confused over the way a girl is intersted in a guy

[JerseyBoy]

i was talking to some girls at work today and sometimes they say how when they see an attractive guy they cant take their eyes off of him.

does that mean like looking at a guy, but not necessarily smiling? also would you keep glancing over at a guy, if you werent attracted to him?

[Danae]

Oh for pete's sake! You read so much into every little thing!!!! Ahhhhh!!!!!


They look at a guy, they can't take their eyes off of him. Maybe they're smiling, maybe not. I generally do not smile unless the guy looks back at me and doesn't run away screaming :lol:. If I'm not attracted to a guy, I probably won't give him a second look.

[JerseyBoy]

yes, i have a psyhology degree, thats why i look into "EVERY LITTLE THING"

[Aero]

Well, you might want to stop before the populace go psycho on you.

[Danae]

Originally posted by JerseyBoy@Aug 24 2004, 11:06 PM
yes, i have a psyhology degree, thats why i look into "EVERY LITTLE THING"
oh god :laugh: Excuse me and my ignorance... :roll:

[StrayDog]

"Like most intellectuals, he is proving to be very stupid."

-Marquise de Merteuil, Dangerous Liasons

[vampbarbie]

You don't need to make a new post about every little thing. There are plenty of things like this in the archives or if not, incorporate it into one of your other threads.

[Deidre]

It means:
1) that they like to look at handsome men.

It doesn't mean:
1) their entire bodies break into a psychosomatic freeze and they physically can't pry their eyes off a handsome guy.
2) that they smile.
3) that they don't smile.
4) that they keep looking at you after you break off contact with them -- there are a million of reasons to look at someone, such as (but not limited to):
a) they are annoying you
b) they are in your way
c) they are distracting
d) they are talking to you, or you to them

[Applesauce]

"can't take my eyes off of him" is a figure of speech too.

i've glanced at guys cuz they're looking at me, and then they think i'm checking them out. i've glanced at guys cuz they're really, really cute. or wearing something really cool. or they have an ugly hairstyle. and i can't stop staring bcuz it's so damn fugly....or because their clothes are so outlandish, or whatever.

you get my picture? girls look for all different sorts of reasons.

if you think a girl is checking you out, smile back. if she doesn't look away or spontaneously combust, you're in the clear. and a little rejection never hurt anybody eh...so what if you're wrong about some girl...blah blah blah...you get what i mean...

*steps up to podium, clears throat*

p.s. i'm an english specialist with a psych minor. taking psychology, likely you know that cause and effect are hard to ascertain. possibly there is no cause and effect between having a psych degree and being crazy-ass analytical. it could be simply a correlation. meaning you're crazy-ass analytical to begin with, and learning psych just happens to bring it out. :P

*steps off podium and tries to sound not like a snotty psych/english scholar*

[toychoke]

Think about it this way Jersey. When a girl walks by, and let's say she's wearing a dress or a shirt that accents her features. Maybe it's her butt, or her breasts, or maybe there is something about that hair, and those eyes that makes you just want to look again. We've all done it. Seen someone that appealed to us enough physically that we just had to look twice. Ever hear a girl say, that boys got a great butt, or those arms are just so strong. I mean it's just basic sexual attraction. Hell I'll be the first to admit that there have been times when I had to practically break my neck to prevent from looking down at a girl's cleavage.

And people do it in many different ways. There's the blatant I don't care staring, and then there is also the ever so popular "I wasn't looking turn around". But ultimately I think you're starting to worry too much about how you are coming off.

Ultimately it would seem that you are really confused about dating signals. And that you are seeking advice about them. Well for the most part just like everyone else it's a matter of figuring these things out for yourself on a more subconscious level. I mean it's not like you can make this into a computer program were you are full of "IF" "THEN" statements. You kind of have to learn to feel these things out for yourself. Don't be so afriad about walking up and asking a girl out. For the most part they are just as scared of you as you are of them, ironically enough. I recommend that you stop worrying about analyzing every little thing, and just get out there.

[JerseyBoy]

WOW applesauce thanks for that lesson on 'cause and effect', i only had to learn that whole thing when i was doing my "experimental methods" class senior year.

[Acuna]

your a senior....17 or 18 years of age and you need all this help over things involving girls? I find it like almost 3-4 times a week a new thread is up from you...OMG she touched my arm what does that mean??? She gave me her #, should I call it or what??? She asked me out...what kind of shoes should I wear???

Maybe your not going anywhere because you take too long to react to something, its as if youd like to get everyone's opinions on something before taking any action of your own, then finally once you decide to do something its a little too late 8)

[KissTheKimmie]

Actually Acuna, He is 24...

Yes, you can start laughing now. :biggrin:

[StrayDog]

LIke I said, it's called 'social skills'.

[Am I tight or not?]

Originally posted by KissTheKimmie@Aug 27 2004, 10:35 AM
Actually Acuna, He is 24...

Yes, you can start laughing now. :biggrin:
OMG...

that is pathetic

[ProstheticMind]

I would think that someone with a degree in psychology would already know the answer to most of your questions like this. But yeah, seriously, girls like to look at cute guys and guys like to look at cute girls. Someone's mannerisms whilist doing so vary from person to person based on their personality.

For furture reference, if you're wondering about something like this, try thinking about what you would do in that situation and reversing it. (Would you stare at a girl you thought was hot? Glance over every so often? Don't know? Neither do I.)

[hunny]

Originally posted by JerseyBoy@Aug 24 2004, 11:06 PM
yes, i have a psyhology degree, thats why i look into "EVERY LITTLE THING"
Not to be overly picky, but I would think that one should be able to correctly spell psychology, if in fact one has a degree in that area. I mean, come on. Suppose I came on here and said "I have an degree in Englush."

:eusa_eh:

Who'd believe me?

[Fun Lovin' Criminal]

Me.

[JerseyBoy]

you know what kimmie, i havent once put you down, or done anything to personally offend you. yet you jump at the chance to do that to me... big deal if i'm not don juan w/ the ladies, why do you feel the need to tell people to laugh at me? i bet if somebody started laughing at you , you wouldnt appreicate it. grow up !

[ittakessome]

i do kind of feel bad for him. yea some of his posts have obvious answers, but this forum is supposed to help people out with relationships. not bash them because they arent as experienced as we might be. :sadcry: i'm sorry jerseyboy.

[KissTheKimmie]

Not in this post, but in another, you were perfectly rude to me over the stupid age thing. I'm not the only one that thinks your questions are childish, and other people have expressed it as well. What? You’re upset at me because I'm supposed to appreciate the fact that you said I was attractive? Don’t single me out, if you have a problem with people picking on you, you need to stand up and address them all.

You know at first everyone was trying to give you genuine advice, but you obviously aren’t learning anything because you keep flopping to different girls and different situations. People get frustrated when they take the time to try to help you and you don’t seem to heed anything they say. At some point you figure, “ok, maybe he will get it if treat him like the dumb ass he is portraying himself to be.”

I’m really starting to wonder if you’re just pulling those questions out of your ass. Like you want to be interesting, or you want people to think your some kind of girl magnet. If you want to set me straight that would be great, because I am so tired of trying to figure you out. You keep on with being all vague, not answering people’s questions. If you want to prove you’re not the annoying, childish person many of us think you are, then how about you start acting like an adult?

[JerseyBoy]

i never said you should 'appreciate the fact that i called you attractive.' But it was a nice gesture on my part, and doesnt warrant your rudeness and need to put me down.

Why do you feel the need to extinguish the flames of others to keep yours burning bright?

[KissTheKimmie]

What you said, and what I have a problem with have nothing to do with one another.

And your still ignoring everything else I've said. Whatever, I don't know why I cared to begin with.

[JerseyBoy]

" You’re upset at me because I'm supposed to appreciate the fact that you said I was attractive? Don’t single me out"

THEN YOU SAY,

"What you said, and what I have a problem with have nothing to do with one another"



*APPARENTLY, you cant take a compliment graciously. You could have said "thank you' and left it at that, but instead you kept getting your little jabs in. You may be pretty on the outside, but you're ugly on the inside.

[KissTheKimmie]

What the hell!? Your compliment isn't the point of this conversation. The only reason I mentioned it was because I couldn't figure out why else you were upset with me and no one else that has basically told you your acting like an idiot.

Your focusing on the wrong thing, unless of course I was right to begin with and that is why you singled me out.

What you said, and what I have a problem with have nothing to do with one another.

Pardon me, and let me explain that a bit more to you. I am not in your words "being rude" to you because of your comment, I am being the way I am because of what I said before which is:

You know at first everyone was trying to give you genuine advice, but you obviously aren’t learning anything because you keep flopping to different girls and different situations. People get frustrated when they take the time to try to help you and you don’t seem to heed anything they say. At some point you figure, “ok, maybe he will get it if treat him like the dumb ass he is portraying himself to be.”

Can you understand now??????? Forget about the other part because it's not the point, and it wasn't the point in the other post when you said it, and that's why I didn't pay much attention to it. Plus the fact that you were acting the way you were. It seemed more important to try to get you to stop.

And you know, if it were some other guy, one that hasn't been posting about all his little situations where he is going for 5 different girls in less then a week. One that actually seems to take women, and the idea of being serious with one umm.. serious. You come across as a guy that is just looking to have a girl actually like you, and when you said that I saw it as a cry for attention from a girl. I didn't take you seriously, and I didn't want to indulge you. Sorry.




No one else is talking.... I hope your not all just sitting back and enjoying this twisted soap opera. :confused:

[hunny]

*sits back and enjoys the twisted soap opera*

:biggrin:

Actually I see this going nowhere.
Although I feel Kimmie's frustration with this, I think she's probably beating a dead horse.

I will say, though, that anyone with a degree in "psyhology" should have more insight than has been shown in some of these threads.

[KissTheKimmie]

The horse is dead. The horse has been sent to the factory. The horse has been made into dog food. I've bought the dog food. My dog ate it about an hour ago, and she left it in the yard about 10 minutes ago. Sigh........

Yeah hunny, that degree in "psyhology" is all kinds of questionable too.

[toychoke]

AND SCENE.

Good Job Kimmie, and Jersey. Now I have one more amendment for this next take. The audience needs some passion, some desire. I want your anger to work towards a passionate kiss, than slap, than kiss again. Go Go Go

j/k j/k

=P

[JerseyBoy]

just so ya know kimmie, i bring up '5 different girls' is because thats how many i actually had a potential to date. i'm not looking only for a good time, i would LOVE the chance to be in an exclusive relationship with a woman, but so far either the girls arent interested in me, or i dont find the girl that interesting to commit to.

and EXCUSE me for spelling psychology wrong the 1st time, its A FREAKEN typo, I didnt know people arent allowed to make mistakes. If i made that typo in a psychology paper, then yes i should get called on it, but to yell about it when i was typing and half asleep, well SORRY PROFESSOR!

[KissTheKimmie]

Now he's pissed at you too hunny. :biggrin: I'm no longer a minority all my own... woooo

That was great Toy. Gave me a good laugh, and reminded me not to take it too seriously.

Jersey, I'm gonna just let it go right here. I'm sorry that I upset you, and I shall try my hardest to keep from doing so in the future.

[Aero]

Originally posted by JerseyBoy@Sep 2 2004, 09:27 PM
A FREAKEN
Being a shortened version of 'freaking', I believe the more correct spelling here is 'freakin', not 'freaken'.

[Cashew]

Oh, for Christ' sake.

This thread is just pathetic to read.

Having the last word really isn't all that important in the long run. Drop it, EVERYONE, and move on with your lives.

[Am I tight or not?]

Originally posted by Cashew@Sep 3 2004, 01:33 PM
Oh, for Christ' sake.

This thread is just pathetic to read.

Having the last word really isn't all that important in the long run. Drop it, EVERYONE, and move on with your lives.
Cashew, did I ever tell you how fucking hot you are? yes it's totally off topic, shallow and out of the blue, but, damn!

[chiukit]

haha aiton.

anyway, this thread is going nowhere, so im going to close this.

and ps:
jerseyboy, do you realize that youre completely pathetic? why do you think everyone is picking on you? just because you have '5 potential dates' dont mean you come and post all of them. are you so totally inept that you need help in all the different situations? FUCK. youre 24 for fucks sake. you claim you have a degree in fucking psych. so why the fuck are you even here asking for help with something that i believe is so MINOR as GETTING A DATE? im sorry, i just think... you are too fucking sad.

and to everyone else, im sorry i let this thread go on, i just thought it was funny readin jerseyboy's posts. i mean... damn, how sad can someone be?!