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Fairy Princess
March 30th, 2002, 02:02 AM
Man, this was supposed to have happened already, but leave it to my bf to not be prepared... anyways, i was just wondering what everyone thinks is the best position is.
Bravehearter
March 30th, 2002, 02:04 AM
Well it depends on the girl.

But its probably easier for the girl to relax if she is on her back and he is on top.

But if she is on top she can control depth and speed.
Wolf
March 30th, 2002, 02:14 AM
Having recently had sex for the first time, I can say that missionary position (guy on top) is easiest and most common
Deidre
March 30th, 2002, 04:16 AM
I'd say missionary, at least for initial penetration. It's easiest (for the girl) to relax then, and it will hopefully hurt less. Sure, with the girl on top she can control just how much goes in at what time and thus attempt to minimise the pain, but sitting like that, you will be using your thigh muscles and the risk of tensing up is greater (i.e. more pain).
BigJim
March 30th, 2002, 06:12 AM
missionary is best ONLY if the guy is loving and caring and slow and gentle. otherwise it can cause a lot of pain and be too deep.
Deidre
March 30th, 2002, 06:14 AM
missionary is best ONLY if the guy is loving and caring and slow and gentle. otherwise it can cause a lot of pain and be too deep.
I thought about that as well; however, if he is not loving, caring, slow and gentle you do not want to lose your virginity to him in the first place.
Shocka
March 30th, 2002, 06:57 AM
missionary is best ONLY if the guy is loving and caring and slow and gentle. otherwise it can cause a lot of pain and be too deep.
I thought about that as well; however, if he is not loving, caring, slow and gentle you do not want to lose your virginity to him in the first place.

That's basically the same conversation I just had in my head. Unfortunately, in the real world, it's not HIGHLY likely to come across a guy who is loving, caring, slow and gentle, especially when we're talking about teenagers.

My thought is to begin in the missionary position for initial penetration, and then change to have her legs up against his body and feet hooked over shoulders, which simulates the G-Spot more and makes it more pleasurable for both partners. And guys, be really gentle and slow.
Am I tight or not?
March 30th, 2002, 09:38 AM
missionary is best ONLY if the guy is loving and caring and slow and gentle. otherwise it can cause a lot of pain and be too deep.
I thought about that as well; however, if he is not loving, caring, slow and gentle you do not want to lose your virginity to him in the first place.

you know, I've though about this, and even though I'm a gentle and caring guy I still don't think I'd know what to do with a virgin. I've never been with one, so how do I know what's best?

having good intentions is not enough
Deidre
March 30th, 2002, 10:34 AM
you know, I've though about this, and even though I'm a gentle and caring guy I still don't think I'd know what to do with a virgin. I've never been with one, so how do I know what's best?
When she starts screaming and crying you'll know you did something wrong and hopefully slow down. It's not just about the guy not being worthy, it's about the girl too. It takes two to tango.
miz erotika
March 30th, 2002, 11:07 AM
missionary....when it comes down to it, i think most guys would be careful the first time.
super_chevy2000
March 30th, 2002, 02:39 PM
The Missionary
hunny
March 30th, 2002, 04:20 PM
Everyone's saying missionary, and i agree. I lost mine in the m issionary position.
I think it's best bc it's just sort of.... familiar, or something, even to virgins.
You know? Like, you sort of know how it 'works' from that position.
Of course it has to still be taken slow and easy, but it sort of puts the guy 'in charge.' And frankly, that's probably the only way it would happen for most girls, otherwise it would never happen at all in many cases.
Fairy Princess
April 1st, 2002, 12:50 AM
[quote]missionary is best ONLY if the guy is loving and caring and slow and gentle. otherwise it can cause a lot of pain and be too deep.
I thought about that as well; however, if he is not loving, caring, slow and gentle you do not want to lose your virginity to him in the first place.

Thankfully, my bf is loving & caring, but he is a virgin too, so the whole ordeal, i think, is gonna be totally awkward! i dunno.... I was thinking me on top, but after reading the above posts, i think ive changed my mind.
Has anyone ever tried it with both people on their sides?? or would that not work out too well??
Deidre
April 1st, 2002, 03:49 AM
Has anyone ever tried it with both people on their sides?? or would that not work out too well??
We tried that our first time. Hrm. After missionary. It didn't work. At all. Even if we could get it in properly like that, I imagine some burns from moving. I guess we need more practice. :P
Barefoot Matt
April 1st, 2002, 11:18 PM
the position with both people on their sides is supposed to be good for making sex last longer, because there's very shallow penetration and little amplitude of movement, and to me that sounds a bit too difficult to be doing on the first time ;-)
Fairy Princess
April 2nd, 2002, 01:22 PM
the position with both people on their sides is supposed to be good for making sex last longer, because there's very shallow penetration and little amplitude of movement, and to me that sounds a bit too difficult to be doing on the first time ;-)

thanks for the tip! :~p
Kawaii Haruka
April 5th, 2002, 07:13 PM
Doesn't matter the first time sucks with a guy. It hurts something horrid. He was trying to be easy... but it just didn't help. He appearantly was a virgin too. Oh well, guys, concider your self lucky when you are with your girl! No pain! The only pain a guy has to worry about is teeth when the girl is sucking. :evil2:

'ruka
nicruns
April 6th, 2002, 01:49 AM
missionary. and if he is a virgin it probably wont really last long anyway. sorry but its true. just take it slow and relax. it wont necesarily hurt... mine didnt at all. and you might wanna drink a little... being a bit buzzed (not piss ass drunk) can help you stay relaxed
JaMiTHy
April 9th, 2002, 10:55 PM
shoulnt have to drink to have sex with ur boyfriend..or gilfriend. just doesnt seem right to me
Fairy Princess
April 12th, 2002, 01:04 AM
shoulnt have to drink to have sex with ur boyfriend..or gilfriend. just doesnt seem right to me

yeah, me neither. im not a drinker anyways & thankfully neither is my bf,
(who also is a virgin, incase anyone is wondering). (why did i say that... just spreading my bf's business all over the place... man, whats wrong with me..... lol :roll: )
Kemoish
April 12th, 2002, 04:34 AM
That's basically the same conversation I just had in my head. Unfortunately, in the real world, it's not HIGHLY likely to come across a guy who is loving, caring, slow and gentle, especially when we're talking about teenagers.

I resent that! I am 1) not gay, so lets clear that out of here first of all.
But anyways, I can't stand guys that treat girls like they are sex objects, and I have always tried to be the most caring friend to any girl that I ever talk to. It's a HELL of a lot easier to get girls to like you if you are sweet and nice than if you are a fucking jerk. I admit, there are some girls that like it rough, and I don't care about that. Anyways...when me and my g/f had sex the first time (we were each others firsts), I was as gentle, slow, and caring as I possibly could be. So your little statement is not entirely true!! I know quite a few people like me! (But, hey... I live in Utah, so it's probably just the mormon speaking... I'm not mormon, though...I'm just like this)
Peaches18
April 12th, 2002, 10:24 PM
well ive heard the girl on top cuz she can control how deep it goes but for the first time i would be on top. man for me that hurt, he was on top. so for me im my opinion i would say the guy on top.
Fairy Princess
April 13th, 2002, 12:51 AM
well kemoish, its good to know that there are still "a few good men" out there in this world. :wink:
Lone Wolf
April 13th, 2002, 12:59 PM
and you might wanna drink a little... being a bit buzzed (not piss ass drunk) can help you stay relaxed

...I dunno... you see, it sounds a little like making her drunk to get to have sex.


Though it might be a good idea for me to get drunk in that situation...
:mrgreen:


Lone Wolf :mrgreen:
BigJim
April 14th, 2002, 10:11 PM
and you might wanna drink a little... being a bit buzzed (not piss ass drunk) can help you stay relaxed

...I dunno... you see, it sounds a little like making her drunk to get to have sex.

nope. nicruns is quite smart. often the first time is hard and painful because the girl is nervous and tense and makes penetration difficult. also, if they're like that they produce less lubrication which doesn't help.

a simple glass of wine or a beer can help relax the nerves and settle the mind. not drunk, not tipsy, not smashed. just helps calm the people down, take it slower and makes it a lot more enjoyable and run smoothly.
super_chevy2000
April 15th, 2002, 09:58 AM
nope. nicruns is quite smart. often the first time is hard and painful because the girl is nervous and tense and makes penetration difficult. also, if they're like that they produce less lubrication which doesn't help.

a simple glass of wine or a beer can help relax the nerves and settle the mind. not drunk, not tipsy, not smashed. just helps calm the people down, take it slower and makes it a lot more enjoyable and run smoothly.

This is very true. For my first time I drank one wine cooler and so did my bf so we would both be calm and relaxed.