asian males get the wrong tradeoff

[joe]

seeing all the wm/af couples and more every yr i wonder as a asian male. i got a feeling for most AM unless ur rich or got some great education backing u up-most AF would rather trade off for the WM than the AM. not sure what us AM or i am going to do
the thing is WF wouldn't even want us AM.
i am a CBC chinese and i have a harder time with the CBC who did reject me-proabably b/c i am chinese and she only dates white, than with a pinoy girl who is actually talkin to me, i even had a WF talk to me but not sure if she really is interested.

[Am I tight or not?]

that was totally incomprehensible
congratulations

[hunny]

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[Sovereign]

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[Sovereign]

Sorry about the previous post, but i had to copy Hunny, because it's so funny. Anyway, I understand your frustration about white girls (WF) not liking you... but maybe it's not just because you're an asian guy (AM). It could be a looks thing, an attitude thing etc. I'm an asian guy as well and i'm not rich or particularlysuccessful, but i get some girls that are brown white and asian liking me, albeit, never the right ones. But if a girl likes you for who you are, then that's how its supposed to be. Dont be too hung up on the whole race issue. If you have a good personality and youre half-decent looking, then you'll do ok. Just keep your chin up and be confident in yourself... and don't be afraid to be yourself. I beleive in you! haha hope that helps. By the way, better to type up all the words instead of abbreviating them, because everyone here seems to hate it.

[GrumpyBear]

Originally posted by Sovereign@Oct 29 2004, 06:41 PM
Sorry about the previous post, but i had to copy Hunny, because it's so funny. Anyway, I understand your frustration about white girls (WF) not liking you... but maybe it's not just because you're an asian guy (AM). It could be a looks thing, an attitude thing etc. I'm an asian guy as well and i'm not rich or particularlysuccessful, but i get some girls that are brown white and asian liking me, albeit, never the right ones. But if a girl likes you for who you are, then that's how its supposed to be. Dont be too hung up on the whole race issue. If you have a good personality and youre half-decent looking, then you'll do ok. Just keep your chin up and be confident in yourself... and don't be afraid to be yourself. I beleive in you! haha hope that helps. By the way, better to type up all the words instead of abbreviating them, because everyone here seems to hate it.
I agree; Honestly I would guess your lack of confidence is turning girls off moreso than your ethnicity. While I've not dated any asian men (well I've only had one boyfriend, the one I'm still with) that doesn't mean I'm not attracted to them and I actually know a few couples that are either both asian, or white female and asian male. My best friend (white girl) is crushing hugely on this Korean guy - (unfortunately for her he's gay).

[kuju]

heh.... actually, an asian guy completely hit on me (WF) last week and I frankly told him to shut up.

of course... it was in a statistics tutorial two DAYS before a midterm...

so yeah... not that you're stupid or anything, but sometimes it's simply stupidity!

[Deidre]

Didn't you already make a thread about this?!

Aside from the fact that two girls talked to you (what does that have to do with anything?!)...

[joe]

Originally posted by Sovereign@Oct 30 2004, 02:41 AM
Sorry about the previous post, but i had to copy Hunny, because it's so funny. Anyway, I understand your frustration about white girls (WF) not liking you... but maybe it's not just because you're an asian guy (AM). It could be a looks thing, an attitude thing etc. I'm an asian guy as well and i'm not rich or particularlysuccessful, but i get some girls that are brown white and asian liking me, albeit, never the right ones. But if a girl likes you for who you are, then that's how its supposed to be. Dont be too hung up on the whole race issue. If you have a good personality and youre half-decent looking, then you'll do ok. Just keep your chin up and be confident in yourself... and don't be afraid to be yourself. I beleive in you! haha hope that helps. By the way, better to type up all the words instead of abbreviating them, because everyone here seems to hate it.
yea but what age are u, and what do u do for work. do u make a lot of money or just enough, and where do u meet ur past dates or gfs, where do u meet women.

at most if i ever even get a car it be a old old honda for like 3000-5000 dollars.

[meeso]

Joe, out of curiousity, do you have a small penis?

[kuju]

all I'll say Joe... is that if you don't learn how to type out entire words you're not likely to get many serious replies. "u" is not a word, and it's damn annoying to read.

[vampbarbie]

The reason you're not getting dates is the fact that YOU are too desperate for a girl, any girl, to like you. You're like a small child going "pick me pick me!"

[toychoke]

Originally posted by vampbarbie@Oct 31 2004, 12:33 PM
The reason you're not getting dates is the fact that YOU are too desperate for a girl, any girl, to like you. You're like a small child going "pick me pick me!"
yep. Vampi put it right on the nail. Trust me Joe women aren't as great as you make them out to be in your mind. No offense to the ladies, but the truth is that it's just as hard to find a decent girl for a guy, as it is to find a decent man for a girl.

I'm not saying girls suck, what Im saying is that it's just hard to find someone that actually will match up with you nicely. This mostly comes down to the fact that people are different. For almost any one person, about 95% of the world is not going to fit well into thier little world.

Joe the truth is that you're spending so much time trying to find a girl, that you haven't spent any trying to find yourself. You need to do something to make you feel more comfident about who you are, something that will occupy your time. Right now you're probably just school and work, school and work. So you become depressed because you don't ever think about anything else, other than the fact that you don't have anyone.

Get out there, go do something new. I mean in high school I worked too, but I had all the time in the world, go get into music, politics, reading, backpacking, mountian climbing anything. I know in high school, I was involved in Boy Scouts, and it always offered something to do at least once a month (mostly camping, backpacking, and what not). If that's not for you, get involved in the JSA group (debate club), and go off and get involved in a political campaign for some politician. maybe join a young film students club or hell start one (make it your baby), and go around and film stuff for the hell of it; try to make a movie that you'll feel good about showing to some friends. Just do something to fill up your time, and teach you more about who you are. I mean those are just some of the things I used to do in high school because for the most part high school was really too boring, and way too easy to sleep through and just make A's

You aren't going to attract anyone when you dont' have a clue about how to play your own strengths. Right now you're hoping that some girl will just recognize your strengths. But just like you have a hard time knowing what women think, well girls have just as much crap to dig through to figure out if a guy really likes them. You're biggest problem, is that you elevate women too much. Girls don't want a guy who elevates every girl, what they want is a guy that once they fall for them, will only really elevate them.

[SmOkYpRiNcEsS]

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[chiukit]

dude... where the fuck do you get this from?
i'm an asian guy. i'm eighteen. i work in the kitchen at an outback steakhouse right across the street from me.
im in 2nd year university, at a chemistry-oriented program.

im equally as successful with either asian women or white women.
i probably would be just as successful with any other ethnicity if bothered.
the only reason why im with asian women more is simply preference...
i dont know whats wrong with you, but its most likely your confidence...
and/or lack of experience. youre what.. 23? never had a gf?

[Intelx]

Lol. I know how you feel.

You know, honestly, most asian guys have it bad.

1st, we expect unnecessary inniocence and princess like personality from girls.
2nd, we are shorter.
3rd, some of us have some accent.


if you have all these 3 qualities, you are screwed. :)



Luckily for me, I like a girl / regardless of her past, but for her peronality & beauty, I am 5'11" (decent height for asian), and I have an accent, but ppl understand me fine *^^*


But you have totally wrong idea, if you say a white girl will turn you down on the spot... I agree, (some / few) will do that, JUST because you are asian, but most won't.

[joe]

Originally posted by chiukit@Nov 1 2004, 06:53 AM


dude... where the fuck do you get this from?
i'm an asian guy. i'm eighteen. i work in the kitchen at an outback steakhouse right across the street from me.
im in 2nd year university, at a chemistry-oriented program.

im equally as successful with either asian women or white women.
i probably would be just as successful with any other ethnicity if bothered.
the only reason why im with asian women more is simply preference...
i dont know whats wrong with you, but its most likely your confidence...
and/or lack of experience. youre what.. 23? never had a gf?
yea what happens if they gal u like said no to u then what. u got a nice car right. u probably ask like every gal out , what do u dooooo

[chiukit]

if a girl i liked says no to me, then she says no. what can i do about it?
i live in downtown toronto. it's kinda hard for me to stick around liking just one girl if she doesn't like me back. and it's easy to move on to another girl within the next day.
and no, i don't have a car. i don't even have my full driver's licence yet.
and no, i don't have nice clothes either.
and no, i do NOT ask every girl out. lol. that just reeks of desperation...

what i do? honestly, i haven't asked a girl out in a long time.
most times it's just hanging out with a girl, if im interested in her, i ask her to do something like coffee or dinner or catching a movie. if she seems interested in me then i hang out with her more. and gradually things progress and flirting increases... and you start becoming physically closer, hugging, holding hands... even kissing. "asking people out" is so highschool-ish... when you grow older, more often than not, you simply slip into relationships, not asking for them.