Getting out of dance invitation...

[EvanH]

Hey all,

So the girl in the previous LJBF post and I went to an election party last night... Aside from the election, things were incredible. We were kinda on each other all night, and it was just great. There's this sadie hawkins dance next week that she asked me to... now i'm like beyond happy that she asked me, and i said yes, except here's the problem... i've got some anxiety problems, and i just can't do dances... i absolutly hate them - i'd rather be scalped than go to one.

so my question is this, how do i get out of the dance, but still keep the girl. and don't bother trying to get me to go to the dance, cause it just won't happen...

[vampbarbie]

You already said yes knowing you wouldn't go? You are stupid. The girl is gonna be upset whatever you say.

[GrumpyBear]

Originally posted by vampbarbie@Nov 3 2004, 07:34 AM
You already said yes knowing you wouldn't go? You are stupid. The girl is gonna be upset whatever you say.
Probably true. Especially if you make up some lame excuse about being busy or something coming up - she'll probably think you've lost interest or something. I really think the only thing that could possibly get you out of this is to be honest with her. Tell her you dislike dances, tell her why. Tell her you want to go with her really badly - but that you have anxiety issues in those type of social events. Offer to do something else with her another time that would be just as important to her.

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

If you're going to cancel, do it ASAP. I wouldn't suggest telling the truth, although you might want to. If not, come up with a good excuse. Just remember to offer something else. Like dinner the next night or something like that. Something to show you're interested.

[ksinner]

Why not go to the dance, and NOT dance? I mean, I know it's very...middle school junior high sockhopish and probably not the right thing to do, but the girl wants to go. and you told her you'd go.

just tell her these kinda events freak you out and you are not interested in dancing, but you'd love to go to the dance with her.

[Acuna]

I think there was like an article I read about guys dancing...and trust me when I tell you this...

Not very many guys are that great out on the dancefloor...we just had our Homecoming this past weekend, and from my experience I think Ive been to maybe 2-3 dances in my life where I actually tried dancing.

Homecoming was great, I actually danced and my date had a blast. It gives you a chance to get real intimate with your girl and I mean even if you think you suck at dancing which is what I though, just go with the flow, I had some mistakes lol here and there trying to stay with her but I mean we laughed about it later and had a fun awesome night.

Stop being a pansy and go out there and knock em dead lol...most guys cant dance, but its just about having fun bro good luck :rocker:

[qtpa2t]

Well, first off. If these are your feelings and you were obviously very aware of them before hand; you should never have said yes.
You would have a better chance of keeping your ground had you just been upfront about it. Now, you're going to back out of it and regardless of how you handle it she's probably going to read into it. Anything from you are losing interest to you don't want to be seen with her.
My word of advice to you is think before you speak.
Best of Luck

[meeso]

Oh this is simple .. You simply come clean.. Tell her you don't know how to dance and she's going to have to guide you along. Then tell her "You WERE going to cancel because you are so bad, but you didn't want to hurt her feelings .... "

Now she thinks your thoughtful, and you're going to get to see her..

Problem solved..

I give this 9/10 stars for contributional post value points. (CPVPs)

[Ryan Tiley]

Just go to the dance!

[Crash Override]

Pop a Xanax and stand by the wall for everything except the slow songs (where you will, obviously, want to dance with her).

There you go, problem solved.

[Rainbow Brite]

if you hate dances so much, why did you agree to go? if you back out now, you might ruin things before they get started.

[EvanH]

Well fortunatly i got out of it, and didn't even have to lie. I totally forgot that my cousins bar mitzvah was the same day. Score!

So i told her, and she was tottaly fine, and i asked her if she'd like to go out (last night), and we did... we had a really great time, and its going to lead me to make a new post! lol