how often do guys initate before we stop

[joe]

i now i am new to all these girls-attraction and flirting part -never mind dating. but right after class i chit chatted with this askin if she ever went to the same HS as i did, all i am askin is how often i mean in numbers terms should a guy initate the conversation and be freindly with a girl before he stops and moves on to the next girl or says ahhh forgot about it. i mean i be like to this to a gal- "so what do u think about the test hard hey" or i say "so what other courses are u takin",.. somethin like that make small talk. b/c we all now that most of the time guys have to be the initator to the girl.
never mind even dating- i have to start the attration and flirting and communication part with the girl first. yea late bloomer. i wish i had good guy buds who were good with the ladies so i could ask these type of questions.

[chiukit]

sigh.. 45 posts like this.. and youre still clueless?
my biggest advice i can give you: go out there, and get some experience.
who cares if you get the girl or not. if you dont, then hey you got the experience. think about what you did wrong or whatnot. if you did, then great.

now to answer your question.
when do we stop? i honestly dont have a problem with this thing..
if the girl seems uninterested, then stop. nothing with just letting it go.
if she seems like she wants to keep talking and have a conversation, then keep going.


now wasnt that simple?

[toychoke]

as Chuikit said, this mostly comes from experience. Different girls will respond in different ways to flirting. It mostly comes from how aggressive they are as a person. Some girls will respond faster to your flirting than others. And sometimes you'll have to back off just slightly and allow them to move forward with it a little bit. It's so random that it's hard to explain online. Everything I know just comes from a feeling I get when a girl is interested, or when she isn't. I mean I hate to give you such crappy advice, but you aren't going to learn anything in this field until you just get out there and get to work learning how to read people. I guess you could think of it like ESP. As you gain more experience dating, you'll just learn what signs to expect to see from a girl who is and isn't interested.

[DiabloMan]

admit that you're gay and move on.

[GrumpyBear]

Reading this from my female standpoint - How is asking what courses I'm taking or how a test was flirting or intiating anything except conversation? Maybe it's just me but I don't automatically think someone is interested in me by asking about school stuff - it could just mean you're wondering about said test or whether you are taking any of the same classes. Start coversations like that to get to know a person but actually initiating something is more like asking if you want to hang out sometime, pick up lunch together, etc. If the girl says no, she's busy, uninterested whatever that's when you move on. Someone who just talks about school stuff is generally just a friend in my book till it becomes something more by taking that next step.

[chiukit]

well, i think he meant that since these ladies are in his class, he'd use those topics as an icebreaker, which is reasonable and logical...

[GrumpyBear]

Yeah I think it's a logical icebreaker but he never mentioned taking it any further

how often i mean in numbers terms should a guy initate the conversation and be freindly with a girl before he stops and moves on to the next girl

That made me think maybe he was just giving up after those little conversations, which is too soon to even know if the girl is interested most the time.