Why do...?

[Haboob]

Why do girls usually tend to go for older guys?

[IGemini]

There's a sociological basis to it. In a general sense, older means that the guys are more mature, knowledgable, protective, and generally more capable. It has the same basis of men playing the traditionally dominant role in society. Note that this is in a general sense and not always true. Older women going for younger guys is usually known as "stealing the cradle."

Of course, there are always exceptions.

[chiukit]

yea thats about it, really.
women mature faster than men do, so they tend to be with older men.
there are sometimes men that mature faster too, like me for instance (or so everyone says).
so the age thing doesnt really come into play.. i mean.. im 19, dating someone 21.. and no its not stealing the cradle! ;p

[Deidre]

IGemini pretty much covered it.

Partly, it's that, and partly it is simply that a lot of girls want what other girls want: especially when they're young (it goes for guys too, actually). That's why once you have a significant other, people start noticing you, and that's why if a few think you're good looking, the numbers with rise. You could probably make a nice little geometric sequence out of it.

...and that's why even the most immature girls don't stop and think: "hey, I'm immature... maybe I should go for a younger guy to suit my level of maturity" (even if they're mature enough to consider it)

[Shocka]

Originally posted by chiukit@Nov 11 2004, 02:15 PM
there are sometimes men that mature faster too, like me for instance (or so everyone says).
Ohhh, if you're so mature, then you definately need to state it. I feel such gratitude to be in the presense of someone so mature.

Chester, you're a piece of shit. No offence.

[chiukit]

....


i have no idea why youre still on my ass even to this day.

[ittakessome]

i'm 17 and he is 21. i was never really into older guys, infact all my exs are younger than me. that changed after my most recent ex. after him i was totally over the highschool-drama-dating scene. infact i was over highschool all together. (i was going into my junior year of HS. and i decided i wanted to graduate. so i did that year.) shortly after i was over my ex (shortly=9 months) i met a sophmore in college. his bestfriend was relaxed and perfect. so now he is my boyfriend and has been for 14 months.

so basically i was over playing games with highschool kids.

[Haboob]

So... Younger guys dont have much of a chance with older girl? What if the guy is quite mature (in personality i mean)?

[Deidre]

Originally posted by Haboob@Nov 12 2004, 07:42 AM
So... Younger guys dont have much of a chance with older girl? What if the guy is quite mature (in personality i mean)?
They can, but it's not the norm.

Didn't you touch upon this in your first thread?

[sweet-one]

I'm dating a guy who's younger than I am. I'll be 20 in December and he'll be twenty next july. However, he's going to graduate college 1.5 years before me and he's already working a full time job as well as going to school. I got a younger guy with brains and maturity, so it's entirely possible for a girl to date a younger man.

[IGemini]

Hence why I said "there are alway exceptions."

[ittakessome]

Originally posted by Haboob@Nov 12 2004, 06:42 AM
So... Younger guys dont have much of a chance with older girl? What if the guy is quite mature (in personality i mean)?
but you have to remember youre only 13 and youre still interested in girls your age. and basically they are too.

i remember in middle school/early highschool everyone basically dated their own age. when i was in my upperclass years of highshool all the guys were looking at girls that were in 10th grade and such. (i have no idea if that was normal and i didnt get why, they were kids, but whatever. i was out of there already.)

[Prism]

I always tend to go for older guys. They're more mature for the most part, or at least in my experiance. That is not too say I'd never date a guy the same age as me again, or a guy younger than me, but in my experiance any guy I've been interested in my age or younger has turned out to be incredibly immature and just not mentally where I need a guy to be. *shrug*

Currently I'm thrown for a loop over two guys, one whom is older than me, and one whom is my age (same year) but a cpl months younger. My apprehensions about the second guy also include the fact I think he seems to be VERY immature at times.

*shrug*

So yes, we tend to go for older guys but that's not like we're ruling out younger guys.

I also have to agree with ittakessome though --> you're 13! don't worry about older girls yet :P

L.

[Intelx]

Why do girls go for taller / athelatic guys?
Why do girls go for smarter guys?
Why do girls go for this... that...


Cuz they like them. ^^'

Out of many essential component the girls look for in guys, maturity is one of the universal high-priority component they look for. Along with lot of other traits, that older guys tends to have.




As we know, some are exceptions though... :)
CNN (http://www.cnn.com/2004/LAW/11/09/child.sex.ap/index.html)

[Rammstein39]

I personally dont do the older guy thing. My b/f is the same age as me. I just dont feel liek I ever have anything in common with older guys.

I dunno if anyone touched on this, but some girls just like to have an older guy as a social standing thing. Like "Look im so good I can get better guys than anyone..." At least I saw that in HS I dont think its present much in college.

[newlysingle]

in your case, girls go for older guys because you're 13.

[StrayDog]

I want older women. I've always desired, wanted, and went after older women. It's not really that I choose it that way - it just so happens that they are older. I'd get introduced, I'd get to know them, I'd ask them out.. and when the age comes up, they are almost always older.

Not by much, usually just 2-3 years older.




Lately though, I've been having an urge to go fuck me a nice low mileage body.
Why? No reason: just for spite. I've seen so many older men get younger women.

[Lone_Raider]

I was like a 40 year old man when I was 16 lol. I refused to participate in any high school activites, started formulating solutions to social and political problems, reading philosophy. In fact I often did this instead of my math or science homework, that and I had issues with the structure of a system that forces you to take classes in which you have no interest and do not want to pursue a career in. Although I had to do that in college anyway, but they didn't ride me like they did in high school so I did my work. That didn't help me in high school, only managed to breifly date one girl in the last few months of my Senior year.

When I was 19 in my freshman year at college a 22 year old girl said I was the most mature 19 year old she had ever meet in front of 3 other older girls. She was dating a 27 year old guy and the others were single. That statement didn't help me out, I didn't go out with anyone that year and none of the girls who were sitting there lol. The "actual age" is still more important then the actual level of maturity to most women. It's almost like a psychological effect where they all want a father figure, and age is more important then any other factor.

[MuthaFranka]

once you hit the 20 year threshold things start to change a bit.

The difference in age is not so much a difference as much as it is just a number.

Although perhaps I'm wrong.

I'll say 25. People tend to have their lives more straightened out when 25.

Plus guys don't mature until 25 9 times out of 10, sad fact.

[GrumpyBear]

I would say after you're done with school (including college) or are going for extended education like a Ph d or something is when it really stops mattering so much. By then partying days have calmed down a bit, people are more interested in finding someone they might want to actually stay with and so on.

[Haboob]

I also have to agree with ittakessome though --> you're 13! don't worry about older girls yet

Its not like im planing to try and get a 17 year old girlfriend