world...ever. :(

Me - my current relationship, 17 months 3 weeks :)
I love him. I want to marry him. I always thought myself a realist...and being with the person you first kissed, first had sex with, seems unreal in this world...but I don't want anyone else.
We've broken up a few times...we first got together about 3 years ago, but we've gone over a year without any breakups...and it's just great :)

[super_chevy2000]

2 years when we broke up. He broke it off with me because he was in love with another girl.

[KnappyOne]

Gary, your post was so moving. **Hugs** You are obviously a very strong person being able to move on after that. I probably woulda have lost it.

I basically did lose it for about a year and a half. It came a little over 2 years after I lost my brother to suicide. Still even now, come every February (2-22-97 being when my bro committed suicide), and March I kinda withdraw into my own little shell, and don't want much to do with anyone, or anything. Losing Jenny had a major effect on me, and I didn't allow myself to trust anyone, and didn't even attempt to date, or allow myself to be in any relationship at all. Then I finally did start dating again, at the basic demand of Michelle and John. Had a few absolute failures and then one somewhat meaningful relationship that lasted 6 monthes that ended cuz she was a psycho bitch. Went on to a few casual dates here and there, and then, out of nowhere, Jackie turns up in my life, and I couldn't be happier then I am now.

"Love can touch us one time and last for a lifetime."


That quote is so true, Jenny will be with me always, in both my heart, and in the person that I am today. Like I said, that girl changed me a lot, and it was all for the better.

[chiukit]

That's... a bad way for things to end, especially when things are going so well. It's stupid how things can change in an instant... then your life goes down the drain.


As for my longest relationship, it's the one I'm in right now :).

[SweetNSexy]

My longest (the guy I'm with now) has been 1 year, 4 months, and 21 days..... He's 19, I'm only 16, and I'm totally in the same situation as Pudding. WAY too early to get in such a serious relationship... but I love him. I'm the third person he's had sex with, he's my first. I try to not let it bother me, because I know it was all before he even knew me, but it still bugs me. We've talked about marriage and all, but (this sounds bad) I'm not really planning on it. I mean, I'd love to be with him forever, but when I go away to college and he stays home, its gonna be nuts. Also, I can't see myself just having sex with one guy for the rest of my life!! There's no way!!

[lana]

*hugs Gary*

It's interesting though to have some relationships change you almost completely for the better (from you changing from an unloyal player to a long-term relationship loving boyfriend). Or to have them teach you something new at the very least. When loved ones who leave you unexpectedly... it's hard to understand why destiny has carved its path this way.

Anyhow... My longest relationship was my first one. It lasted a year or so...

[Bravehearter]

Damn Gary, I had no Idea :cry: :(


My longest is the one im in right now.. its been seven months, I know that doesnt seem very long, but I actually waited for the right girl before I got into a serious relationship.. I was always scared of getting my heart broken.

But the girl im with right now is my dream girl. And im madly in love.

[Mooch]

I have only been in one realationship, and it has lasted for 10 months so far...

[HeavenSent]

my current one, 5 months and 4 days and very happy!!

[Asphodelle13]

My longest relationship(other then my present one) was with my first b/f, we were both 14 and it lasted 6 mths, actually 2 yrs but we broke up several times after those first good 6 mths..I guess that was when I learned how to love someone, it was so magical and innocent...I'll never forget that first summer...But with time, we grew apart from each other, and he changed into a total loser that acted indifferent to me(he got into drugs), even though I wanted to be with him for so long. It was very hard for me to let him go and move on, I was scared that I'd never find anyone else that would want me, someone that I could love forever...Now he's married and has a kid, I heard that he's real happy and all, so I guess I'm happy for him. I was too immature back then anyway to make a serious relationship work..Since then I've had a couple meaningful but shortlived relationships and many that ended in heartbreak..but I've matured a lot from all that..and then Gary found me :), and gave me the happiness and the love that I thought I had forever lost...he also helped to give me the strength to move on, and never give up on myself...Now I'm in love, with a renewed sense of hope, and I feel very lucky to have him in my life.

[ps_tiger]

5 and a half months. Because We went away to college. And because he really annoyed me.

[Tootsie Pop]

I feel.. so pathetic lol. My longest (my current one) will be 10 months on April 30th. I'll catch up to all of you, you just see! :o

My longest actually is 10 months. And ya know what? Thats 10 months as of today. Yay! But I guarentee you all, it is no where near being over. I am sure I will be adding many many more months onto that. <3 <3

[moonangel]

1 year and 8 months ... and it was like a rollercoaster - a rollercoaster that ran off the rails and crashed and burned into the ground ...

*Sigh*

[sunfrost]

4 months... (okay I'm a loser)... ended because of an age difference and problems related to that... she wasn't that free as I am, and we both had time for eachother on the wrong moments and finding time to spend together was pretty hard.

[BabyDiva]

I am so sorry for your loss. I understand though - I had to lay a friend to rest my junior year of high school. One of my best friends of 9 years, due to a misdiagnosis of Reye's Syndrome.

My longest was my relationship with my former boyfriend. We were 2 weeks shy of 5 years when we ended it. I was not the person he wanted. We were about 3 months from getting engaged, but he didn't want the woman I had become apparently. I should have know cause it was after he'd cheated on me twice.

His loss, not mine. There is a much better man out there who will appreciate me for who I am, not what he wants me to be.

[ShRt SwEEt*n*SexY]

the longest would have to be my current relationship of 2 years 1 month and 13 days. he almost dumped me once but that was like 1 1/2 years ago and i was a total bitch so i deserved a reality check. but we didn't break up and 1 1/2 years later we're just 2 peas in a pod!!

[geckosnipp]

:roll: :roll: :roll: <--- is :( :( :(

Hugs gary.

That sounds like something out of a book, man im sorry. im not good at things like that but you know what i mean.
I feel like shit talking about my relationship after what you've gone through. But just for it 3 years 4 months. Were both 15. Yeah i know i know. It may end soon on account of her misguided discion to may move to norway for misguided reasons under misguided influences...misguidedly.

[ArRoWLeGeNd]

my longest was an internet relationship with a girl for 3 months. we broke up b/c my parents thought she was a little too young...

~ArRoWLeGeNd~

[*pOpuLaR~pRiNcEsS*]

9 months...

[JessiMari]

WOW!!!! *crying* I can't believe it!! That was so freakin sad!!!!! I'm sorry that happened to you.

Well I have been with my bf for 9 months...We are still together, but really not that happy right now.

[-Tokyo-]

Gary...I'm so sorry...

My longest relationship is 2 years and counting...

[Sydney123456]

Year and a month.

Decided he didn't like me anymore, and on the spot dumped me. He said it was a break over the summer, and we could get back together if we still felt the same way. And told me that his best friend (which was a girl), had nothing to do with it.

Of course, we never got back together, and 2 weeks after we'd broken up, he got together with his best friend. Apparently he cheated on me with her. Grr...anyways, it's over.

[waiting_on_an_angel]

My longest relationship lasted about a year and a half. A lot longer than it should have. It was basically the best experience I never want to repeat. It taught me a lot of what I do and don't want in a relationship, and a lot about how I deserve to be treated.

My current relationship is going on 9 months May 25. I have a strong feeling it will go on for a lot longer. :mrgreen:

[Jebus]

My longest relationship lasted...

two weeks!

...yes, people tend to get tired of me pretty quickly. And it's the same excuse each time, were just to good of friends. One of these days though, one of these days...

[musicchick2000]

I'm sooo sorry :(
At least now you have Hallow (sorry, her name escapes me at the moment)

*wipes tears from her eyes to answer the question*

My longest (and only, pathetic as that is) relationship has been one year 7 months and 3 days... and still going strong. We're planning to get married some day.

[LuckyRiverJordan]

6 months....june 3rd will be our 7 months ann. (WOW)

Gary, i am very sorry. God brings certain people in our lives to change them and guide us on the right path. You have Jackie now and you love her to pieces. Keep going strong....

[Raptor]

omg Gary, that story made me cry. It was just so unreal. I cant evenbegin to imagine what that must have been like for you, but it really touched me.

I feel so sorry for you :cry: :cry: :cry:

[*pOpuLaR~pRiNcEsS*]

*hugs Gary*

It's really sad. I am deeply sorry for you and Jenny's family.

[Shocka]

whoa, Gary... whoa. :(
That's really sad - we're so sorry...

[KnappyOne]

Ya know, sometimes I sit there and think about Jenny, but you know what, I can't be sad. I'm happy that I was a part of her life, and she was a part of mine. Like I said, that girl changed me, a lot, and it was all for the best. I look through our pictures together and stuff, and all I can do is smile, and laugh at the times we had together. Who knows what may of happened had she not passed on. I may of never met Jackie, and in fact, I may of never came across this place, or anything. I dunno, but I feel Jenny is always with me, and she's led me to Jackie, and I love Jackie with all my heart.