Guys: I need a bit of help!

[solara]

What would it mean if you, a guy who had already chosen (by not breaking up with said girl) another girl over me asked one of your friends about a guy someone is trying to set me up with?
The story, if you want to hear it, is that me and this guy have been friends for a year and a half. The beginnging of this school year, I start to think he likes me, and, even more awkward, that I like him. Problem- he has a girlfriend. A long distance relationship- we're in highschool and she's in college- and he, apparently, had been thinking he liked me for a long time. So we start acting like we're going out- he has me on his lap, holds my hand, you know, the sweet stuff, holding me at the movies- but he claims we're not. Heartache ensues for me, especially after I tell him to call me when he breaks up with his girlfriend. Needless to say, he hasn't, but he did ask about a guy one of my mom's friends wants to set me up with (in Arkansas, not Texas, though) and, consequently, I'm curious.
What did he mean? More importantly, what are your theories on his thought processes? I mean, besides the fact that he has none . . .

[Juan]

seems like he is trying to get the best of both worlds and keep his options open. it appears as if he is trying to keep you on a string incase something happens with his girlfriend, that way he has you to fall back on.

i could be wrong but thats what it looks like.

[Intelx]

It's high school. Experience it. :)



Anyways, the 'guy' thinks he's a playboy. I don't think he even cares about options, I think he wants both. (greedy, greedy)

Ha ha. I think he thinks... 'I don't have to make a choice. ^^' She (meaning you) will be with me anyways, regardless if I break up with my old GF or not.'



That's how most guys would see it.

[Tuscany]

Or, another possiblity is that doesn't know what he wants at all. He has this long distance girlfriend that he probably doesn't want to let go of, then he has you for comfort who is close by. He probably likes both of you and was probably slightly jealous when he heard about you being possibly being set up with someone.

In short, leave him be until he figures out what he wants. Go date around and if he realizes you aren't waiting around for him, he might decide to dump his girlfriend. Long distance relationships rarely work anyhow, especially in high school. If he doesn't dump her, there are better fish in the sea. Plain and simple. Don't waste your time on guys who don't know what they want.

I'm not a guy, but I thought I'd offer my opinion.