How to ask her out

[Really_Mike]

Hey all, There is a girl in work i like, and would like to go on a date with her but i cant seem to get anyware with her, i started speaking to her though some guy i work with, its his sister. At first i used to flirt by calling her over and joke with her and things, i started joking with her about us going on a date and things, she used to laugh and walk off.

Over the months i got to talk to her more, and i always flirt with her now, i go and tell her how nice she looks and about certain features of her e.g. eyes, hair etc...
:-) She still looks over at me most of the time but i dont speak to her all that much because i have been moved in work, when i do speak to her i have noticed she never looks at me and even if she does she looks away still talking, she can still see me from were she is, hence looking over at me.

Anyway about 2 weeks ago i asked her out but she just laughed, not in a loud way just more like a giggle, im a bit worried because im always joking with her she might not think i am serious because if i say something nice to her she laughs (giggles) it off, or mentions another subject like 'im so tired' or 'im so bored'. i told her that i was serious and she knows i like her because i told her that too, so did my friend - but she acted the same, is she shy? does she like me that much? Does she know im serious? im confused:-s She doesent really show that much, appeart from laughter :-\

[99redroses]

either she's trying to reject you politely or she still thinks you're kidding... are you absolutely sure she knows you're serious?

[Really_Mike]

Hey, im not sure, i have told her but i got the same response and even if she is trying to reject me she still keeps looking over, i dont understand :s

Should i ask again? or just forget it? or get to know her more first maybe?

Thanx

[Jango_Fett]

Originally posted by Really_Mike@Sep 7 2004, 10:49 AM
Hey, im not sure, i have told her but i got the same response and even if she is trying to reject me she still keeps looking over, i dont understand :s

Should i ask again? or just forget it? or get to know her more first maybe?

Thanx
Hmmm, a tricky situation :confused:

My advice is to go for a third time and if she still giggles, then walk away. It'll be tough, but it'll save you a lot of grief in the long term.

Another thing you can do is start dating other girls and get on with life. She'll see this, and start to realise what she's missing out on. This may sound sneaky, but the fact is that it happens. Women that reject a guy tend to get a jealous when the guy starts dating other women because they realise that they had a chance to be with that guy and they blew it.

(Note: For the record, I'm not being sexist when I highligh women in my post. The very same thing happens to guys as well! I'm simply writing this from a guy perspective) :biggrin:

[Really_Mike]

I have a feeling she will just giggle if i ask her again, i think she giggles because she doesent know what else to say, i have notice she lacks emotion like that and that she cant really hold conversaion, it seems she doesent have much confidence or something, she just makes comments. If this is true then maybe nice comments to her are bad? I want to get to know her more but i dont know how to approach this type of person.

HELP! :(

[Deidre]

Much as I'd hate to say it, maybe if she giggles and changes the subject any time you discuss anything remotely connected to you two going on a date -- maybe she isn't interested?

Sure, it could be insecurity and increndibly low self-esteem ("He's just pulling my leg. No one would ever date me"), but unless you know that she's immensely shy, insecure or never really dated, you don't have any real reason to make such assumptions. Any other reasons? Is she, say, much younger and doesn't think a guy her brother's age would be interested honestly?

Does her brother know and consent to your dating attempts? If so, you could always ask him if she just really is like that or if you should back off.

Don't be the guy who can't take a hint. If she refuses to take you seriously and can't reject you seriously, just move on.