Can you see yourself getting married..?

[Bravehearter]

I was talking to my gf the other day about how all of our friends can easily see us getting married. We are both in college right now, and are talking about moving in with each other maybe in 6 months to a year, and for the first time, the idea of getting married isnt scary. Boy do I feel old.

So do you and your bf/gf ever talk about it..?
Does it Scare you..?
Does it interest you..?

[kuju]

Back when I WAS in a LTR (Long Term Relationship... let it catch on for the purposes of this forum) my boyfriend would talk about marriage, but I was 17, and later 18... and it really wasn't something I was thinking about. I mean, I've always wanted to get married some day, and I still do... but it never occured to me that it would be to him. Even when I was in love with him, i KNEW that this was NOT the kind of person I could live with. as one of my favourite authors once wrote, "Love's wonderful, but it is not enough to keep us together for years of marriage." There's a BIG difference between love and compatibility. Besides, I wasn't planning on still going out with him once we were in university. I knew that our relationship wouldn't last long-distance... (of course, it turns out that I dumped him long before it would ever have come to that... and he ended up not only at my university, but three fucking floors above me in my residence, the bastard)

*ahem* sorry.

Marriage doesn't scare me. But at the same time, I am NOT under the illusion that it is forever. I'd like it to be, but I'm a realist. When I make the commitment, I make it, but if it must be broken, or has been broken by the other end, then it's over.

[Truth]

yes i do...when i was with my most recent ex, i would have deifently gotten married...but after most recent (nothing to do with the break up wit my ex) events I am not to sure anymore...

[goofball]

yes, but it's so far outside my life's plan for a while as to seem absurd

[rcwant2be]

well, back when i was in a LTR...(sound familiar ;) ) my b/f actually proposed, not like on one knee with the ring or anything textbook like that, but one night we were just cuddling & he was like so do you think we should get married? not that i want to get into all the details here on the forum, because i'm afraid some people would rush to judgement of me, but he was older, much older than me. however, i feel that, if i have experienced true love, he is as close as i have gotten. i seriously considered his offer. he wanted me to move in & was ready to provide for me, but i just couldn't do it. my family didn't approve & i could see how much it was hurting them & i wasn't sure i was ready to give my life to a man who was already a 3 time cancer survivor and might only live another 10 or 20 years (god forbid). i couldn't imagine starting over at 30. we continued our relationship but broke up in december, a mutual thing, the hardest thing i have ever done. we still talk from time to time. he taught me a lot about love & life, & for that i am ever indebted to him.

[LaRêveuse]

My boyfriend and I talk about it occasionally, it doesn't scare either one of us, but we know we can't depend on getting married one day. We're still young, but I think our relationship is growing stronger and stronger and based on our history together we will stay together for a long long while. I could definitely see us getting married, and a few of the girls I hang out with at school tell me often that my boyfriend and I are one of the few high school couples they think will actually make it. I like to hope so. :wink:

[nicruns]

someday.... right now w/ uni i really dont want to anythime soon. getting through school is my top priority. i love my bf but i dont want to be married right now

[SoSweetAngel]

Yes I can :)
Sometimes it does make me wonder...I mean that I'll never be with anyone else...
He proposed(yes, down on one knee with a diamond ring) to me last year. Everyone is always critisising us and telling us we're too yonug (I'm 17, he's 18) but I don't think we're too young to make a commitment to each other. We both accept that it might not work out, but for now it's going just fine.
I'd love nothing more than to walk down the isle with him in a few years time.

[Stratocaster]

Well, I'd have to find a man before I could start considering that! lol

[Truth]

Well, I'd have to find a man before I could start considering that! lol

hah, that's funny...I have to do the same....errrr...find a woman that is... :lol:

[Ms.Monroe]

Well, I'd have to find a man before I could start considering that! lol

Ditto. But I sort of have a hard time imagining tying myself down for the rest of my life. Waking up every single morning to the same person. Maybe it's just cause i'm young and haven't really been in a serious relationship yet, but being with someone for the rest of your life...that requires some serious love.

[zoe]

So do you and your bf/gf ever talk about it..?
Actually, no, it hasn't really come up. And I doubt it will. He doesn't seem like the talking-about-marriage type, haha. We have sort-of talked about moving in together, but it wasn't much of a serious discussion.

Does it Scare you..?
Yes.. and no. Right now, I'd be scared of what criticism I would get since I'm so young. But I would never get married right now, obviously. And no, I would not be scared of marrying someone I love.


Does it interest you..?
Can I say "Yes.. and no." again? I mean, I'm one of those people who loves attention, and being asked to be someone's wife would just be great attention, haha. But seriously - having this kind of commitment proposed to me by someone I love.. well, it would be the ultimate proof that that person wanted to be with me forever. I have a problem with being paranoid about my boyfriend falling out of love with me.. just because I think that a lot of people get sick of me after a while. I have a couple of friends who "got engaged" when she was 16, and he was 18 (he had just graduated).. there was a ring and everything, and now 2 years later.. they're married. So I don't disagree with any of that.. but, I don't think I could handle the critcism. And I always wanted to wait to get married until after college :-?. But....... if my boyfriend wanted a 4-year engagement - sure, why not? Haha. :lol:

I was at a bridal shop today getting my prom dress, and I actually had a really nice conversation with a woman getting her wedding dress about this.

I don't think marriage is all that important, though. It's just a ceremony.. I'm not religious at all, so it obviously has no religious meaning. But.. it is an excuse for a honeymoon :cool3:

[Deidre]

We've talked about marriage. Not seriously, though, and not in the "us" way. We've discussed moving in together, having kids etc., though. Although now our plans are to get into a University, move in together and get a cat. :lol:

It doesn't scare me, but I wouldn't say it interests me in the sense I'd like to be looking through "Modern Bride" magazines etc. It's not something I'm considering. We're young... we have lots of time to worry about the more close future... such as moving out next year.

[stace]

So do you and your bf/gf ever talk about it..?
yeah, unless something really drastic happens and we break up, i coule easitly see it happening to us (married), just have to wait just over 3 more years when we're done getting our college degrees.
Does it Scare you..?
not really because i find it hard to picture myself with anyone else besides him.
Does it interest you..?
well i'd really like to marry him but as someone else mentioed i'm not looking through like modern bride interested, i need to get through college first.

and just for background we've been dating for 2 years and 5 months on the 24th of April

[miz erotika]

I've thought about marriage....the thought doesn't scare me all too much anymore, finding the right guy is the problem. Granted, I'm not ready for a marriage now, i still have at least 3 years of school left, but I'm ready to have a relationship with "the one". Short term deals really dont appeal to me anymore

[indigold]

Yeah, I can see us getting married. He's the husband I'd want and the dad I'd want my kids to have. But I'm so young and I have at least 5 more years until I'd consider *actually* getting married. I'm sort of scared, not of marriage, but of hoping that our relationship will last that long. I really hope it will because it is fantastic and I have loved every moment of it so far.

The thing is, he's my first BF, and I have nothing to compare him to. He is SO perfect for me, but I have no perception of "the other fishes in the sea".

[Klounn]

i don't plan on getting married... but yet i'm young and my opinion might change later on but this is how i feel:

Marriage is only a religious practice that binds two people together under the eyes of God... or seomthing like that and it really is only a ring and a piece of paper... other than that you can have marriage without going through the expen$ive ceremony and getting the dress... the cake... the rings... the suits... the people... the food...

My uncle and "aunty" aren't married but have been together longer than alot of married couples their age. They've been together 11 years and aren't married and don't plan on having kids... thats what i wanna do... but of course if i meet someone special and they don't, well i wouldn't say no to getting married and having kids but i don't really WANT to... I think it just involves to much pressure and lawyers if it doesn't work out... less marriage is more freedom...

[chiukit]

<span style='color:darkblue'>Yes, of course. I was comforting her today, and my words were "down that road, when we get married..." I don't know why, but I just feel completely comfortable talking about marriage and having kids and moving in together and whatnot.</span>

[Kuky]

Well, the way I see it, marriage is just a way of making an already existing commitment "official," so no, I'm not afraid or anything, since that's a commitment that is gradual in the making anyway.

Kuky

[~Fanta~]

Me and my bf talk about it every once in a while, but we're both too young to seriously consider it. I'm not planning on even considering it for at least 3 or 4 years, until i get some education. I don't know if my bf is going to be the one i'll marry (although i'd like that ), because he doesn't want to have kids at all, and i do, so unless one of us changes his mind, it's not going to happen.
I'm not really afraid of it right now, maybe it's because i know that it's not going to happen soon, but i think that there will be some fears and doubts about it later.

[waiting_on_an_angel]

At this exact moment in my life, yes, I can see myself marrying my current boyfriend. However people change. If you would have ask me this about a year ago when I was with my ex, I would have answered you yes then too. Yet sitting here now thinking about it, I realize that because I've grown and matured, a marriage between my ex and I would not have worked. People who know me, my current boyfriend, and my ex would probably be baffled at that statement. My boyfriend is basically 18 going on 5 and my ex is 18 going on 45. But My ex was only concerned about himself, his future career and how everything would affect him and was very clingy. My current boyfriend is attentive but gives me plenty of space, is very supportive of what I want and is wonderful with children. At this point in my life that is what I want in a husband. But people change and that's a thought that looms in the back of my head when we talk about our future house or what we want to name the kids. Plus we're young, but I know neither one of us is the dating around type and we'll be going to college in the same city next year. I guess we'll wait and see!

[BigJim]

So do you and your g/f ever talk about it..? yes
Does it Scare you..? not in the slightest
Does it interest you..?[/quote] yep

[lana]

So do you and your bf/gf ever talk about it..?
Sure, it's a nice thought to think about. :)

Does it Scare you..?
Come to think of it, it never scared me. Even in my past relationships, I would joke about marriage and kids with them... I'm not afraid of commitment, as long as it is with the right person.

Does it interest you..?
Of course. The thought of being marriage is intriguing. To have a partner to guide me through life and to live through the good and bad...

[Tortuga]

My boyfriend and I talk about "when we get married..." a lot. I mean, almost every time we're together, something will come up, and we'll say, "Well, when we get married..." For instance, just this morning we were talking about how different our moms are when it comes to keeping house. His mother just doesn't care to clean and will let the house go for about a month (seriously...kinda gross!), while my mom cleans every single weekend, so much that it feels like a showroom. And he was like, "Well, when we get married, let's have it in-between our moms, okay?" And I mean, it's not like we have really serious heart-to-hearts about our future life together all the time--yes, we have them sometimes, but when I say "almost every time we're together", I mean like the above instance. Just really casual mentions. And no, it doesn't scare me in the slightest. I cannot wait to spend the rest of my life with this guy and go to bed beside him every night and wake up beside him every morning, and raise children with him. Sounds wonderful. :)

Tortuga

[GoodWitchOfTheNorth]

Actually, my boyfriend and I talk about the opposite. Example, something like this took place about a week ago:

Him: Yeah, I can see myself in 30 years when I'm all bitter: "Arg, I remember this one girl I went out with..."

Me: "I sure hope that bitch is dead..."

Then we both laughed hysterically.

I don't know... I find it comforting, actually. That we can joke around like that, and we know we're not going to offend the other person. I do remember this one time, though, that he was taking an online test to see what Lord of the Rings character he was or something like that, and one of the questions was "Would you prefer to be married?" and he wouldn't let me see his answer. Then he scrolled down too far and then scrolled up too far and I wound up seeing that he marked "Yes." And I have caught myself assessing his child-rearing potential... I think he'd be a good dad.

I think we both think about it and consider it on a semi-conscious level. But I dunno... I like to think if could work.[/i]

[moonangel]

Marriage is a LONG way away for me. Someday, yes, and when I find the right guy, sure, I'd want to marry him. But not yet, not any time soon.

[ps_tiger]

Yeah, I think about marrying my boyfriend. Like in Fight Club, I want to have like ten thousand of his babies. I might have gotten the quote wrong and 10,000 is an exageration, but you get the idea. The probability I'll marry him is low, since I'm only a freshman in college and i still have a lot of time to go through of school, but right now I can't imagine ever being with any other guy. I guess that's how it works.

[Tootsie Pop]

Sometimes I can imagine what it would be like to live with him... and go about our lives as if we were married. It seems like a great life. Maybe I can even see little half Kristin half Chris kids running around. We are both too young though. We want to build our careers before thinking about it... but to me it is in the realm of possibility. Definately.

[BabyBlue]

His entire family thinks we're engaged and my family would like us to be haha :) life is goooooood!

I definitely see myself marrying my boyfriend. In about a yr and a half (I can taste graduation!! YAY) I will be moving in with him. I'm excited about the future, can't wait for it to begin. I feel like the luckiest person on earth but what feels even greater is knowing he feels the same way. I am so blessed and yeah life isn't perfect with my father or whatnot but I can put that pain aside because I am happy. I'm not nervous or scared about the future or marrying him, I'm so incredibly excited.

[ShRt SwEEt*n*SexY]

So do you and your bf/gf ever talk about it..? well me and my b/f are only 16 but after 2 years sure we have talked about it but we always keep the reality that it may not happen. i mean it worked for my parents, they were high school sweethearts and dated 6 years then got married when they both had finished college. i guess i have always strived to be like them. i would love for it to work out between me and him but i guess it's too soon to tell.
Does it Scare you..? no not really when i get married it will be to the right person, because i belive marriage is forever. the only thing that scares me is the thought of not having my parents around mostly my dad (i am the hugest daddy's girl you have ever seen ) it just scares me to think that i won't be able to come home and talk to daddy, or see him smile when i crack a joke, or watxh him bust out laughing cuz he was thinking the exact thing i said. thats going to be really hard and scary for me.
Does it interest you..?yes i can't even begin to count how many times i have thought of my wedding, and being married, and taking the kids to soccer practice (kids scare me more then marriage), making dinner together, telling each other how our days went, long relaxing bubble baths together and the list goes on and on.

[Cashew]

:) Tom and I have definitely brought up marriage in our conversations. I don't find it scary at all, and if we weren't so young, I'd marry him today. But we're only in Grade 12, and don't want to get married until we're done with university. Which is be fine, and from what I've read, it sounds normal. We'll both be in unviersity for six years with our programs, and that's plenty of time to be sure, right?

The problem with this is that after his second year, he'll be moving to Waterloo to complete his degree, and our relationship would be seriously long-distance (we live in Saskatchewan) for about four years. Personally, I don't know if I could handle that. But we don't want to break up for that reason, because we know that as we broke up we'd both be thinking to ourselves that after school we'll be gettiing back together anyways, something that's not reasonable.

...... :oops: But I'm really talking crazy here, because at least two years from now, maybe three if he takes a year off to work before going to Waterloo, and a million things could happen between then and now.

But yes, I'm definitely interested in marriage, and would be especially so with my current guy if it weren't for these minor obstacles. I can totally see myself waking up beside him every morning, and he would be an AMAZING father.

[the Music Man]

My girlfriend and I have known each other for forever. I ended up moving away for about 2 years, but we stayed in touch and for some strange reason, we seemed to get even closer the farther away we were. After two years, I moved back for her. We've been going out for 10 months so far and we're convinced that we're perfect for each other. All of our friends say that we're the only couple that they can actually see getting married. We both want to get married to each other b/c we love each other dearly. LoL, we're already thinking up names for our kids.

[ArRoWLeGeNd]

ive never been in a relationship long enough to even comprehend the thought of marriage... even when i am there are several things that will have to happen before i do: 1)have a good job 2)be financially secure and 3)be able to support a family. im guessing that takes away the next 10-15 years of my life :lol:

~ArRoWLeGeNd~

[*pOpuLaR~pRiNcEsS*]

I was engaged to my ex-boyfriend last year when I was 17 and he's one year older than me. We were madly in love with each other at that time, but for some reason, we broke up a couple of months ago and our relationship only last for 9 months. I think we had taken things too fast too soon. Yeah I know there's no right or wrong age to get married, but I don't think I'm mature enough to handle it. Marriage is something really complicated and difficult to comprehend, it takes a lot more than just loving somebody to make marriage succed. Marriage demands a high maturity and responsibility and these are the two things that we're lacking of. We're too young and we're still learning about ourselves. We didn't know what we to expect or what we want from a relationship, we even had troubles maintaining a sexually exclusive relationship, no wonder we finally grew apart. I still believe in marriage, but I just want to wait a bit to see if our relationship can weather through all situations and time.

[JessiMari]

We are too young. I do think about it, but not into it. It doesn't scared me, but I don't wanna be attached so young. I have to live life and get experience frist. First I have to graduate (C/O 2003 RuLZ) and well who knows what happens afterwards. I dunno, I want to get married when I'm like 24 or around that age. YUP. :)