i'm back in teh saddle :)

[JerseyBoy]

so today i'm in the cell phone store getting help from a worker, and we start joking around a bit, and get kinda chummy. I KNOW that people in customer support are supposed to be nice , so i have no preconceived ideas about why she was being so nice to me.

however, as i'm leaving she gives me a big smile, and says, "see ya later." should i take that as her way of telling me to come in again to see her?

also i never asked out someone who works with teh public, and is dealing with customers, so i need a way to ask her out for a cup of coffee, WITHOUT embarassing her at work. any suggestions???

p.s., if you dont have anything nice to say, dont waste youre time to post, thanks!

[Deidre]

Originally posted by JerseyBoy@Nov 10 2004, 10:29 PM
however, as i'm leaving she gives me a big smile, and says, "see ya later." should i take that as her way of telling me to come in again to see her?
Dude, every goddamned service worker I have ever MET in an English speaking country SAYS THAT!

If you go into the bank, "See you later!", if you go into the department store, "See ya", if you go into the grocery store "See ya later"... it's what they say. It's a less intimidating and definite way to say "Good bye". It means NOTHING.

If it DOES mean something, there are a whole damned lot of 30-somthing lesbians around (and 14 year old males) with crushes on me! And damn, they say that every time I come back without trying to chat me up -- they must be waiting for my initiative!

[JerseyBoy]

sorry, but i dont ever recall someone from customer support sector of ANY business operation saying that to me. they say 'HAVE A NICE DAY"

[Sovereign]

Hey Jersey Boy, sorry, but i tend to agree with the lady above. My standard response to anyone is "see ya later". That doesn't necessarily mean that she wasn't interested. Did she give you any body language suggesting attraction? or maybe she seemed reluctant to let you go. Just the phrase "see ya later" probably isn't strong enough evidence to suggest attraction. Hope that helps!

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

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[HurleyGirlie]

See ya later... Are you kidding? To me, that's the same as "goodbye". And the big smile? I am the queen of plastering on a smile for customers, even when I'm having a bad day and don't want to be there. It's her job to be nice, smile, and get you to come back and spend money at their store.

[hunny]

OMG, she said "See you later?!!"

Dude.
She wants you bad.

I mean, that is just full of hidden meaning and all.

[princess]

Originally posted by JerseyBoy@Nov 10 2004, 09:29 PM

p.s., if you dont have anything nice to say, dont waste youre time to post, thanks!
Did no one read that part??


Personally I have never heard someone say see you later, as mentioned above I mostly get 'have a nice day''s.

Even so, I wouldn't necessarily take it as a sign that she likes you.

If you are really keen on inviting her out though, maybe catch her when she's in the corner - not around any employees or customers and ask her when she's done, if she wants to grab a coffee or a bite to eat or something.

[Deidre]

Originally posted by princess@Nov 11 2004, 02:54 AM
Did no one read that part??
Actually, only one person so far has posted something that isn't useful advice, or answers the question -- and I think that post (hunny's) is probably the most effective, in that it's sarcastic.

Everyone else answered the question. We didn't say what he wanted to hear that's all... and doing that wouldn't have been "nice", it would have been lying. Being as clear as possible and honest... "nice".

[vampbarbie]

She's expected to smile, be nice and encourage you to shop at the store again. If making guys think she's digging them brings them back to the store to spend money then so be it. I know a lot of people in stores like that, especially phone stores work on commission. The more schmucks she can get to come back and shop the more money she makes.

[Anthropolemic]

When I worked in retail I told everyone "see you later." C'mon man...you need something more concrete...

[DiabloMan]

like omg! my mom smiled and said, "see you later" when I left this morning. should I go ask her out next time I see her?


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[Anthropolemic]

LMFAO. :lol: :lol: :lol:

[chiukit]

lmao. AHAHAHAHAHAHA :lol:



dude.... sometimes i think you should just quit dating.
and no 'see ya later' really means nothing. read fgarcia's posts on flirting wont you? it might help you a lot...

[Ryan Tiley]

Talking to an attendant in a shop is not 'back in the saddle'. It's not even in sight of the horse.

So your first priority is to get real and admit to yourself that as long as you have done nothing out of the ordinary, that is, you've done nothing beyond what a normal customer in the store would do, then any relationship between you and this girl is a fantasy and nothing more.

So, what could you have done? Well in that situation where she is in her place of business it would be difficult to ask her out. But then it is always difficult to ask somebody out. I wasn't there. I don't know how the conversation went. It's possible she may have had some interest in you, but it's also possible that she had no interest in you whatsoever.

Well, you were there, so you ought to be able to tell whether there was something between you. But I think you have no idea. I mean, if 'see you later' is the nicest thing she said to you that day then she probably really hates you. I mean, it's the most mundane thing that can happen. It's a given. I say it to absolutely everybody, even people I don't really like. Surely you were looking for other signs of interest and not pinning your whole campaign on just her 'see you later'. Come to think of it, I've really written too much already. This thread is probably a hoax that I've walked right into.

[Intelx]

Here. It's prob not true, that she gave you any signs meaning she likes you.

But, this is what you can do, if YOU are interested.

If you are interested, you could try to initiate a short conversation next time you request service, and try to get her number / when she get off work / coffee / lunch (whatever) asap (due to short amount of time).

Depending on her response of your proposition, you will indeed find out if she was (kinda) interested, and she will confirm her interest during your initial first date.


If YOU ARE indeed interested in her, it should not matter if she smiled at you and said 'see you later', or if she looked sad and gloomy that day. You should always initiate a conversation.

[Prism]

I worked at Chapters for a year and a half, and honestly, I said "see ya later" or "see you soon" etc to TONS of customers. And my managers ALWAYS commented on how friendly and smile-y I was with customers. *shrug* It's our job to get along with the customers, and to chat with them, maybe joke a little, and by friendly, helpful, smiley, and positive. It's called "trying to make a sale". Heh.

I wouldn't read anything into it.

On the other hand, if you still really want to ask her out or whatever --> Give it a try when she's not around alot of people, but don't be surprised if she 1) doesn't remember you or 2) gets a little creeped out.

*shrug*

L.