Online Dating Sites

[toychoke]

See this is something that is of interest to me. One of my friends finds all of her dates through one of these. I mean part of me is amazed at what technology allows humans to do, but the other part of be doesn't really trust the anonymous factor of it.

Part of me says eh, if you meet someone cool off of it than everything is A-ok. But there is this other part of me that expects every girl I'd talk to, to turn out to be a WWF wrestler from the streets willing to bend me in half.

I guess I want a face to go with the person I'm talking to. However, rationally it's not like the girls I meet at a club are any different than those I might meet online. I mean nice people and shitheads alike are bond to be everywhere.

However, my friend that uses it gets plenty of dates off of it. She loves the thing, and meets with a different guy every other week on it.

What do you guys think of them?

[Shocka]

A couple of my friends have used them quite successfully, which I found interesting. I signed up Captain Beaver, the wacky 43 year old sailor from Fremantle, on a free WA Online Dating Site to see what the response was like - as it turns out, a lot of women responded to the bio about "Wanting to sail the seas and plunder the booty," which suggests to me that a lot of middle aged women in Australia are seeking a pirate king to mate with. The world is a terrifying place.

[Lone_Raider]

I'm afraid of them to be honest with you lol. There are so many wierdo's and nut jobs on the internet, I mean look at that idiot kid who showed up on these message boards a few months back and started harassing some of the girls on AIM. Granted for us guys, its probably somewhat safer being that most of the wierdo creeps are guys going for girls, but there are still wierdo creep girls out there as well lol.

I'm not certain I can trust what anyone says on a dating site really, I just find the whole thing kind of shady. I've seen those e harmony commercials a lot however, and the people on there claim it works so well they've all gotten married! Still, I think I'd rather meet people in real life, I don't go to clubs, I just seem to either meet girls at college or just randomly at starbucks or the park or somet other place. As long as that keeps happening, I'll stay off of internet dating sites.

[Mizak]

My situation may be unique, but I met my current girlfriend through an online dating service and have never been happier.


We're both in our early twenties and came into contact almost through pure luck and coincidence. We talked on MSN for about a half hour before moving to the phone conversation which lasted about 6 hours.

3 days later we met for the first time and I swear she was/is the most beautiful and incredible girl I've ever met.


It's now been almost seven months and we couldn't be more in love. I wouldn't be opposed to saying we're a perfect match for each other. It feels like I've known her forever and when I think back it's easy to forget how we "met".


Obviously I think the services have potential, but an element of luck is definintely involved.

[mini696]

Originally posted by Lone_Raider@Jul 10 2005, 05:41 PM
I just seem to either meet girls at college or just randomly at starbucks or the park or somet other place.
How do you approach them?

[MuthaFranka]

The only real problem I have with it is the fact that a person's persona differs greatly between real life and online.

[lain13ego]

you really can't know someone from online. when i talk to my roomate online i want to kill him, in real life hes a good guy and we get along great. i mean, miracles do happen, but i like meeting people in person...

[The Original Taco]

I met my wife at eHarmony.com (http://www.eharmony.com) and we've been happily married for eight years! It was so simple, all I had to do was take this short personality test, and it gave me a list of possible matches! I'm so happy I used eHarmony, it turned my life around!!

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

Ben and I had both about given up on finding the love of our life. Even after being on eHarmony for a while we had decided to about call it quits. It was very frustrating to talk to people but still never really find that connection. But then I got matched with Ben. He requested communication on July 25 and we haven't gone a day without talking since. We continue to be amazed at how perfect we are for each other and how we complement one another in every way. We will be married May 28! Thanks eHarmony for helping Ben and I find each other!

http://static.eharmony.com/static/images/couples/user-katie-ben.jpg

[Lone_Raider]

Originally posted by mini696@Jul 13 2005, 07:41 PM
How do you approach them?
College is perhaps the easiest of all places. First day of class I look around for girls I find attractive, the next day I sit near them and then to start conversation I ask something about class, but from what I pick up in the conversation I start talking to them about non school stuff. Or I look for something they have on their person to talk about, for example one girl had written "Bush Sucks" on her notebook so at the end of class I said " I take it you don't like George Bush" she laughed and said, nope, I hate him, and I said, yeah I hate the bastard as well and we both laughed. And from there we just started talking about politics, and then a few days later after talking some more she gave me her e mail and phone number and invited me to a party.

Basically I utilize that method in different forms when at different locations. Another good example I often use is this one which I have used a few times. I live near the beach, and there is a large sea wall that runs for several miles. I go their to walk, eat lunch, or just watch the ocean as do thousands of other people. If I see a girl I like sitting on the wall, I'll sit kind of close to her, then just make some regular comment like, "man its really crowded here today isn't it? It's all these tourist" Then her answer if a local is inevitably "Yeah I hate these damn tourist" to which the conversation extends into where do we each live in the state, where we went to school, what we are doing now (college/work) and so on, you get the picture. Or if she is a tourist then she says something like "hey I'm one of those tourist!" and the conversation goes in a slightly different direction. Being that this beach area has a lot of little restaurants in such, if I like this girl I can then say, "hey, I'm going over to so and so place to grab some lunch, want to come?" Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't, but if she agrees to go grab lunch then you can get her number as she obviously finds at least something remotely interesting about you lol.

So that's two example for you, of course I haven't mentioned in here the time's a girl just gives a one word response or looks angry that I've dared disturb her! haha, but you have to expect that sometimes and then it doesn't really bother you anymore.

[mini696]

Thanks Lone_Raider.

[Niki22]

Toychoke- It's not like you dont get to see pictures of these people.

I've met a few guys off dating websites back when I was single and enjoyed it a lot. I got to meet different types of guys with different styles, etc. I would not meet one that could not provide a picture.

Two were only one-time dates, but still a nice time and both of those 2 guys happened to be H-O-T.

I dated another guy a few times, but we found we were more buddies than anything because we both were into the car scene so we'd check out car shows together.

One guy was a boyfriend for a few months but ended for no real reason....not that it really broke my heart though. I was still in single mode and he and I ended up being f*ck buddies for a while after the breakup which I personally enjoyed and took advantage of during that time in my life.

Then I met my current boyfriend through mutual friends....not a site. Funny thing though, one day after we'd been seeing each other about a week, all of a sudden he goes, "that's where I know you from...."

I asked what he meant and he told me he'd seen me on one of the sites. I was a little embarrassed, but he then went on to tell me that he even emailed me after seeing my profile but I never responded and he was upset I hadn't responded cuz I sounded like such a cool girl.

Yet, we met anyway through other circumstances.....kinda crazy!

[Lone Wolf]

Originally posted by toychoke@Jul 10 2005, 10:24 AM
One of my friends finds all of her dates through one of these.
Many dates, but anything longterm?

[Lady]

I actually met my boyfriend at Okcupid (http://www.okcupid.com) and so did by best friend. We're both really happy with who they thought was right for us too. Although online dating isn't for everyone, I find it the best way for me to meet a guy since I'm not the best conversationalist when I first meet someone.

[Palmer of the Turks]

Originally posted by Lone Wolf@Jul 28 2005, 06:52 AM
Many dates, but anything longterm?
I met one of my girlfriends online.

We lived together for 2 years.

Longterm enough for you?

[Nonny]

Originally posted by Lone Wolf@Jul 28 2005, 02:52 PM
Many dates, but anything longterm?
My ex-fiance and I were together for 9 months. My ex-bf&gf and I for 11 months. My fiance, almost six months. I met all of them online.

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

:sick:

[Madeku]

they're pretty good. okcupid and myspace are both free (and you can contact whoever you want, lol) and just fun to have. iv seen ppl that i already know and can see their friends, or find ppl iv met briefly in person but never talked with.