Dating a non-dancer

[Goalie34]

Hypotheticaly speaking, girls, if you were a huge fan of dancing (i.e., your passion) and you were dating someone who was not a good dancer, would that be a major turn-off for you? How do you handle the situation? Do you think he's a loser because you think he's not fun and not good? Do you offer to teach him? Dancing can be very intimidating for someone who has minimal experience, especially if the other person is super good. Thanks.

[kuju]

well, as a somewhat good dancer I have mixed feelings. though, of course, it always depends on what kind of dancing you're talking about. club dancing? formal dancing?

my old ex was a TERRIBLE dancer. as in, he could barely hold a beat if we were at a dance. But then, we were usually dancing in a large group of people, so I mostly brushed it off and danced with other people. It's not like it turned me off to a big extent. Just made me cringe a little.

That said, it is really nice if a guy can dance. Latin dancing is HOT!!! you don't need to know a whole lot, just how to get the rhythm and how to make her turn. and if she's as good a dancer as you say, she should be able to follow.

As for me, if my boyfriend wanted to learn to dance I'd be happy to teach him. Or I'd offer to go to a couples dance class or something. That way you get to bond more over it!

[Lone_Raider]

I've always wondered about that situation coming up with a girl as well. I don't dance, I mean not at all, ever, even once. I hated dance's back in high school so I never went, and I didn't go to the prom or anything so I literally mean I haven't ever danced for a second, ever! I kind of find the whole thing foolish and silly, nor would I ever find it fun in anyway. Bobbing my head to some awesome rock music is about as close as I get to dancing lol.

So I hope I never go out with a girl who's big into dancing, because I'm sure that won't last lol.

[Danae]

Well, I can't dance for shit either (unless I'm drunk) so that example doesn't really work for me heh. Speaking more generally though, as in just interests, it depends. I'm really really into music, especially indie/emo music, and it's important to me that I be able to share that with my SO. Even if it's not his favorite style of music, I would still like if he's at least open to it, and I'd do the same for him. Couples don't have to have everything in common, but as long as you can respect one another's interests and take the time to see what it's all about, things should be fine.

[mini696]

Only you know if it is a deal breaker for you.

I wouldn't care, but it would help.