parents, and knowledge

[goofball]

so, i thought i posted this before, but apparently not. anyway

for those of you who have had sex, do your parents know? and if so, how is it that they came to find out

[Cutie]

No sir! They'd disown me :o

[Deidre]

My parents know. Well, my mother knows, I think my father is in denial about me being out of diapers.

How did she find out? She didn't. She assumed. She assumed so a full year before I lost my virginity. So did most of my friends.

[Pudding]

my parents were out for the day so my bf came over, we had sex in my room and cleaned up with tissues and left. but he left his hat behind and my mum sort of figured and went into my room to look for 'evidence'.. she ended up finding tissues smelling of cum in the bin to prove id been having sex.

how sad is that?

[LaRêveuse]

she ended up finding tissues smelling of cum in the bin to prove id been having sex.

how sad is that?

Ehh. . .that's pretty gross. :-? My parents and I have a VERY open relationship and the way the relationship with my boyfriend turned out (it's a long story) they basically knew it was going to happen and asked me to be open with them about it, so I was. Kind of weird when we're in my room together for hours and then afterwards my parents know what has been going on. But I hate keeping things from them so they're cool with everything. And they trust me to be safe.

[*after8*]

hmmm.. mine was pretty bad too.
me and my bf had been having sex for about a month, when my 'rents found my BC. i told them it was for my period, they believed me.

life was good.

then, later on, my 'rents find out i spent the night at his place a couple times, and one morning they SHOW UP, at his house, someone lets them in -- maybe my bf? i was sleeping.. next thing i remember, my dads standing in my bf's room, and my bfs waking me up... im covered in a blanket, but theres enough of my leg showing to make it reaaaaal obvious im NOT wearing pants ;p

... and then in case it wasnt obvious already, my bf has ta pick up my jeans and my panties from hte floor (keeping in mind my dads still there) and put them on the bed for me... they close the door, i get dressed cose my dad wants me to leave IMMEADIATLY.

then, apparently while im gettin dressed my dad asks my bf if were having sex, and he says "yeah."

then later on, my friends, being the nice friends they are [/heavy sarcasm] decide to tell my parents allll my secrets, imcluding the sex one. just in case they didnt already know. ha.

[Wolf]

I thought they didn't know...

They just bought me a pack of condoms for easter...
What a WONDERFUL gift, dont you think?

[Intrigue1201]

I thought they didn't know...

They just bought me a pack of condoms for easter...
What a WONDERFUL gift, dont you think?

haha were they easter colors?

how thoughtful :lol:

[Ms.Monroe]

I'm a virgin but i'm not sure i'd tell my mom if it happened. No question weather not i'd tell my dad cause I definantly wouldnt. He still thinks I ride bikes w/ training wheels. He still turns the TV when a kissing scene comes on :redface: But recently when my mom was giving my bro some condoms she got from the doctors office she was like "soon i'll be giving you some of these..." so i'm guessing she thinks it's gonna be happening soon.

[Wolf]

I thought they didn't know...

They just bought me a pack of condoms for easter...
What a WONDERFUL gift, dont you think?

haha were they easter colors?

how thoughtful :lol:

Is transparent/skin coloured considered an easter colour?

[Intrigue1201]

not in my books, but i guess if your skin color is pink it could pass for easter colors :lol:

[Lauren112285]

I thought they didn't know...

They just bought me a pack of condoms for easter...
What a WONDERFUL gift, dont you think?

:lol:

My mom thinks I'm having sex, when I'm still a virgin, she keeps mentioning her getting the pill for me and the fact that I talk to my guy friend every night puts more thoughts in her head. :roll:

[jack\'s internet persona]

hmmm.. mine was pretty bad too.
me and my bf had been having sex for about a month, when my 'rents found my BC. i told them it was for my period, they believed me.

life was good.

then, later on, my 'rents find out i spent the night at his place a couple times, and one morning they SHOW UP, at his house, someone lets them in -- maybe my bf? i was sleeping.. next thing i remember, my dads standing in my bf's room, and my bfs waking me up... im covered in a blanket, but theres enough of my leg showing to make it reaaaaal obvious im NOT wearing pants ;p

... and then in case it wasnt obvious already, my bf has ta pick up my jeans and my panties from hte floor (keeping in mind my dads still there) and put them on the bed for me... they close the door, i get dressed cose my dad wants me to leave IMMEADIATLY.

then, apparently while im gettin dressed my dad asks my bf if were having sex, and he says "yeah."

then later on, my friends, being the nice friends they are [/heavy sarcasm] decide to tell my parents allll my secrets, imcluding the sex one. just in case they didnt already know. ha.
damn. That is harsh. Well, lifes a bitch and then you die. ha

[jack\'s internet persona]

When I started getting drunk and going to weekend long parties my mom got me a box of condoms, and told me to keep at least one in my wallet so I could "get some". Yes, she did say that. However, I refuse to sleep with a drunk girl, taking advantage of someone else or a situation is just not me. As such, I am still a virgin.

[Wolf]

It seriously damages the condoms to keep them in your wallet

[jack\'s internet persona]

It seriously damages the condoms to keep them in your walletSuch is true, but I only put one in my wallet when I am positive that I am going to get drunk, and don't want to do something stupid.

[chiukit]

They don't know... I don't know what would happen if they did... the two rules my father gave me: no sex, and don't let a girl go home by herself. Well, I've been breaking the no sex rule... for... a long while now. Err. :o

[Hippie96321]

Well my parents don't know because i haven't had sex yet but all of my extended family thinks i'm having sex. I don't know what my mom thinks but her policy has always been, "make sure you have adequate protection before you do anything" And my dad, well, he's just oblivious :lol:

[kuju]

I was having sex for 8 months before I told my mom. She knew that "stuff" was going on... but I think she was in denial for a while. Then, for our one year anniversary, we wanted to go to a hotel. So I told her, "by the way, it's our one year next weekend, so we're going to a hotel room" She's silent for a minute... and I can TELL she's pissed, but she stays calm, and tells me to be sure I protect myself. I then told her that it's okay, because I've "done this before"

[Nikster]

My parents would FLIP OUT if they knew...which is why I'm doing my best to keep it from them. They are big on the "no sex before marriage" rule and my beliefs have changed on that rule since I've grown up. I don't even want to know what would happen if they knew. :-?

[piglet]

I haven't had sex yet but I have given a guy a hj (which is a lot for me trust me) and my parents don't know nor are they going to know...they think I haven't even FRENCHED a guy yet, hahaha....

[Sparklies]

I'm not having sex with my bf, but we are doing pretty much everything else, and my parents would flip if they knew. Both of them are totally against premarital stuff, except for maybe kissing. They have always raised me under the "wait until marriage" rule and would be extremely disappointed, to say the least. My mother would probably never ever even look at me the same way because she would have "expected more/better from me." In the end my mother would probably blame herself for not raising me correctly and my dad would get over it, eventually, if my mother ever let him. *Sigh* They just don't understand that I can make decisons for myself that are not influenced by them, I think they have done a fine job raising me. Oh, well... :-?

[Tootsie Pop]

yeeeea they know. And the only reason why they know is because my father entered MY room while I was out, turned on MY computer, and read MY PRIVATE diary. Yea, that sucked. But my mom figured that whats done is done and my virginity cant grow back, so she might as well make sure that i am safe, (because she KNOWS that she cant just tell me to stop having sex). So she got me on the pill and made everything as safe as possible. My dad didnt take to it very well, but again, he CANT stop me from seeing the boy I was with for 6 months at the time. So he had to get use to it. Now everything is cool. I can pretty much do wahtever I want because I guess I proved my 'maturity' by being safe and mature about it.... meh. Whatever. Im still pissed that he read my diary though....

[Truth]

so, i thought i posted this before, but apparently not. anyway

for those of you who have had sex, do your parents know? and if so, how is it that they came to find out

oh hell they know....I straight out told them.....

[Brass Monkey]

Ya...my parents know. I got a box of condoms from my mom the Christmas before last (Christmas 2000).

Also, I think my parents also have some idea considering the whole pregnancy thing with my ex. :roll:

[SweetNSexy]

Oh my goodness do they know... I'd been having sex for a lil over a month when I thought I was pregnant (2 months w/o a period, damn straight I thought I was preg!!) But I called my mom, who lives 3000 miles away, and talked to her and she swore she would never tell another living person. Well, that is, until we get into a fight and to get even, she decided to tell my father, who I live with. So my dad was like "sweetie, should we get you on some sort of pill?' And I was like "Well daddy, we could, but i've been on the pill for 10 months now" He was shocked

[zoe]

Oh my goodness do they know... I'd been having sex for a lil over a month when I thought I was pregnant (2 months w/o a period, damn straight I thought I was preg!!) But I called my mom, who lives 3000 miles away, and talked to her and she swore she would never tell another living person. Well, that is, until we get into a fight and to get even, she decided to tell my father, who I live with. So my dad was like "sweetie, should we get you on some sort of pill?' And I was like "Well daddy, we could, but i've been on the pill for 10 months now" He was shocked

You are one lucky girl! My parents would most likely say that they expected it from me, ground me, and tell me how horrible I am. My mom has a "no sex till 18" rule, which is ok because I don't plan on having sex until I'm 18, or pretty close. My parents don't trust me at all. They assume that I want to have sex SOO badly, and think that it's because of their acts not allowing me to do certain things that I'm not having sex. When in actuality it's really me who's deciding on this stuff and being mature about my life. But it's ok - because I don't think much of them either!

They would most definately not give me condoms or put me on the pill. Because that would be "them allowing me to have sex again". Pretty foolish.

[SweetNSexy]

Yeah, I guess I am pretty lucky. I mean, my dad didn't stop me from seeing my boyfriend or anything. It was a little awkward though, the next time my bf and dad saw each other after my dad found out... my boy was so embarrassed, it was cute. But serously, we still have a great sex life and all, but it's so much more fun trying to sneak around and hide it!!

[Barefoot Matt]

My mom knows. She gave me the "protection" talk a little while before my first time, and I didn't make any effort to make her think I wasn't going to do it. Since we've started having sex, we do try to keep the noise down, but unless she's deaf I don't think there's any way she wouldn't have heard it at least once (my headboard tends to bang against the wall, just like in the movies :lol:)

My gf's parents suspect, but they don't know, and she's not open with them enough to tell them.

This reminds me of another interesting story... There's only one place in town I know I can get condoms, and easily, but my gf and I have a mutual friend who's a cashier there. The last time I went, there were only two cashiers available - one was her, and the other was the next one over. I of course took my condoms to the other cashier (we're trying not to tell anyone, cause it's no one's business but our own), and my gf went to talk to our friend. Later, she actually called my gf and asked if the reason I didn't come to her till was because I was buying condoms! My gf admitted it, and our friend decreed that from now on I must come to her till no matter what :roll:

[SoSweetAngel]

Yeah, my mom kjnows. My dad doesn't live with us - and I haven't spoken to him since I was 13 - so he doesn't know!!

I was considering having sex with my boyfriend when I as 14 - but I was really unsure - so I actually ASKED my mom for advice. She said that she thought that I was too young, but that if I wanted to she wouldn't disown me or anything.
So I did.
We have a very open relationship - we've both been through mucho shit together!! It makes this stuff seem less important than things that really matter...
My mom's great :)

My boyfriends parents FLIPPED when they found out. they went through his bin and found used condoms....they went absolutely mental...smashed his phone...wouldnt let him out of the house....it was a horrible mess. It never really got right again either...his parents seem to have hated him ever since... :(

[hunny]

I think it's interesting to see the difference between parent's reactions when a son is involved, as opposed to a daughter. Lots of the guys post that their parents know bc they told them, or the parents gave them condoms, whatever. For girls, that just doesn't happen as often.
My parents know I've had sex. Well, they assumed it after awhie with my ex and me, bc we did go out for a long time, we were both 18, and we spent some weekends camping, and at the beach, etc.
My dad probably isn't very happy about it, but he knows that I'm careful, and responsible. My mom is always cautioning me about taking my pill on time, and other things, which I don't need or want to hear...
Geeez, my mom knew the very NIGHT I lost my virginity.... I was 17, and I came home very late (like always) and went up to my room. My mom got out of bed, and came to my door; she opened it and looked at me. I was like, "what?" and she just said, "I hope he's worth it, and I hope you were carefu."
Hmm, she's freaky like that, she knows everything I do. But I never came out and told her anything about that night, she just sorta knew, or something. Anyway, yes, we were careful, and no, he wasn't 'worth it.'
Ha, my whole family knows I'm on the pill! One time they came to see me at school last fall, on a Sunday, and they came up to my dorm room to take me to lunch. I went to get my purse and my birth control pills fell OUT!! I quickly grabbed them and put them back in, but everyone saw, and even my little brother knew what they were, he thought it was hysterically funny. So, um, yeah, my parents know what I'm doing, and they're sort of resigned to it, I guess.

[jkings]

My family is really religeous, and I'm the youngest, so naturally my parents are really strict with me.
They don't know anything. It sucks to sneek around them and lie to them and stuff. I wish I didn't have to. But if they did my dad would freak, my mom would probably cry, and I would have to move out. (something maybe not as drastic, but close.) Maybe one day.... *whistles*

[eurydice]

no, my mom would have a conniption if she knew. as far as she knows, i've never gone past making out with my boyfriend of almost a year. we haven't had sex yet, but it'll probably happen sometime this summer. i do live in fear of my mom turning on my computer and accessing some of my more personal files, or finding my little collection of naughty lingerie under my bed. i am on the pill - but for "medical reasons". you'd think she'd have figured something out by now, simply by power of deduction. guess ignorance is bliss...all the same, i figure that what she doesn't know won't hurt her. as long as i don't do something to damage myself such as pregnancy or STDs, i'm okay. pregnancy is out simply because i'll be using a pill/condom combo, and STDs are out because he and i are both totally virgins and new to all of this. so i guess my twisted logic is that as long as nothing bad happens to me, she never needs to know.

[spittinvenom2003]

my parents never knew a thing until one night after me and my ex were messing around, my parents come home and i didnt expect them for awhile, so we both got dressed as quick as we could, but i didnt know that my shirt was inside out and on backwards, which they then noticed, so from then on i just got the talk everyday bout whatever u do: dont get her pregnant

[jack\'s internet persona]

my parents never knew a thing until one night after me and my ex were messing around, my parents come home and i didnt expect them for awhile, so we both got dressed as quick as we could, but i didnt know that my shirt was inside out and on backwards, which they then noticed, so from then on i just got the talk everyday bout whatever u do: dont get her pregnantThat must have been one hell of an awkward moment.

[spittinvenom2003]

it was really awkward, i was all nervous coming home that night figuring out what they would say, then it turned out they were really ok about it

[LnknPrkGrl]

Even though I'm a virgin, I can't talk to my parents about sex. At all. First off, I don't live with my dad and when we talk, we never talk about sex. He knows I have a strong head on my shoulders and that after dealing with my mum, I am reasonable enough to take precautions. He's cool like that.

My mum is crazy. She is really into religon, but put me on the pill at 16 (and bugs me to take it all the time though I'm attempting to wait until marriage to have sex. What's the point of taking it?) and she thinks that I have sex...though I have no idea why. She's always bugging me about how far I've gone with guys and I tell her that I've done nothing (though I have kissed a guy...I'm not *that* pure!). If i did tell her, I would have to sit through a 3 hour lecture about sex, just because of a wack ass kiss from over a year ago. Mum is just so judgemental, talking about what she did and didn't do with a guy (she finds oral sex revolting) and asks for my opinion. If I told her that I am eager to try the "oral experience", she'd probably lock me in the house until I'm 18. Sure I only have 3 months to go, but still. Man, she sucks :(

[Am I tight or not?]

Even though I'm a virgin, I can't talk to my parents about sex. At all. First off, I don't live with my dad and when we talk, we never talk about sex. He knows I have a strong head on my shoulders and that after dealing with my mum, I am reasonable enough to take precautions. He's cool like that.

My mum is crazy. She put me on the pill at 16 (and bugs me to take it all the time though I'm attempting to wait until marriage to have sex. What's the point of taking it?) and she thinks that I have sex...though I have no idea why. She's always bugging me about how far I've gone with guys and I tell her that I've done nothing (though I have kissed a guy...I'm not *that* pure!). If i did tell her, I would have to sit through a 3 hour lecture about sex, just because of a wack ass kiss from over a year ago. Mum is just so judgemental, talking about what she did and didn't do with a guy (she finds oral sex revolting) and asks for my opinion. If I told her that I am eager to try the "oral experience", she'd probably lock me in the house until I'm 18. Sure I only have 3 months to go, but still. Man, she sucks :(

I hate dumb parents, no offence. My ex's mom was a bit like that. she told my ex that she'd rather have her do it in her own room rather than in some backseat of a car, but then she wouldn't want us to spend time alone in the house with her door closed :roll:

my parents enver said anything. my mom got pissed once when she realised I was having sex with my ex in my room while my mom was home, but that's about it.

[nicruns]

i dunno.... i never told my parents but i think my mom knows. she likes my bf and knows he came down to fl to visit me for 11 days and the moron told her that he stayed in my room. yeah she probably knows but at least not from me.

[kerrielouise]

i dont think my mum knows.
she knew when he first fingered me because i started bleeding and i came home crying 'cos i was shocked and she made me tell her why.
but i don't think she knows that we are having sex.
i wouldn't have sex in my house 'cos mum has a habit of walking in without knocking on the door - and that wouldnt be too good!
kerrie
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[~Fanta~]

Me and my bf have been together for a long time, and my parents assumed that we were having sex, although we weren't. I decided not to say anything coz we did plan to start, so there was no point in telling them that we weren't having sex. Now they know for sure, because i came to my mom and said i wanted to go on the pill, because i felt that condoms are not enough. I didn't talk to my dad about it, but i'm sure my mom told him.

[Kawaii Haruka]

I am a homosexual, but my first experience wasn't with a girl. It was a guy. Kind of a way to see once and for all about my insecurities about looking at girls. I figured it would stop and I'd be normal if I could like a guy. This guy I knew had a huge crush on me and I dated him. He was so nice and I felt so bad I didn't look at him that way. I admitted it to him. He kind of was curious about it and asked me questions and was completely understanding. I thought maybe he could help me. So, I confided I wanted to see if I'd enjoy being in bed with a guy. He was all for the idea. *laughes* So, it was sort of planned that we'd "experiment" at my place because my mother was gone most of the day. When we were in the middle of our little escapades my mother walked in. :oops: She was so furious, she calmly asked him to leave. She gave me the pregnany lecture. I waited until she was finished and told her of my final decision. I felt so... dirty then and ashamed. I used him and the whole act felt so... wrong and cheap. I told her everything. She looked at me weird. After I spilt my guts to her she tried changing the subject and then when it failed she went to bed. I don't think she knew how to deal with the fact I liked girls. Our relationship was always distant. We only say what was needed to be said, so me opening up like that was new and me talking about it just made her feel weird I guess. So, a year later I moved out and found a woman to love and that returns all those feelings I've never gotten or experienced.

thanks for listening
'ruka

[Tortuga]

Well, my boyfriend and I have stopped having sex, but I'm not sure if either sets of parents knew for sure. I went on the pill, but it was for "medical reasons," although I think my mom suspected it was more than my just wanting my periods to be regular. My dad has no clue. His dad...well...I don't really know. He either has no clue, is in denial, or knows and is totally okay with it, because he's never acted weird around me, not even when he came into my boyfriend's room one morning when the two of us were in bed together (yes, we had all our clothes on). His mom? Again, not real sure. One time we had sex in his room upstairs while his mother was downstairs. When we finished we were putting on our clothes, and she came to the door and knocked, but didn't come in, just talked to him through the door. And she usually knocks and then comes in. So... ? Not too sure. But anyway, I never told my parents and never will because first of all, it's none of their business. I'm prepared and responsible, and frankly, it's just none of their business, even though I'm sure they'd disagree. Secondly, my dad would be horrified. He has very high morals and would just be really really disappointed. My mom's a nurse and I remember her telling me once it's my decision, but for some reason, I don't think she'd be real cool with my telling her I wasn't a virgin. Of course, now that my honey and I are no longer sleeping together, hopefully this won't be an issue.

Tortuga

[JaMiTHy]

wellll im not quite sure...in a way i think they know but in a way i dont. my dad found a condom..which was used...in my trash can...when he was emptying it into the garbage. so they asked me bout it and i made up some lame excuse to save my ass and they bought it. but i think they just believed it because they are in denial of it. im not sure, im not very open with my parents about these things so i wouldnt go and tell them that i have..i think id rather have them just figure out on their own or something lol

[Bravehearter]

My Mom and Dad never mention sex to me at all.

My Dad and I are VERY close but He wouldnt ask about anything like that.

My mom and I dont talk very often, since the divorce. But if she brought it up, id be disgusted. YUK.