guy having no car

[joe]

i mean can u date if u don't have a car, never miond if its old or new i don;t have a car can i or any guys still date. i mean what happens if u say to the gal -lets meet at so and so location and take it from there is that ok. has any guy asked a gal out and been on a date without a car. has any gal been on a date with a guy without a car. will a gal go out with a guy without a car.
how old were these guys and how old are u? so how did u arrange it- i'll meet ya there or do u catch the bus together.
i don;t now it could be second class if u ask a gal out and ur like ok i'll meet ya at the range theatre on granville st outside at 4pm for the matinee. maybe they would thinking ok what time would this guy be picking me up and all the old fashion stuff ya now, but ahhh sorry this guy does not have a car
i don't think it would work for old fashioned type of girl.

[GrumpyBear]

It doesn't really bother me, but maybe that's because I'm 18 and have no desire to drive :P My boyfriend is 20, he can drive but doesn't have his own car. We have done several things:

+Borrow a car from parent/friend
+Bus together
+Meet somewhere
+Get a ride from friend/family etc.

Typically we either borrow a car or just get a ride with someone else...Getting a ride on the first date could be kind of awkward though, it doesn't bother me any.

Now if I were maybe 30, instead of 18...and dating a guy similar in age I would have to wonder WHY he doesn't have a car. If it's like my case, you're young, going to school or working, actually DOING something with your life I don't mind.

[sunfrost]

I got my drivers license when I was 22... so until recently I did it all without a car... and still do it this way most of the time because you can get there with a bike in less time and don't have to worry about parking the damn thing... or that's the case in little old Belgium with traffic jams from border to border...

[Deidre]

Dude, haven't you already ASKED this question as a part of another thread?

Either way, I still have never dated a guy who owns his own car. Not particularly odd, perhaps, since we have the highest taxed cars in the continent, but no boyfriend of mine has ever owned a car; a grand total of two of my friends own cars. I'm 20.

[chiukit]

geez. car or no car, thats not the point. its about yourself. when are you gonna get it...?

when i started dating, i didnt have a car (duh i was like 12, 13..)
then dated with a car (friends always lent me car.. was 14)
honestly, it didnt have that much of a change..

now im 19.. do i drive? yea i do .. dont have my own car, 'tis my parents..
but i dont always take it all the time. and it really doesnt matter..
also depends where you live too. if you live in a city like nyc...
a car might make things worse with all the traffic and parking, etc.
but if you live in the rurals i guess that's different. ;p

[tearsplash]

Having a car is not at all necessary. I'm a guy, and I've never had a car, and the time when I was getting the most girls was when I was living in the 'burbs. Anyway, if a girl makes up her mind about you based on whether you have a car, is that really the type of girl you want to go out with? Just don't worry about it and have a nice date!

[Palmer of the Turks]

I'm 26 and live in Coquitlam.

I have never owned a car, or even gotten my license.

I bus everywhere.

And yet oddly enough, I've had several successful long term relationships.

Stop trying to assume what girls want. Be your fucking self.

[*after8*]

i've dated only one guy who had his own car. this was when i was 14.
my last relationshit (which lasted 2.5 years longer than it should have) -- he didn't drive. he didn't even have his LICENSE, and nor COULD he get it. and i still went out with him.
currently.. the bf i have now doesnt drive, doesn't have his own car.

i drive, i have my own car, who the hell cares.
if a girl isn't dating you because you dont have your own car, you shouldn't want to b with her anyways.

sheeeesh.,

[GrumpyBear]

if a girl isn't dating you because you dont have your own car, you shouldn't want to b with her anyways.

While in most cases I agree with this statement there's some validity to not dating guys without cars. If a guy (or girl for that matter) doesn't have a car because they're a low-life slacker (i.e. not because they just don't want one, would rather bike/walk, whatever) I think that says A LOT about a person and is reason not to date them. At my age there's a ton of guys who don't have their own car, but if I were older and interested in a guy who just doesn't have a car because he's a slacker and won't work - that's not someone I want to spend my life with so why would I date him? That's really the only reason I won't date a guy on the basis of not having a car, and really it has to do with who he is as a person more than it has anything to do with the car itself.

[Palmer of the Turks]

Then Grumpy, that really has nothing to do with whether or not they have a car. It's about whether they're a slacker.

You could call me a slacker in some ways... even if I could afford a car, I wouldn't get one. I'm too lazy to bother, the bus works just fine as it is.

[vampbarbie]

I got together with my b/f when we were both 19 and you know what he DOESN'T DRIVE. On our first date it didn't occur to me to ask "Oooo do you have a car?"

I've only just got my own car and it makes no difference to the relationship. He still can't drive.

We walk places, or get rides or taxis if we really have to. You've got legs USE THEM.

[GrumpyBear]

Originally posted by Palmer of the Turks@Nov 26 2004, 09:58 AM
Then Grumpy, that really has nothing to do with whether or not they have a car. It's about whether they're a slacker.

You could call me a slacker in some ways... even if I could afford a car, I wouldn't get one. I'm too lazy to bother, the bus works just fine as it is.
I know that's why I said " That's really the only reason I won't date a guy on the basis of not having a car, and really it has to do with who he is as a person more than it has anything to do with the car itself. " but MANY guys that I've seen get turned down for this reason take it as being because of the lack of car, even though to most people around it'd be blantantly obvious that's not the reason.

And that's not the kind of slacking I mean, I take the bus too :biggrin: It's more slacking as in they'd rather waste their life away doing nothing, no job, no goals, no future.

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

I could afford a car. In fact, I could afford a very nice car. But I don't have one. Taxis, walking & public transport are for me preferable to buying a car. And guess what, gasp, shock, horror, no women have ever rejected me because I don't have a car.

[8IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIID]

Joe if you want to set up a date just say that you'll meet her there.

It has been my experience that girls do prefer to be driven around than taking the bus. A car is nicer: your own music, your own space, more room to put shit, generally faster than the bus (not the train tho). You will get more attention in general if you have a car, especially if you have a nice one. You'd probably get more dates too. This doesn't mean that you can't pull girls if you don't have one; I just think a car would make it a tad easier though, especially if the girl doesn't have a car. Ideally, it shouldn't matter but it does. Most people are superficial to a degree, so you can't say that not having a car won't affect your chances.

It's just cooler to say, for example, "Okay i'll pick you up at 7. Don't bother with the bus pass." Then peal out leaving her choking on chunks of asphalt. Way more pimp.

I don't have a car :laugh:

[toychoke]

I'm really starting to suspect this guy of just being a scammer. I think one of the moderators ought to PM him demanding that he post at least once after the others have responded to his post. And that if he doesn't, he'll be banned. I mean I'm just feeling like any advice is a waste of time, as he doesn't read it anyways. What's the use in posting advice if he doesn't even learn from it constructively?

As for having a nice car, well hmmm. I'm not so sure. As a little side study. My freshman year in college I wasn't allowed to bring my car up to college. I got more dates my freshman year than I have in both my sophmore, and junior years combined. In fact, once I got my car up here (by the way I drive a 1994 Nissan 300ZX, that is all decked out), my dates almost halved. Eh I just don't think it matters what car you drive. I just love sports cars, and will always drive one. Hell even if I became President, I'd have my limo changed into a sports car. Mmaybe one that's as decked out as the President's limo would be even faster. You know get out of a hot situation faster because you ahve speed =P.

[hunny]

True, Joe rarely responds once he posts his topic. However, in this case, it's a fairly decent thread in and of itself, the whole "will girls date you if you don't have a car" question is a legitimate one.
Anyway, I've dated guys who didn't have their own car... alright, just ONE guy, but still. Although he did have access to his parent's cars so he drove sometimes on our dates. I drove once in awhile as well. It made no difference to me, but if the guy had no car AND no way of borrowing one, it would've made dating difficult where I live because there's virtually no public transportation. So that creates a problem sometimes.

[Palmer of the Turks]

Originally posted by hunny@Nov 29 2004, 07:38 PM
it would've made dating difficult where I live because there's virtually no public transportation. So that creates a problem sometimes.
I can totally understand about the "no public transportation in the area" thing.

However, I also know that joe lives in the same area as me, and we have one of the best public transit systems in North America.
You can reach practically anywhere by bus around here :)

I know... I'm 26 and have never driven, and I get around just fine.

[joe]

well i guess if the chix really likes u ya she'll be willing to date u even if u don't have a car. but having to pick her and and having good transportation would i think impress her-especially if u have a nice car.
i mean its already hard gettin a date the last thing u want to do is lose ur date.

[sweet-one]

Originally posted by joe@Dec 1 2004, 04:42 PM
well i guess if the chix really likes u ya she'll be willing to date u even if u don't have a car.
Someone give him a prize! :laugh:

Yes, it's nice to "impress" someone with a fancy car, but that's not what impresses me about a guy. I'd be willing to date someone who didn't have a car, most definitely.

[Palmer of the Turks]

Personally, I don't think I would want to date a girl who would be impressed by my fancy car (if I had one).

Hell, if I had a fancy car, I probably wouldn't advertise the fact, and use the bus for a first date anyways. Just to see how it goes.

[lain13ego]

i'm thankful my boyfriend has a car, mostly because public transportation in my area sucks. when neither of us had a car it would take me over two hours to get to his house on the bus...its a thrity five minute trip.

anyhoo...since the public transportation system here is a joke most people have a car in my area...

he didn't have one when we started dating and it never crossed my mind that he should have one, but riding the bus was sure a pain in the ass.

[jrae69]

I live in Portland Oregon, wich in my opinion happens to be the biggest anti-car city in the US...its almost a political/fashion statement to not have a car. My DP and I do own a car but we rarely use it...maybe twice a week to go to the market or if its really pouring down rain (wich it is starting to do a lot of lately)
Anyways, Joe if she likes you, she is gunna go out with you car or no car.
Cheers!

[GrumpyBear]

Originally posted by jrae69@Dec 1 2004, 03:53 PM
I live in Portland Oregon, wich in my opinion happens to be the biggest anti-car city in the US...its almost a political/fashion statement to not have a car. My DP and I do own a car but we rarely use it...maybe twice a week to go to the market or if its really pouring down rain (wich it is starting to do a lot of lately)
Anyways, Joe if she likes you, she is gunna go out with you car or no car.
Cheers!
That's where I live :lol: Cept I live just outside the city so really a car is needed...but in the city the public transportation is probably faster than driving due to parking and traffic.

[jrae69]

Hey Neighbor...nice to meat ya! ;) I live in Johns landing...so Im pretty close to downtown and The MAX is pretty accessible by bus.
Ya think we will get snow again this year?
Cheers!