Need some ideas...

[Heath]

Okay, so me and my boyfriend, we seem to be stuck. We always get to making out, touching, and all that... but it never seems to go any further than that. I mean, we just never get further. Now, obviously, since i'm writing for some advice.. I really want it to go further. So, here's the deal. We're at this point, once again, and he's says "Let me ask you something. What do you like? We never get further than this, and I want to know what you like" And my response is "I don't know" Not the best response in a such a situation. But that's the truth, I really don't know. It's not because I'm too shy to tell him or I'm afraid of what he'll think.. I just really don't know. I figure there's probably different things that you would like, depending on the person whose doing it. And I'm just wondering.. girls.. what are some of things you like?? I mean, since I have no idea what to tell him, I figure maybe I can just tell him different things, and when those things happen, then I can decide what I like. So, please.. help!

[Palmer of the Turks]

"You know... I'm not exactly sure what I like. Why don't you try a few things, and we'll both learn together"

Everyone is different. Some people like being spanked and whipped, it gets them off like you wouldn't believe. Obviously, most people don't.
Similarly, most women will say they LOVE getting oral sex. But one of my exes absolutely hated it.

Asking other people what they like isn't going to help you much.
Sexual exploration and experimentation is called that for a reason.

Don't concentrate on what you think you'll like. Instead, just try things to see what you like.

[Rammstein39]

My ex and I used to have the same conversation, except when I asked him what he liked, he would just say "everything" and not be specific enough.

If you masterbate, try to think fo what things you like when you do that. If not, then maybe you should guide him into touching you, and see what feels good. Like Palmer said, we cant tell you what to like b/c it may be totally different for you than us.

[kuju]

yeah, it's all about experimentation. If you're nervous, take it slow. try something new, but not too different from what you've done before and work your way from there. You say that you "want it to go further" which in my reading implies taking it to the next level.

It's highly likely that your boyfriend will love it if you say you want to try new things to FIND OUT what you like. most guys would jump at the chance. What you need to do beforehand is decide on what boundary you're comfortable with at this point. Are you willing to take off your clothes? manual or oral sex? set your limit now. You may push it or change it later, but you probably don't want to send your boyfriend the wrong message by giving him free rein.

[Asphodelle13]

Yeah, you have no way of knowing what you'd like at this point so just tell him that you're not sure but willing to try new things. Maybe its too soon to jump into oral sex though. I've always been more comfortable with making love and just being compassionate rather then giving or receiving oral. I dunno, receiving sometimes makes me feel weird(still enjoyable for the most part though) because I'd rather have the guy's face close to mine instead of down there.:P And giving, if you know how to do it and want to pleasure him, isn't so bad really. Unless you can't resist the urge to gag or don't want to finish it(maybe some guys think of that as teasing, i dunno).

Perhaps just start with sex with a whole lot of foreplay beforehand. Kissing, touching, & etc. So if clothes are to be taken off then that can be done very gradually. Don't let him rush into anything. Going at a slow pace really heightens the passion and anticipation of when you'll move onto something new(like taking clothes off). And then when you do get there you'll want it all the more and it won't be weird. Lol..that probably didn't make a ton of sense..But just don't let him rush you into anything.

[Heath]

ok.. well, we've done the whole manual sex thing and clothes have been off.. and i'm not too thrilled of the idea of oral.. giving or receiving.. i just dont think its right because..mouths should not be where you go to the bathroom at... i just.. i'll try just tellin him that i'm not sure and i'm willin to try new things.. i guess.. and see if that works.. thanks:)

[Asphodelle13]

Originally posted by Heath@Feb 5 2005, 01:19 PM
and i'm not too thrilled of the idea of oral.. giving or receiving.. i just dont think its right because..mouths should not be where you go to the bathroom at...
I understand where you're coming from. But when a guy goes pee it isn't messy really. As for girls, if you're worried about yourself then make sure you take a shower not long beforehand(him too, & heck, sex in the shower sounds fun!) and if you have to go pee afterwards then you can even use like a baby wipe or something if you think he'll venture down there. Trust me, its really not gross like you would think at first.

[Palmer of the Turks]

Fact: Your mouth is more rife with germs and bacteria than your genitals.
For real. Human mouths are nasty places. You're more likely to get a disease or infection from a human bite than a dog bite.

Fact: Urine is STERILE. It's cleaner than almost anything. Sure, it tastes bad, but it's not dirty in the slightest. Besides, oral sex doesn't involve urine anyways.

Fact: The vagina and vulva do an excellent job of cleaning themselves, naturally.

[Heath]

i didn't need all the factual information.. but thank you.. its more of just my mental state of mind.. :S