chiba
October 26th, 2004, 12:31 AM
I recently took up polo at my college. I'm a freshman, and our instructor recently graduated from our college. I've been playing for about 3 months now and I've been getting a lot better.
So today, our instructor has been calling us around one by one to get one-on-one "lessons." I was the last person he called, and as I was getting my lesson, everyone started filtering out. Soon, it was just my instructor and one other person, who was starting to leave. He gave me a few tips and it was all very professional; as is true for all our interactions.
Our conversations are friendly and not in the least flirty & there was no apparent sign that I noticed that would make me think he liked me. As I was packing up, he asked me what my schedule looked like tomorrow. I told him I only had one class tomorrow but I had a test the next day.
"Would you like to join me for lunch tomorrow?" He asked. I didn't know what to do b/c I had the impression that he was simply my instructor and I was the pupil because his conversations with me were no different from any conversations he had with others.
I don't know if this is a date or not, or what it means: is it friendly or is it kind of his way of saying, "I think I might like you and this is a date to get to know you better" kind of thing? What's worse is I have a boyfriend and since I don't know what his intentions are (to be my friend or make me into something more), I didn't know whether to say, "I have a boyfriend" (if he didn't mean it as a date) and possibly hurt him by coming across as antisocial or snobbish or say yes and make a new friend (or end up making him think I'm interested in something more). So, this created a double-edged sword; I didn't know what to think so I said yes hoping he meant it as a friend thing.
What are your opinions as to what it could mean?
So today, our instructor has been calling us around one by one to get one-on-one "lessons." I was the last person he called, and as I was getting my lesson, everyone started filtering out. Soon, it was just my instructor and one other person, who was starting to leave. He gave me a few tips and it was all very professional; as is true for all our interactions.
Our conversations are friendly and not in the least flirty & there was no apparent sign that I noticed that would make me think he liked me. As I was packing up, he asked me what my schedule looked like tomorrow. I told him I only had one class tomorrow but I had a test the next day.
"Would you like to join me for lunch tomorrow?" He asked. I didn't know what to do b/c I had the impression that he was simply my instructor and I was the pupil because his conversations with me were no different from any conversations he had with others.
I don't know if this is a date or not, or what it means: is it friendly or is it kind of his way of saying, "I think I might like you and this is a date to get to know you better" kind of thing? What's worse is I have a boyfriend and since I don't know what his intentions are (to be my friend or make me into something more), I didn't know whether to say, "I have a boyfriend" (if he didn't mean it as a date) and possibly hurt him by coming across as antisocial or snobbish or say yes and make a new friend (or end up making him think I'm interested in something more). So, this created a double-edged sword; I didn't know what to think so I said yes hoping he meant it as a friend thing.
What are your opinions as to what it could mean?