would any women want me

[joe]

all i am saying is reading from this posts and also other forums, and being a asian male is it true that if u don't have money no women would want me to be their bf. i mean most asian women are off with the wm and the af with the am are in nice cars and successful.
me i am in community college if i finsih this program in business i be happy to get a job, i doubt i be rich or make any kind of big money. -i barely finshed HS and be happy with a girl that wants me for me. , i am 5 7 145lbs asian male. the only thing i have is probably decnet looks and a full head of hair.i'm like an average grade student C+ or something like that. classmate told me chixs in vancovuer are more materliatic than chixs in the east coast- when i ask him why he said b/c of the cost of living her in van is more

if i can't find work related to my field of study-i'm not sure how many girls would go for me. how many girls would date or marry a guy who had a less education and makde less money than em

my folks are like this just study hard and make tons of money and when u have tons of money every girl would want u, u don;t have to chase after em they chase after u-what do u guys think of that.

[DiabloMan]

you lack CONFIDENCE. that is where you have failed.

[Deidre]

Do you think you could make a thread which doesn't have to do with whether or not women would want you and actually listen to any of the responses for once?

This thread is the same as your other ones and really ought to be merged...

[toychoke]

Originally posted by DiabloMan@Nov 15 2004, 12:37 PM
you lack CONFIDENCE. that is where you have failed.
Couldn't say it any better myself.

Hopefully he'll read that this time.

[Sovereign]

Hi, i agree with dude above. You do lack confidence. I used to be a bit chubby... ok fine, fat :badgrin: , but i worked out a lot and turned it into muscle. That boosted my confidence in myself. Try not to think what other people think of you. Just on a sidenote, don't confuse confidence with arrogance. I did that a little, and although it was fun, most girls don't like guys who act like they're better than everyone else. Also, money isn't a big deal for many girls. I work in a crappy sales job for a retail store while doing school and still have girls bugging me. And if you have any friends, try hang out with them more, at places where you'll meet girls, you're bound to find some girls that will like you for who you are. There's someone for everyone!

[Intelx]

You are a loser, accept it. Don't aim so high. ^^


Look. You are short.
You are prob not good looking.
You have no future. C+ in community college? dead end, buddy. dead end...
Do you have some crappy car? like early 90's civic?

Dirty / rusted, crappy stereo?


White girl my ass. Lol. dream on.

Not only that, you are too desparate & too pessimistic.

[KissTheKimmie]

:sadcry: joe.. joe... joe....

I haven't been around for like two months, and your still acting like that?????? What the hell! You haven't listened to anything anyone has said since you started posting here! Your just still having your pitty party and waiting for someone to say "Oh poor baby, I'd date you if I could." I don't get it. Don't you have anything better to do?

[Truth]

Just to let you know

I have the same stats as you... i'm 5'7" and about 145... But man I can pull the ladies... You need to have confidence and also, if you don't ask, you don't get or will never ever know...


Like my friend says, "You can't lose what you don't have"

[ittakessome]

You’re making excuses for your lack of success with girls. NO IT IS NOT BASED ON YOUR ASIAN HERITAGE/GPA/MONEY. Plenty of girls date asshole-losers. Plenty of girls date guys that don’t have jobs. You NEED to stop blaming it on your Asian heritage. That’s just f*cked up. It’s as though you’re looking for a gold digger. Is that the kind of girl it seems like you want???? You want one who will like you b/c you have a career that makes lots of money ahead of you? That will like you b/c you drive a Lexus? Get your head together. You’re being ridiculous!

[toychoke]

How can these girls possibly be judging you on your GPA, or the ammount of money you make in a year? You haven't even asked them out, how do they know this info?

Not to mention any girl that expects you to have a lot of money while in college is what we call a bitch. You shouldn't give these kinds of girls the time of day. They should be breeded out of the gene poll anyways.

You're biggest problem is that you're so desperate for a date that you'll take any girl that comes along. You need to get out of this frame of mind. Not every girl is going to be worth it. I mean Im not saying it's easy. Trust me I have a horribly time finding a girl I can date for more than two weeks (basically just some girl that i can even get along with). You should be having problems finding someone decent, not just finding someone at all. So just relax, and make some more friends. Right now it sounds like you'll just ask out any girl that comes and talks to you for mroe than a minute.

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

As much as I've disagreed with toychoke in general discussion, I've pretty much agreed with him everytime outside of there. He's exactly right. Everyone here is exactly right. It's not that these girls don't like you because of those things, it's because YOU don't like yourself for these things. Get over it man! These girls can SMELL the self loathing and desperation on you. Your problem is you're looking for a girl to make you feel better about yourself. Fucking stop it. You've got to feel better about yourself from the inside first. Cut the shit. Write down a list of everything that you don't like about yourself, then underneath each thing write that it doesn't matter. Because it doesn't. What matters is how you feel about these things, about yourself and about your future.

It's not about your race or social status. Stop making excuses. Stop hating yourself. Create some real confidence and get on with it.

[hunny]

You know, Joe, these guys are right, and they're being really upfront with you. Sometimes the tendency is to turn threads like this into a joke or a bash-fest, but that's not what's happening here. They're telling you something, and what they're telling you is very valid. ARE YOU LISTENING??

[vampbarbie]

You lack confidence and like I said before you come across like a small child going "pick me, pick me!"
You don't care what girl it is as long as any girl likes you. Girl's do not date desperate men.

[DiabloMan]

I don't think you should be worrying about girls right now.

a C average in COMMUNITY COLLEGE?!?!?!



you are a sad man.

[Intelx]

I totally agree.

Dude, you have so much more to worry about than a girl right now.



I say you give up any thought about girls, and set your priorities straight.

[HurleyGirlie]

Originally posted by ittakessome@Nov 15 2004, 09:56 PM
Plenty of girls date asshole-losers.
Unfortunately that is true...

[Tortuga]

I really don't think the fact that you're Asian has anything to do with anything. Sounds like you're using your culture as a crutch.

Tortuga

[StrayDog]

Well, I'm Asian, and I've seen plenty o' action so...
I'd say you're the exception.

[*after8*]

as corny and lame and cliched as it is.. you have to love yourself first.
if you're wandering around with the mentality "who would want me? im ugly, im stupid, im poor, im asian, im yada yada yada yada'.. that doesnt send off good vibes.
and i'd hazard a guess that if you DID get into a relationship, you'd b very clingy and extrememly needy, and you'd prolly make the relationship end sooner than it would by being so demanding.

i agree with everyone else. focus on your schooling -- school is more important than some chick who you wont even end up marrying. put all your effort into bettering yourself: whether that b thro extra help in school, more classes, going to the gym, getting a parttime job.. etc.
theres two ways to "deal" with problems.. either complain and cry about them, or CHANGE them. and if you can't change them, change the way you feel about them.

[Ryan Tiley]

Have you noticed a pattern? Joe posts a thread, lots of people reply, but Joe doesn't reply. Then he posts a thread again, seemingly not having learned anything from the previous threads. What does this tell you? Does Joe really want to know the answer to his question or is he just playing around with you? Perhaps you should stop replying to him.

[joe]

yea i go to the gym and lift weight- i notice i gota some confidence back. what activites do u ppl do to better urself.

oh ya this guy i knew at the gym works at blockbuster vid and is 30 i mean isn't that a little too old to work there, i mean shouldn't u be moving on to a career. any of u guys like taht guy

[Aero]

oh ya this guy i knew at the gym works at blockbuster vid and is 30 i mean isn't that a little too old to work there, i mean shouldn't u be moving on to a career. any of u guys like taht guy No, but keep getting C+ in community colleges and you might end up there as well.

[Nonny]

FWIW, my ex-fiance was a fifty year old disabled preoperative female-to-male transsexual man. Who was flat broke. So, no, not all of us care about appearances or money, but the heart.

I've got to agree with the rest of the people here, though... with a C average in a frickin' community college, you've got bigger things to worry about than chicks. :P

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

Originally posted by Nonny@Nov 24 2004, 07:55 AM
FWIW, my ex-fiance was a fifty year old disabled preoperative female-to-male transsexual man. Who was flat broke. So, no, not all of us care about appearances or money, but the heart.
:laugh: