Farting...

[dynamiclove]

Okay so i've been with my girl for almost 3 years and well i've never farted in front of her. I mean I'm sure I have when we've been sleeping, but never when we've been awake. And I brought the subject up last night, and she was like, i don't wanna talk about it. I feel so awkward doing it around her, but we have been going out for 3 years. Am I just being weird; is this really a big deal?

[Deidre]

Personally, I see no reason why you should be farting in front of her. If you do infront of everyone else, you may want to think about why you don't infront of her, but eh, in polite society and even not so polite society, it's not something you do infront of other people, regardless of who they are, so why strive for it? I wouldn't care if my boyfriend happened to let one slip, and I don't think it's anything to be embarassed about, but specifically striving to being able to fart infront of other people?

I think TV shows are to blame. Suddenly people think that if you fart infront of someone early in the relationship, it's ruined, and if you don't after a while, it's not serious enough. What the...?

[Onlykrc]

yeah...um, i don't get why u'd want to fart in front of her, but after 3 years if you did i doubt it would destroy the relationship. :eusa_eh:

[GrumpyBear]

I hope that in 30 years my boyfriend still chooses not to fart in front of me. Why? Not because he is uncomfortable around me or anything. It just shows you care that much more if you take the time to go in the bathroom or another room rather than farting in front of the one you love.

Honestly, I'd feel worse about farting in front of my boyfriend than anyone else because it kind of gives off an "I don't care" vibe IMO. Of course if you're asleep you can't help it, if he's sick of course I'd not expect him to leave the room or anything but if it's just an average day it's nice to politely release your gas elsewhere. Sometimes it just happens and I wouldn't bite his head off for it by any means, but I think it's thoughtful to consider your lover's nose.

[halcyon]

I wouldn't be able to marry someone who *didn't* fart in front of me. I just don't think it's something to get embarrassed about. If you share every other intimacy in the world, what's so wrong about a natural bodily function? So what if it smells? You accept someone for everything that they are. I just think it shows a high level of comfort around you. I guess I'm just the odd one. Why hide something that everyone does?

[FiddleStix]

Hah... I front in front of my girl and although she goes "ewwwww" its still funny to both of us. I mean, I don't do it all the time but every now and then I don't see what the problem is in farting in front of your significant other. I mean, i'll have sex with her while she is bleeding, I've hurd her queef while we are having sex. I just don't see how farting is any worse than those two. And even if she farted in front of me I'm sure we would both laugh it off. I think as long as its not a regular occurance its all fun and games.

[hunny]

I guess it depends on the girl. If she 'doesn't want to talk about it' chances are she really doesn't want to hear you fart in front of her.
Personally, I wouldn't like it either.

[Sydney123456]

Originally posted by halcyon@Sep 26 2004, 07:20 PM
I wouldn't be able to marry someone who *didn't* fart in front of me. I just don't think it's something to get embarrassed about. If you share every other intimacy in the world, what's so wrong about a natural bodily function? So what if it smells? You accept someone for everything that they are. I just think it shows a high level of comfort around you. I guess I'm just the odd one. Why hide something that everyone does?
I concur.

I just RECENTLY gained the courage to fart in front of him. WHAT A RELIEF! It's one big joke in our relationship. It doesn't mean I don't respect him, it means that we're comfortable enough around each other to just go ahead and fart in front of each other. Seriously, I would not care if he did it in front of me.

Like being able to just lay aorund naked in your room without hiding the parts you are ashamed of. I absolutely love how comfortable we are with each other. :)

[ittakessome]

farting infront of my boyfriend.... hmm.... i have not. probably will not. not only b/c id be embarassed but why would i? i dont infront of anyone else, so he is no different. i dont think id want him doing that infront of me. just because... its like... i dont go to the bathroom infront of him. (i mean, he'll be in the shower and i'll go. never anything more than #1. hehe.)



its just that... its good to be close, just not too close.

[Tootsie Pop]

Um... its really not a big deal. It's just air. I dont fart in front of my boyfriend... I dont want to nor do i ever really NEED to. but occasionally he might "slip" one out. I dont enjoy it... but it really has nothing to do with our relationship or the way I see him. "Better to let it out and feel the shame than hold it in and feel the pain" he says. But he isnt pacing around trying to fart in front of me wondering if it is ok. He is still polite. We have also been together three years. Its... not a an issue at all.

If she doesnt want to talk about it... then keep your farts to yourself. Concentrate on bigger and better things.

[Rammstein39]

My ex used to do it as a joke and thats just what it was. Id make some remark about him being a typical slob and we'd laugh and thats all. We used to have burping contests too, but thats another topic. I dont think its so bad just as long as you dont make a habit of doing it. I dont see why u feel u need to, but w/e.

[Danae]

I'm not big on bodily functions, or the sharing of those functions in front of...well, anyone. If you were my boyfriend, I probably would have said the same thing to you that your girlfriend did. My ex and I dated for a year and while he did fart in my presence on a regular basis, I did NOT return the favor. Well, maybe like once when he made me laugh really hard. :P

[vampbarbie]

Why is this a subject that you feel you need to discuss as part of your relationship? Some people don't like talking about things like that.

[StrayDog]

I take issue with anyone who takes issue with farting in general. I mean, I personally try to be discreet with it as much as I can, but there are situations where it cannot be helped and you can't expect me to have to stand up and walk away; it just makes it all the more obvious. If I know its gonna be loud and odour free, then so be it.

[hunny]

LOL @ StrayDog!
:biggrin:

That was SUCH a dignified response to a very undignified topic!

[PepsiWonder]

I'm not a big fan of farts, but it happens to everyone. If one slips, oh well, not a big deal. If it's a continous or purposeful thing, though, that's definitely not cool with me. And either way, his gas isn't nearly as smelly as his brother's (who would fart just to annoy us,) so I guess I win in that respect. :D

[Tortuga]

Eh, my fiance and I fart in front of each other on a pretty regular basis. I don't know if that "means something" in our relationship or not, but, we're pretty darn happy...

Tortuga

[falltime]

Hmm..do you fart in front of other people, like people in your family? Do you use the bathroom in front of her, or vice versa? If so, then why not fart in front of her. IMO, if your farts don't smell then you can fart in front of me. My bf has never farted audibly in front of me, but I wouldn't really care if he did. Sometimes I fart and try to hide it but usually you can't hear it and my farts don't really smell. But I guess I still do feel weird about letting one rip loudly in front of him. But eventually it's going to happen and you can't help it. I don't get why your gf "doesn't want to talk about it". It's not as if you're asking to take a dump on her chest.

[PitBullGirl]

i concur and otherwise agree with Halycon and Sidney, (thats as far as i read since a lot of people seem to swing either way)
My boyfriend and i often have this conversation.... i dont know why!!! we just do!! :confused: about why is it okayish to belch in public and say excuse me... but you cant fart in public... and say excuse me without everyone climbing the walls and jumping out windows? a belch can smell just as bad as a fart anyway, and it feckin hurts if you hold it back, and darn it! sometimes you CANT hold it long enough to zip around the corner or go to another room!! When we first got serious he was embarrassed about it and appollogized, and was like "dude... i dont care... dogs dont care if they fart in front of each other, so why should people?" but yeah.... sometimes i tease him and make a fuss about how bad it smells, all in good fun and he knows it. but oddly enough, i uh.. dont fart in front of him. i dont know, i guess i never have had the chance.. but he always points it out when burp in front of him, saying that i rarely ever do that around him, seemed like an event!
so yeah, what Sidney and Halycon said.... you should be comfortable enough to do that in front of the one you love..... if they dump you for farting then you're probably better off without them anyway.

[lemmi]

this topic makes me laugh,
It feels GOOD to let a nice big fart rip - guff away i say :biggrin:

[Jenibear]

Everyone farts.. move on.. I mean really...

So what if you fart in public... it's just methane gas!!!

I used to have to share a bathroom ON A BUS with like 40 different girls. My friend said to me after using the bathroom, "You know.. I give props to whatever girl left that nice big turd, I mean.. I'd claim it but I didn't do it, because geez.. if you can't shit with a bunch of girls on the bus, how the hell are you gonna marry a man? you can only go so long without pooping and having horrid constipation."

We all agreed.. from then on I poop and fart when I gotta.

It's natural, do it, laugh, and move on.

I burped once when my boyfriend and I weren't even dating, I had lasagna, he goes "mmmmm smells like salami" to this day, we laugh and joke about it.