So I'm In Jail Again

[Angel547389]

Well, I find myself serving 6 months now, and it sucks. Work Release granted, but still jail. I am only 21, and I just did 2 years. I don't know if I can take this crap anymore. But I am really wondering. I know this Girl, and she wants to be with me, But I don't know if I should start a relationship while I am locked up. What should I do????

[Shocka]

Well, sir, I think you're going to be making a lot of "friends" in jail, and don't you know it, after a few more months, I don't think you'll need to worry about Girls anymore :D

[meeso]

You should probably start by not going to jail... since you screwed that one up, don't know what to tell you..

[Deidre]

You should examine the reasons why you don't think you "should start a relationship while I am locked up". Obviously, those feelings aren't overwhelmingly strong or you wouldn't be here, so you need to figure out where you stand and what is more important to you. . .

. . . and what is the right thing to do. I'm assuming this one isn't married or engaged to be married to someone else within the next week or two -- and is aware of your little "predicament".

[Lone_Raider]

If you can't take it, stop doing whatever it is that's sending you to jail! I mean it's not like your forced to break the law and can't control yourself. I'm 22 and I've never even gotten a single speeding ticket. It's all your own choice. My cousin has been in Prison since 1976, he chose to use coke, then he ended up killing someone while high, he will never get out, but he did it to himself, no one forced him.

[halcyon]

Well, I'll be a little less negative than everyone else because I have an older brother who has been in and out of prison for almost a decade, ranging from a few months to 2.5 years.

It really depends on how well you know this girl. Honestly. 6 months isn't that long of a time when you put things in perspective, however, a lot of people can't hold a regular relationship for that long. My brother has been in the situation where he went to jail when he had a girlfriend and when he started a relationship with a friend. For him, it just never worked out. It's hard on people just getting letters, collect calls, occasional visits at jail/at work. Not to mention, at least in his case, they never knew if he'd do something stupid and go back again.

If you both feel that it's the right thing to do, go for it. Just remember, there's a decent possibility that she'd cheat on you. I know I don't know her, but people get caught in the moment and things happen, especially if they never really spend time with their significant other. There's also a decent possibility that she'll become your best friend and your lifeline outside of the prison. Going to prison shows who your true friends are.

Just don't turn into my brother if you can't "take this crap anymore". The rule of thumb is if you haven't matured by the time you turn 25, then you probably won't at all. Stop doing stupid things to get you into jail. I don't understand why it's so hard for people to consciously think and make *good* decisions for themselves. And I must say, you have yourself a nice prison if you have internet access. . .

[tadaoNakamaru]

So, um, why are you in jail?

[Wolf]

Originally posted by tadaoNakamaru@Oct 18 2004, 02:54 PM
So, um, why are you in jail?
Probably broke the law. Duh.

[goofball]

he fought the law and the law won


anyway, it's my opinion that you not start a relationship. Not because you are in jail, but because you are making the kinds of decisions that land you in jail. Until you can figure out why this is, and stop making those decisions it will be imho extremely difficult to have a mature adult relationship.

[meeso]

remember that whole week thing.. not bringing up a post.... blah blah.. Rule #195 Page 53 Section 3 Paragraph 4 of the moderators bible for therfs.