Holy Freaking Crap I'm Confused

[GJHM]

Alright bear with me, I'm confused as hell.

So I dated this girl awhile back, Sarah. Sarah is a sophomore at Fredonia State, a college about 5 minutes from my house. We dated for awhile, and seemingly at random, she collapsed. Said she didn't have time for a boyfriend, that she loved me, but that she had to concentrate on school cause she was swamped. Mind you, I'm 17 and a senior in High School. We didn't talk for months, and now we're talking again...

Well, we've been discussing hanging out and stuff, and we've both expressed that we still have feelings for eachother. She says we still can't date, but she's basically willing to go the friends with benefits route... but refuses to call it that, cause she says it MEANS more than that. Am I overanalyzing, or do you think maybe there is potential for rejuvenating what we lost?

[IGemini]

Fredonia? Just a stone's throw away...

Anyway, it sounds like you're misinterpreting, assuming you're quoting reasonably. It sounds like sex means something more to her but she's avoiding the exclusive attachment. It doesn't sound like she's leading you on...just avoiding the label, mostly.

[GJHM]

Originally posted by IGemini@Dec 2 2004, 11:28 PM
Fredonia? Just a stone's throw away...

Oh? Where are you?

And what do you mean, misinterpreting?

[IGemini]

I go to UB.

And misinterpreting by what she means by "friends with benefits" "meaning more." Being led on is the chance you always take, but judging from what you're relaying, I think that she is hoping for more, but not at this time.

[jrae69]

Sounds like a fun relationship...dont dog it! LoL...seriously though she probably lonely and wanting some "attention" from you. Its all good, even girls can be shallow, not that she is, well...you know what I mean.

[DiabloMan]

Friends with Benefits?




HEEEEELLLL YEAAAAH!




either way, one of you will form some emotional attachment in the end. so it's a win win situation


:bounce:

[StmyMocha]

either way, one of you will form some emotional attachment in the end. so it's a win win situation

That is not a win win situation if he has the emotional attachment and she does not in the end. It's a very hurtful path.

Be careful in this. It's a difficult situation to be in.

[Rammstein39]

Ahh hello to another WNYer! U in dunkirk or something? Heard you guys got a lot of snow! I miss it :sadcry:

Anyway, this is really odd. I would say be cautious... if she isnt clear then I would ask straight out what she does want.

[GJHM]

Originally posted by Rammstein39@Dec 3 2004, 04:27 PM
Ahh hello to another WNYer! U in dunkirk or something? Heard you guys got a lot of snow! I miss it :sadcry:

Anyway, this is really odd. I would say be cautious... if she isnt clear then I would ask straight out what she does want.
Haha yeah, Dunkirk... how'd ya know?

But yeah, this is so messed up. A lot of guys would kill for my situation. There's all this chemistry still, but she doesn't want more right now... I can't handle just being FWB... *sigh* I dunno.

[Intelx]

This post is stupid.



This is where you don't have to have absolutely no commitment to this girl, and get all the benefits that you want. Is she 'screwing around' ???


She is just confused. Until she finds out what she wants, you go on with your own life. More you do this, more likely she want to 'rejuvinate' the relationships.




Girls CAN'T stand the fact not getting the things they want. They hate it. :laugh:

[jrae69]

Girls CAN'T stand the fact not getting the things they want. They hate it.
Hey I resent/resemble that comment!!

[BurningMonkey]

All you have to do is fool around with another girl.

If the first girl gets pissed, then she wants to date you.

If she doesn't, then she doesn't.

Problem solved. :idea:

[eightball61]

Originally posted by GJHM@Dec 3 2004, 04:04 AM

She says we still can't date, but she's basically willing to go the friends with benefits route...
Remember you are confused as hell....

If you keep taking the friends with benefits route then you will eventually just getting hurt more. If you don't have a relationship going then you both shouldn't be taken a relationship role because one usually gets hurt out of the deal and that the person with hopes things will end in thier favor.

In this case you will be the person getting hurt. Its totally up to you on how you want to approach this but she did state she wants no relationship so that means no will not get any further in that route. She is in college and to me she sounds like she is having way to much fun and I hope she isn't sleeping around because there is STD's out there and I hate for you to get caught up in that mess because she rather play.

You are in high school and you don't need this confusion. You deserve a whole lot more than what she is giving you. As I said though its your choice on how to take this but since you know my view I hope you put the thought into consideration....