Am i a stalker?

[crazyb0i]

Ok, so i've been talking to this girl before classes. First time i was walking with a friend and we passed her and my friend said hi to her and then we all just talked for like 20 min. Next day we didn't see her. Next time we saw her and my friend asked her if she was busy this weekend(i asked him to, a bunch of us were gonna go to the mall). She said she didn't know. We forgot to ask for her phone number untill the bell rang and we were late for class so we asked her if her number was in the phone book. She said probably. Next day i didn't talk to her. Day after that me and a different friend started talking to her. She said she had to go to walk to her friend's locker to walk her to class(i've seen her walking with this friend everyday so i'm not sure if this was a blowoff or what). Then i asked if we could come with her, she said ok but she sounded apathetic. When we got to her friend she said something like, "look, i got a stalker." Now when we talked we were having fun, and we used to be friends about 2 years ago, and we've known each other since elementary school, so i don't know if im getting a bit too friendly, too quick. Before i started talking to her again a week ago, i hadn't talked to her since her sweet sixteen a bit less than a year ago. Should i leave her alone? This all in my head? Anything i could do to check? Any advice at all? Thanks in advance.

[toychoke]

Well first off being a stalker in high school is kind of unreal. Especially with how you've described it. You see her in the halls, this could happen whether you want it to or not. It's at school. Stalking implies that you are sneaking around to try and grab a peek, meanwhile you're ashamed of it, so you try to hide and do it without her knowledge.

Secondly, basically depending on her tone of voice, and attitude towards you normally, you could descern two things. One she's not interested, but she realizes that you are. And two is that she realizes that you like her to some degree, but was just making a crack about you being there to her friend.

I'd say either make your move, or back off. I can't tell you if she's interested from the information that you've given me. But I'm just saying that if you don't make a move she'll lose whatever interest she has. Or you can go down the friendship route, were you could spend a good year making a friend and then make your move

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

Note: Route 2 will not work.

;)

[meeso]

and we were late for class so we asked her if her number was in the phone book. She said probably.

Thank you. I haven't laughed that hard in a while. I wish I could've seen that go down in real-time. "Hey baby, what's you ... errr.. hey, are you in the phonebook?" ROFLMAO.

Ok seriously, aside from looking like an ass probably asking if her number was in the phonebook, if she was interested in you, she'd make it apparent. The signs are easy to catch.. Does she smile when she looks at you? That's pretty much the easiest sign to look for.. if she does, you got a shot.. if not, forget about it.

[Rammstein39]

*shrugs* Ive been in that girls shoes before. Ive said that stalker line before too and usually I do it to show my friends "hey this guy is following me around and I dont like it." Im not saying thats how she feels, thats just what I have used it for before.

Why dont u just straight out ask her on a date and then u'll knwo for sure what she thinks of you?

[chiukit]

you might as well just have asked her number than ask her if its in the phonebook. usually girls give out her cellphones unless they live alone. well, from my experience anyway. this helps cos youre only gettin to them, not their parents or whoever else livin' at home. and you can call as late as you want. lol.
anyways, route 2 takes too much effort and patience. so it probably wont work. lol.

[Burro]

what the hell is "route two"

[Crash Override]

Originally posted by toychoke@Oct 3 2004, 10:20 PM
Or you can go down the friendship route, were you could spend a good year making a friend and then make your move
That, gentlemen, is "route two."

Also known as:
Last Exit to the Friend Zone,
Population: YOU
A.K.A. "How about you do all the tedious boyfriend work and I reward you by sleeping with all your friends who don't give a shit about me instead, then come crying to you so you can pick up the pieces and have me do it all over again"-land.

[Sydney123456]

Originally posted by Crash Override@Oct 4 2004, 05:58 PM
That, gentlemen, is "route two."

Also known as:
Last Exit to the Friend Zone,
Population: YOU
A.K.A. "How about you do all the tedious boyfriend work and I reward you by sleeping with all your friends who don't give a shit about me instead, then come crying to you so you can pick up the pieces and have me do it all over again"-land.
Give the man his money for answering the question correctly.

[chiukit]

i just dont feel any sympathy for the guys who walk down that route and complain about her playin' with his head... sigh.

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

Nope. In my eyes it means one of two things:

1) They were too scared to make any moves and missed their opportunity.
2) The girl never liked them in that way in the first place, and they are living in denial.

In my eyes, you let yourself become the friendzone guy. You let yourself get taken for granted. You missed the opportunities and let your analysis paralysis insecurities cripple your chances.

Stop blaming the girl, and start taking responsibility for your own cowardness/ignorance.

[meeso]

You missed the opportunities and let your analysis paralysis insecurities cripple your chances.

Would you agree that's what happens probably 95% of the time?

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

To an extent. I also think that guys who are subject to analysis paralysis aren't all that attractive to girls anyway, because of their lack of selfesteem/confidence. If you're willing to take the chances, and have a confident attitude about it, number 2 is less likely to happen.

[Don Simeone]

Originally posted by Fun Lovin' Criminal@Oct 5 2004, 02:00 PM
analysis paralysis
WHOOPS that's me...:(


anywho...crazyboy...sounds to me like she was making fun of you...i'd say she doesnt like you and she thinks you're a loser for trying...but that's just my opinion

[crazyb0i]

Yeah, i was talking to some friends and they all told me they heard from her friends that shes not interested in dating, dunno if its just for me or whatever, but i got the hint. Thanks for the insight.