Im wrong no matter what I do

[Rammstein39]

So here I am at college. I have a whole bunch of new guy friends on my team. Im trying to get over an ex also so it makes sense to flirt, be myself and hang out. I see these guys alllll the time and we do a lot together. But none of them have any interest in me. They all like the other girls that hang out with us (they are also my friends). Its like they like everyone else but me. :boohoo:

I dont understand what Im doing wrong. Im outgoing, fun, I get a little giggly and silly sometimes but for some reason they just pick allllllll the other girls over me. I feel like im being obnoxious sometimes but I think thats just me being paranoid. I want to be able to be flirty and get a little attention instead of being passed off as "that other girl." Should I be MORE openly flirty or should I lay off? Do you think this has anything to do with the fact I am trying to get over someone? Im so lost. :eusa_eh:

[toychoke]

Well I guess I could provide some perspective to this. I have a group of friends I hang out with on a regular basis, and in it is this one girl that I actually really like. However, I often get mixed signals from her. Sometimes she'll give signals that would come off as being intersted, and then other times she'll give the impression that she's not.

However, the real point is that I have no problem just asking a girl out that I may not really know, but find attractive. However, I know this girl more personally, so I tend to be a little more cautious when it comes to her.

So it could simply be that since you are friends, the guys in the group that are interested are just afriad to make the first move. They don't want to screw it up, so they spend more time trying to convince themselves that allt eh chess pieces are in place, and that they can make thier move. =P

[Palmer of the Turks]

Not everyone will like you, that goes without saying.

No matter how much, lets say... Deidre may flirt with me, I'm never going to be interested in her that way.

It doesn't have to be that she's doing anything wrong, or that there's anything "wrong" with her. She's an awesome person with a lot of great qualities, and makes a cool friend. But... she's just not my girlfriend-type.

[Rammstein39]

Understandable. But its just that I find it odd that I do a lot of flirting and it seems guys are put off by me. I dunno maybe im just confused.

[Aero]

I don't like women that overflirt. Maybe they're the same.

[hunny]

Stop trying so hard. Don't look at flirting as a means to an end. Just get to know some people there, guys and girls both, and see what develops.
And give it more time. You just started college, you have plenty of time, don't be anxious.