UGh! Help! What do I do?

[chiba]

Ok, I've already brought up this topic before but I thought I'd settled it. Apparently not. My polo instructor asked me to lunch about a month ago. I figured it was friendly, and that maybe there'd be more people there, so I accepted. There wasn't- it was just me & him. But we each paid for our own food and I figured that was the end of it. He didn't ask for another month, so I figured he kinda became uninterested. Which was good, because I have a boyfriend and I didn't have to say no.

But he openly asked me on a date this time for lunch, asking for my number. I was like a deer in headlights. I didn't know what to do and I just spurted out, "um, sure." I didn't know how to convey to him the fact that I had a boyfriend and that last time I thought it was just for a friendly outing. I have no idea what to do. So now he's going to call me...what should I say? I want to tell hiim the truth, but I have no idea how to word it.

[__United__]

I think your best bet is to just be blunt and direct by telling him no and that you are not interested.

If you start worrying about hurting feelings and putting it nicely, he is only going to take it as a sign of interest in things you never meant to be that way.

Simply put, how do you say "no"? By saying "NO!".

[The Original Taco]

Tell him that you're sorry for leading him on and that you have a boyfriend...you'll stop hearing from him...

[Palmer of the Turks]

Tell him that you can't go for lunch as you already have a date planned with your boyfriend.

Mention it in a completely deadpan, casual way. Say it as if you know that he already knows you have a boyfriend... just like you'd say to your best friend (who does know about him) or something.

Don't make your boyfriend an issue. Just casually mention him. Plus saying you have a date with him gives you the perfect excuse to get out of the lunch date. If he asks why you didn't mention it before, just say it slipped your mind.

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

Just tell him you've got a boyfriend, shit. The fact that you're faltering with this makes me think that you actually do want to date this guy. Better check yo' self.

[Tortuga]

First of all, I can't believe you said yes. But anyway. Whenever he calls, just say you're busy--whatever day he offers, just say you can't make it.

Tortuga