FLirting with shy guys

[Bballgirl]

Part I
Well my dilemma involves a shy guy and me, a very outgoing girl. He is new to my school this year and is from another state so he really doesn't know anyone. I went up and introduced myself at the beginning of the year, and I have talked to him several times too. Whenever he is around he seems like he wants to come up and talk to me but is shy, and so he never does, I always go up and start the conversation. I even gave him some christmas cookies, like I gave all my other friends. He hangs around me like he wants to talk but doesn't want to start the conversation. He is so shy that when I do start a conversation, he only gives one word answers and doesn't talk much but smiles alot and laughs alot.
Part II
I work at a community gym and they were looking for another person to employ. I told some friends about it including him and now he and his friend are employed there too. Now that we work together, he seems more comfortable around me and opens up a little more. Whenever his friend asks him who he likes he always changes the subject or asks well who do you like. And I like him! So I don't know if he likes me though. I smile and wave and am friendly, so I am flirting. How do shy people flirt? Any insight on shy people would help!
THANKS!
God's Blessings :D

[wowzers]

if i were you, stop liking him while you still can.

thats my personal advice, unless youre up for waiting a year for him to be comfortable enough w you.

no im in that situation w like mye 4th shy guy and im moving in june probly [i jus moved here in august] so time is of the essence and ill probly end up being hurt even tho he likes me. dammit dammit dammit!

try to avoid the shy guys if possible, tho thats impossible for me cuz im attracted only to shy guys.

It was all good until you said the F word...

You're friendly... that doesn't necessarily match up with flirting... actually, it can make him REALLY think "she likes me only as a friend :(" even if he likes you...

But anyway, why don't you hint a little that you might *LIKE* like him by being the "man of the situation" and ask him out? Otherwise you'll sit around all year long waiting for him to do NOTHING.

[surfy_dude]

shy guy flirting, is something you wouldnt even realise
they probly think they are flirting, but you would see it as just something an everyday person would do. um.. if you dont want to wait around, im afraid you'll have to be alot more forward with him... ask him out somewhere to the movies or whatever... you'll have to ask him by the sounds of things... thats for sure

[Vypearl]

agreed

[LeoDaVinci]

Take the initiative!
(I'm a shy guy, sometimes...)
Or give him an opening to take the initiative, but help him out...

-- LDV :cool3:

[indigold]

First of all, kudos to you for initiating the friendship and including him in your activities. He's obviously somewhat comfortable with you. But he's shy. He laughs and smiles a lot, that's definitely a good sign, but I don't think he'll full out flirt with you. Since you're outgoing, ask him out! He may very well want to ask you out, but he's too shy to. Save him the trouble, he'll be very flattered that you like him. This is how I see it. He *wants* to be more flirty and outgoing, but he can't, and he thinks that you won't be attracted to him because he's shy (shy people are generally like that- that's why they want to seem outgoing!), so when you ask him out, he'll be surprised and happy that he didn't have to do it. Another thing about shy people is that they usually don't have the heart to turn you down. They're too scared that you'll get mad at them, and they don't want that. So whether that's a bad thing or not, he'll probably say yes!

Feel free to e-mail me with any other questions!

[~*~wilting flower~*~]

I am in such a similar situation! There's this guy who I don't really actually like (more like idolize, he's kind of like a perfect little bro, but I definitely flirt with him for fun) and his response to my flirting is to laugh and smile a lot, although he doesn't say much. He's the shyest guy I've ever met, and he's beyond absolutely adorable. He's definitely flirting, because its all fun and game for both of us. I've noticed, like you have, that he's opened up more since I keep going up to him. So I say, go for it - what do you have to lose?!!?

[wowzers]

well... it could weird him out and mess up your friendship. the shy guy i like was flirty in the beginning, but i didnt know that much about him.. i asked him to a school dance and he responded, like 2 days later, "this all went too fast, i just wanna be friends for now" ... so hopefully he already considers you a friend if hes anything like this guy...

cuz ever since then we kinda had to start over from like -5 to get back up to 10.... 0 being indifferent, 5 being friends, and 10 being boyfriend/girlfriend.... i think im kinda stuck at 8 with him now cuz tha setback wasnt so hard to overcome but its permanently embedded in the back of his mind as a memory of my stupidity.