How do i meet girls?

[crazyb0i]

Ok, heres the deal. I'm not very good at meeting girls. I have very few friends who are girls. I've had 3 girl friends but every time they had to approach me and ask me out. Now i wanna try and meet a girl but im not sure how i should go about doing this. I'm in high school now, but im not old enough to drive yet. I was thinking about trying to meet girls at the mall. How would i go about approaching girls at the mall? Should i go with my buddies? What could i say to em? Any tips on meeting girls would be appreciated.

[Aero]

Wait until you can drive, at least.
You really need to focus your attention on schoolwork anyways.

If anything, join a club/group that you enjoy in your high school and find girls there.

[Lone_Raider]

I didn't go out with a girl untill I could drive lol! I never figured out what kids in Jr high did when they said they had girlfriends? What did there mom drive them to the movies? That can't be fun. Anyway you are kind of limited unless you live in a city or something, you could hang out at a coffee shop, or join some clubs like someone mentioned, but then you'll be going on walking dates anyway.

[IGemini]

Man, meeting girls in high school should NOT be a priority. Focus on school work. At your point in your life, it won't be worth it to find anyone.

[connellyg]

sorry you didnt say, were you were from, but my advice, is not to focus on girls, in high school, but wait till you can drink, dont know if thats 18 or 21 were you are, but its helped me,

[crazyb0i]

Well, im not sure i can just give up on girls. I am doing fine in school, that will always be my first priority. I've already been in a couple of relationships and i don't think i can just stop for 2 years, new rule in new york says i don't get lisence till i'm 18. I'm thinking of trying to ask out a girl that i used to be friends with 2 years ago. I was talking with her a bit today before class. Is it really a bad idea to be dating now? I'm a junior in high school, aka, 11th grade, most people seem to be doing it.

[ittakessome]

guys trying to pick up girls at malls = lame. i hate it, its annoying, they are usually scummy. i dont recomend that. and usually the girls that hang out at malls (where i live anyway) are middle schoolers.

[crazyb0i]

Ok, so picking up girls at the mall is lame. Where should i try going, where do 16 year old girls hang out? The girl i was talking to is cool, but i don't have any classes the same as her and i don't hang out with anyone that she hangs out with. Any ideas?

[NYRhockey23]

If you're in high school, the options you pretty much have are class, clubs(such as year book club, band), sports teams. There are some all-age dance clubs you can go to, so that's a possiblity. Since you cant drive, the easiest way is to meet girls IN school, like i mentioned above.

[meeso]

I always made some sort of funny remark, and just sat down where the girl I was interested in was sitting. Sat down, smiled looked her in the face and said "hey, I'm Chris.. "

Highschool was the easy days!

[MuthaFranka]

Bah! Don't listen to them about trying in high school.

High school is a sham, and a farm to weed out the morons from the smart people. Being an over-acheiver in high school will get you nothing "real" in the real world.

Spend high school getting some real world experience and become your own person, you dont need straight A's to get into college, and you don't need to go to Harvard to have a good life. Don't let "them" sell you a bunch of ideas.


Ahhhhhh, on that note...

Meeting girls? Shit, what are you 15?? lol, any "date" you have pre-driving, is no date. It's just practice, but fun practice nonetheless.

[hunny]

You ARE meeting girls. Y ou meet them every day as you go about your life: in classes, and elsewhere. What you're really trying to find out is how to do a little more than just meet them.

Just treat girls like the "people" that we are. Don't set your goals at trying to get with a particular girl. How do you even know you'd want to be with them until you know them a little better? Just talk to them whenever the opportunity arises, and see what develops. You're not going to date every cute girl that you talk to. But eventually if you talk to enough of them you'll find one that really interests you, and then you can move forward a little bit.
Approaching girls at the mall is a bad idea, I agree. Most likely they'll be with their friends and you'll be with yours, so the chance for any conversation is severely limited.
Be patient, go about your life, develop some interests that might actually lead to you meeting a couple more girls. High school is full of girls, right around your age. Work on finding a study buddy or two, or someone that you can kinda flirt with at lunch or in the halls. See what happens.

[toychoke]

I don't know if I completely agree with Hunny there. I mean on one note the truth is that if you focus on one girl, than you get screwed all too often. And if you spread yourself too thin over multiple girls, well they often figure out that you're really just looking for a girl, not them as THE GIRL.

And well, being an honest admirable person that treats girls like a real person gets you practically no where. I mean I'm determined I'll meet some girl down the line that thinks I'm not faking everything. But girls tend to have a hard time trusting a nice guy. They expect men to screw them over, so treating them nicely, gets you labeled as playing them. not to mention I have this theory that people find it easier to date people with problems. Espesically stupid blatant ones, like guys treating them like crap, or women who use sex to control a relationship. It's easier to like someone that has an easily fixed problem, especially if it tends to put you in a position of what would appear to be dominance in the form of taking care of someone. People often attribute love to this idea that they are working hard to change someone. It's not just girls that do this, but guys aswell. It's why women stay with abusive husbands, because it puts them in a position of feeling superior because they don't resort to such things. And on top of that it gives them something to fix.

In a way, I guess I'm just saying that you have to be agressive make it simple that all you really want is something like sex, and push that as your main point. That you'd be easy to please, and easy to sell . Girls don't like Guys that think too much, we are too hard to figure out, and too hard to please. The majority of people are relatively simple minded, so if you give them a puzzle with more than five pieces to it, they give up before even starting.

Hope my rambling help a little.

As for places to meet, Hunny is right, you're meeting girls everyday in school, and all my high school GF's came from girls I just met in everyday class or clubs in school. Well except for one that I met at a concert and we hit it off from there.

[Lone_Raider]

Originally posted by toychoke@Sep 26 2004, 04:28 AM
In a way, I guess I'm just saying that you have to be agressive make it simple that all you really want is something like sex, and push that as your main point. That you'd be easy to please, and easy to sell . Girls don't like Guys that think too much, we are too hard to figure out, and too hard to please. The majority of people are relatively simple minded, so if you give them a puzzle with more than five pieces to it, they give up before even starting.
here.
LOL, so that's my problem! I'm quite complex myself, I often come to new realizations about human existance or preconcieved notions held by the masses at 2 a.m. then scribble them down in my notebook. I'm always questioning the structure of society, or trying to work out a grand scheme to solve the United States/worlds problems. All that on top of my great love of history which not only do I talk about all the time, but I often try to piece together why the people acted in a certain manner, instead of just taking the average persons view of "how could those Germans all follow the Nazi's." Oh that problem is multi faceted and more complex then it appears on the surface and I believe I have the answer! Not to mention my constant attempts to draw a correlation between the fall of Rome and the potential fall of the USA. But back to why I've quoted you lol.

I've literally had women say I was the greatest person they've ever meet. But they wouldn't go out with me! I couldn't figure out why, they loved all my concepts and theories on things, but that's all they loved I guess. Perhaps you have hit the nail on the head toychoke, I'm to complex, I have no visual problems coupled with the fact that I don't drink, smoke or do any drugs. Has nothing to do with religion as I'm not religous, its completely personal. I guess they see nothing to "save" of "fix" on me sometimes and instead prefer someone else who can be more easily mothered.

But I already knew this, I act less complex with everyone I meet now, and I save that stuff for later and introduce it slowly.

[MuthaFranka]

The key is finding a girl with at least similar interests.

That whole "opposites attract" nonsense is just that: nonsense. You will never be happy with somebody you can't communicate with on a deeper level, or somebody you can't find common ground with.

If you're a philosophical type of guy, don't waste your time with ditzy blondes. If you're a materialistic douche that shops at A&F all the time, go find a girl with the same tastes, it's quite simple.

Sorry if i sound like an asshole.