Telling people who you like/are interested in

[Haboob]

What do you think on the topic of telling people, such as your friends, who you like / are interested in?



Not a big deal?

Should be done?

Dont do it?

Doesnt matter?




Um yeah

[Deidre]

Eh. If you want to tell them, tell them, but beware that it might get out and reach the girl you like. Otherwise, it's your business, not theirs, so why would you tell them? What good does it do?

[Prism]

Ummmm I don't openly say, call my best friend and be like "soo I like so and so", however, it is a topic that comes up on occassion and I don't hide the fact that I'm interested in someone. Often, my closest friends know because I tend to get myself into confusing situations and go to them for advice *shrug*

I agree with Deidre though --> there's absolutly no sense in just telling someone "just because". I realize though at your age, it's kinda the 'thing' to do (or not do) bc everyone is sooo hung up on the "Who you like bit". just make sure you trust who you're telling not go go blabbing it across the school or to the girl... as there is always that risk of the other person finding out... than again, as you get older THAT isn't such a huge deal either. Usually the guys I'm interested in have a (pretty good) idea I'm interested :laugh:

L.

[chiukit]

i dont think theres a point in telling people just to tell them..
i mean if you tell them because you want to ask for advice, then thats another thing. *shrug*

my friends and i dont really talk about these things, sometimes when its brought up its about girls we've already hooked up with or something..

[toychoke]

If you never let someone know that you like them, than how can you possibly expect them to know, and then do something about it? I mean if you never make move than you can't really complain when she never comes your way.

Ha, sadly this seems like wonderful advice just for me. Cursed girl across the hall from me. Just need to ask her out (been waiting for her to break up with her BF). She finally told me last night in one of our conversations over dinner, that she broke up with her BF about two weeks ago. So see I mean perfect chance to relate this idea. :dance:

As for telling friends, well I usually talk with my actual girl"friends" about it before I do. It's kind of a way to come to the realization about how to move forward yourself, any advice they give is just bonus.

[Haboob]

Well I dont have any girl "friends" to get advice from :(

[toychoke]

Just trust yourself. The biggest thing to realize is that asking a girl out is not that big a deal. You can't possibly be in love with a girl until you've really gotten to know them on both a friendship level, and a relationship level.

Just ask her out, and get it over with. No sense convencing yourself that she is someone that she isn't (basically falling in love with some idealized version of her). If she turns you down, than oh well, onto the next great love of your life. Dating is about learning to except the fact that some will except and some will reject.

[__United__]

More times than not, I've found that one of the friends you tell also likes that girl, and soon after, comes competition!

If you can, tell one of her close girlfriends, otherwise, I'd more or less keep it to yourself.

[Haboob]

If you can, tell one of her close girlfriends, otherwise, I'd more or less keep it to yourself.

Why would I want to do that?

[Anthropolemic]

Heh...oh man...

I used to give girls codenames, if that's any indication on how seriously I took security in those kinds of matters. If you don't, you get e-mails like this:

From: anonymouspersonwhoseidentityisnoneofyourbusiness@a verysuckysocalledisp.com
Date: Thursday, May 11, 2000 4:06 PM
To: maverick@emf.freehosting.net
Subject: Potential%20Crush%20Candidate

hey guess what?! i know who the crush is...

From: thesameveryanonymousperson@thesameunnamedpieceoftr ashexcuseforanisp.com
Date: Thursday, May 11, 2000, 7:20 PM
To: c10@sprynet.com
Subject: RE: Potential%20Crush%20Candidate

hey i was just messin but if u gave me some hints i probably could figure it out cuz im just good like that

Memories...but yeah, I'd keep it tight until you're ready, because once it gets out to one person, you must be prepared for the possibility that it'll spread out, and you have to be ready for her to know.

Personally, I'd just cut the bullshit and git her done, but that's just me.

[Anthropolemic]

Originally posted by Haboob@Nov 18 2004, 01:22 AM

Why would I want to do that?
I wouldn't tell her best girlfriend...in fact, that's the last person I would tell. That's a disaster waiting to happen. Timed release is definitely the key.

[__United__]

Well, if you're friends with her best friend then I don't see a problem with it because chances are she will pull for you.

You just have to feel it out.

[Ryan Tiley]

If you really desperately like someone, and you don't know what to do, then it's probably a good idea to tell somebody - they can tell you where you're going wrong or knock some sense into you.

If you know what you're doing and you think you have things under control, it's probably best not to tell anybody.