question for the ladies

[JerseyBoy]

how would you want a guy to compliment you?

a) i think you're very attractive (physically)

b ) i love your personality

[ittakessome]

well either one would work and be cute. but not worded so. instead of "i think you're very attractive," it would be better to say it more relaxed and natural.

im not sure which id prefer said to me. either ones are always nice at the right time. (i mean, if a guy was just giving me a line to hit on me, then id rather them just not comment.) but if ive dated a guy a few times, its nice to hear i'm pretty and they fine me interesting. :) i'd probably like to be called pretty first. you dont want to tell a girl you love her personality before you really know her, and if ive only seen a guy a couple of times i think i'd see through that one.

[JerseyBoy]

i ask only cause i have started seeing a girl who isnt a supermodel, but she's cute. but the reason why i'm interested in her is cause her personality. She can see right through me and forces me to be a better person. and when i talk to her, i feel like i can tell her anything w/o her being judgemental.

[jupiter]

Originally posted by JerseyBoy@Sep 10 2004, 10:18 PM
i ask only cause i have started seeing a girl who isnt a supermodel, but she's cute. but the reason why i'm interested in her is cause her personality. She can see right through me and forces me to be a better person. and when i talk to her, i feel like i can tell her anything w/o her being judgemental.
Why don't you tell her that (but not those exact words)? I think something like that would mean more to her than a simple "I think you're beautiful" or "Wow, you have a great personality!"

Ya know?

[vampbarbie]

Either of those lines comes across as really forced and obvious.

I'd rather a guy went 'you have such a cute nose' or 'I love your hair', than sticking to the obvious - 'You're so attractive'.

Personality, again the same. Tell her she makes you laugh, or whatever.

Neither is better than the other as long as its personal.

[Deidre]

Just be honest.

I don't care if you have a BA in psychology, stop your 'analysing' of everything because frankly, you're not analysing anything; you're asking how to play her right so that she responds the way you want her to.

Frankly, if she does see right through you, she'll see right through your 'compliments' too.


A compliment is not a compliment unless it is an honest expression of what you are thinking right then and there. Otherwise it's just a line you've practiced. That's what players do.

[JerseyBoy]

"you're not analysing anything; you're asking how to play her right so that she responds the way you want her to"


WHAT? all i'm doing is saying how i really like her personality. how have i said anything about it being anything other then "an honest expression of how i feel" ?

[ittakessome]

Originally posted by JerseyBoy@Sep 11 2004, 05:18 AM
She can see right through me and forces me to be a better person. and when i talk to her, i feel like i can tell her anything w/o her being judgemental.
that would be a great thing to hear. (maybe without the seeing through part.)

and i agree, if you are going to comment her, make sure its said more natural. say it when you look and her and her beauty just overwhelms you.

:) goodluck with her.

[Deidre]

Originally posted by JerseyBoy@Sep 11 2004, 06:25 PM
WHAT? all i'm doing is saying how i really like her personality. how have i said anything about it being anything other then "an honest expression of how i feel" ?
Read the rest of my post for the answer to that question:

"A compliment is not a compliment unless it is an honest expression of what you are thinking right then and there. Otherwise it's just a line you've practiced."



Secondly, you said that you like her personality, but your question was which a girl likes to hear more "i think you're very attractive (physically)" or "i love your personality", so whether you are with her for her personality or not has really nothing to do with it.

[Crash Override]

Both of those sound lame.

Just be genuine with your compliments, but not too overboard.

[Acuna]

Originally posted by JerseyBoy@Sep 11 2004, 05:18 AM
i ask only cause i have started seeing a girl who isnt a supermodel, but she's cute. but the reason why i'm interested in her is cause her personality. She can see right through me and forces me to be a better person. and when i talk to her, i feel like i can tell her anything w/o her being judgemental.
Why dont you tell her what u just stated in this post? I think your scared of girls or something. :laugh: Yea but what u stated about being around her making you comfortable to talk about things would be a nice compliment because of the fact that its true and you mean it. Let her know that

[Palmer of the Turks]

Originally posted by JerseyBoy@Sep 11 2004, 09:25 AM
WHAT? all i'm doing is saying how i really like her personality.
Then why even mention "I find you attractive physically" AT ALL?

You don't compliment someone on their personality by thinking about telling them they're physically attractive.

Deidre, as usual, nailed it.

Stop thinking. Start doing.
That's what this girl I met 3 days ago told me.
I listened to her.
Now I have a new girlfriend.
Fancy that.

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

Am I the only one that's unamused by Jerseyboy's frequent and irrelevant threads?

[Palmer of the Turks]

You're not alone

[StrayDog]

I'm annoyed. But I also feel sorry for the guy. I guess for others, social skills are quite hard to comprehend.

[lain13ego]

ummm why not just complement what....oh hell everyone already said it, but my guess is that this is another new girl...seriously, relax

[mini696]

The worst thing you can say to anyone (Bloke or Chick) is... "I think your ugly, but you have a nice personality".

Society has forced us into analysing everything anyone says. And this will always cause friction. One person may say "your cute" and mean, "I think your the hottest thing to walk this earth", while another means "Your not the hottest thing, but you have a nice personality".... (Only an example)!!

So to cut a long story short... Tell her what is on your mind right in the moment. If you mean it she'll pick up on what you are saying, and take only positives from what you are saying.

Maybe you have said these things but you aren't sure she understands what you mean. Is that why you want to know the "right way"??


Listen to what I mean.... Not what I say...

[JerseyBoy]

"I'm annoyed. But I also feel sorry for the guy. I guess for others, social skills are quite hard to comprehend"

ya know what, I'm asking a simple question of preference for girls when they are getting compliments. If you don't like it, take a hike!

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

Why don't you take a hike, Mr 'Let's make a new thread for every single little irrelevant question that crosses my bubble-wrapped mind'.

[DiabloMan]

It's possible thay you may be gay

[ittakessome]

why dont you leave him alone and just those who want answer him do so and leave it at that?

[JerseyBoy]

to "Fun Lovin' Criminal"

If I wanted a good laugh, I'd follow you into the john to watch you take a leak.

[Aero]

Well... that was an incoherent comeback.

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

I think that comeback deserves a thread of its own.

[chiukit]

Originally posted by ittakessome@Sep 14 2004, 02:14 PM
why dont you leave him alone and just those who want answer him do so and leave it at that?
i think jerseyboy's gotten so ridiculous (and oh so sad) that almost everyone who replies to any of this threads just wanna bash his head in... or somethin to that effect. and since almost ALL his threads just turn into a flame-festival (like this one), im gonna go ahead and close this one. no good advice is ever going to come in here again anyways. btw fun lovin' criminal, you are one funny guy. keep it up budd.